Never on a Sunday- Schedule for this Visit

What's this, Sunday doesn't have a topic assigned to it. We write on pre-Monday, we post on Mondays. Then on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. Except when we don't. Yes, Mistress is bound to her quirks and rituals, but then sometimes she just says eh- let's do something different now.
Sundays are not being added to the schedule. This is a one-off. This week will not follow the normal schedule, high probability next week will also have an alternative schedule.
If you have missed the announcement- how have you missed the announcement, aren't you following me everywhere? If you have missed the big announcement, Mistress Cassidy is currently back in Massachusetts. Well, I am about to head to New Hampshire momentarily. I just got in from Rhode Island. Mistress is in New England, and will be here until about the 17th. No, sorry Mistress Dahlia just committed me to a thing on the 17th, looks like I will be here until the 19th.
Where and when can you find me?
I am entirely not sure.
I now have access to a beautiful, and fully equipped dungeon in Manchester, New Hampshire. The available times there are filling up quickly, but there are windows still open on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. I also have a quiet nest in a small town on the south shore of Massachusetts. It is not a professional dungeon, but as you know I travel with a well stocked toy bag and my skill set does not depend on the setting of a scene. I will be attending Twizted Acres Christmas Party this Saturday. Remember please that Twizted Acres is a private venue in central Massachusetts. If you wish to see me there, you will need to arrange to be invited. This can be done via their Fetlife HERE or you may contact me and I will ask on your behalf. Via Fetlife is the more efficient method. Please also remember that Twizted is my downtime. I welcome the opportunity to meet new scene friends, but after the week I know I have ahead of me, I am very much looking forward to time with my long term scene friends.
Will Mistress be on Chaturbate during this trip? 
I most definitely will. When? I have no idea. Mistress has a new.... oh I don't know what term to use here. I see the future, I know what I have found. It is perhaps too soon though to state that here. Let's say instead that the universe gifted me with the most tasteful, beautiful, delightful of treats and I am a generous soul. When the moment is right, perhaps there may even be many right moments, I will be popping on to Chaturbate to share a little. I will do my best to give advanced notice, but you must do your part if you do not want to miss these special moments I am gifting to you.  Contact and follow me on these platforms and watch for my announcements.

VIRTUAL SPACES:

Chaturbate: Mistress can be found on cam most nights after midnight until about 3AM EST

                        HERE

email: cassidycream15@gmail.com

Phone: 207-730-9839

Fetlife: MistressCassidy

Groups on Fetlife:

• https://fetlife.com/groups/175329
• https://fetlife.com/groups/166037

Twitter: Cassidy Cream

Insta: Cassidy Cream

Snap: cassidycream

KIK: Mistresscassidycream

Blog:

https://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/

anyway the wind blows

       Next time I need to plan better. I feel like for as much time as I spend writing lists, I say that a lot. I said that in email the other day. I am pretty sure I said it a couple weeks ago too. It is true. Mondays are the day I post where and when you can find me. Sunday at 7:15 pm, I have no idea where I am going or when I will be there.
      My ocd is quiet, I feel really good about the statements above.
     

I'm really into tarot cards, divination, horoscopes etc. I am a rational person. I feel silly putting stock into what effect a person's birthday has on their personality. But also- I enjoy feeling silly. Whether it is a self-fulfilling prophecy, a spin on the placebo effect or that somehow what the stars are doing on the day one is born has a huge impact on the person you are destined to be, I have no idea. I enjoy these things, that is enough of a reason for me to spend time indulging in them.
       I read my cards almost daily. Last night I pulled a single card from a deck I seldom use. I am not clairvoyant, I just pull a card and read what the accompanying book says that card means.  I want to share a piece of what the book said this card meant. Do you know how much joy the universe gains from being able to give to you? When you delight in what you receive (sic) the universe is fully received by you.  
       It spoke to me. I love to give gifts. I love when I see a thing, and it reminds me that a person I know loves that thing. So I give this thing to them and their eyes go all big and shiny. Giving gifts to adults is a pretty safe thing to do. It might thrill them like I hope, or it might be a miss but they will be polite about it. Giving gifts to kids though, that is the best. It is a higher risk. If the gift is a flop, even kids with great manners are usually unable to hide their disappointment. If it is a hit though, some of them will literally bounce off the walls with their happiness. I love that.

Lately I feel like I work a lot of hours. I wear many hats. I worry a lot. 

That's one way of looking at it, but here is another:

     I have a job I love, and because I excel at it, I am in high demand. I have many skills, and I have found ways to best apply them. I have a many things I care deeply about in my life. I have an abundance of things I care deeply about.
    The universe has given me so much. I have done my best to always recognize that, to be thankful, but perhaps recently I had forgotten to delight in it.  Etiquette dictates that we show gratitude when we receive a gift, but delight shows our sincerity. Delight is what we give back when really this is exactly what I wished for.
        Tomorrow, today when you are reading this, is Monday. I have no idea where I will be. This is the first week of a new month, I have no idea what this month will have in store for me. It is my intention simply to demonstrate my delight.

Ok- Maybe I don't quite look delightful here, but I like it
& it didn't fit anywhere else. 

Did you stay until the very end? Are you on to my tricks now? There is a very high probability of travel in the next couple weeks. I won't ask you to hold your breath this time, but pay attention. 

Promotional Friday: Royalty in the House

It has been another incredibly busy week in Mistress's universe. I made the trip to Virginia Beach as planned. I'm actually still hanging out in this lovely, quiet hotel. I'll be signing in on chaturbate shortly, getting a good night's sleep on this very plush bed and heading home in the morning. I'm writing this on Thursday, but it's Friday's post, this week's promotional post.

Who is this week's feature?

Well this was part of a post I shared on Fetlife a couple weeks ago, My profile lists Princess Gemini as my sister. It is the best description of our relationship. I love her profoundly. I am so grateful for the things I learned while working for and with her last year. But just like my biological sister, the best paths for each of us brought us to different places. Just like my biological sister, I would drop everything if she whispered she needed something from me. But again, just like my bio sister, she is a strong, amazing, capable woman who is unlikely to need more from me than an ear and occasional words of encouragement. The rest of that post can be seen HERE

I check my Facebook memories every night at midnight. OCD, remember? I knew it was coming up soon, but I did not know it was actually going to be today. A year ago today I became Princess Gemini's Facebook friend. A little more than a year ago, I responded to an ad on Fetlife seeking a professional domme to run the dungeon at kink and swinger parties. I didn't know Gemini yet, and I had never attended one of her parties. Ever meet someone who you know that you know already? I have that experience often. With Gemini I actually experienced that before meeting her. I knew we knew each other when I read her ad. About a year ago I began working with Princess Gemini Entertainment, about 6 months ago I stopped. I have heard so many rumors about what happened. I could write the sexiest, most outrageous piece of fiction if I put them all together. I might.  

I loved working with Gemini. I love Gemini. She's been the first person in my life in a really long time who comes up with more outrageous ideas than I do. Like myself, she rarely needs any encouragement to act on them, and she will not hear any discouragement once an outrageous idea has occurred to her. Absolutely fearless. I love that. Want to go skinny dipping? Want to see what's behind the door that says Do Not Enter, Staff Only? Want to see what's on the roof? It's creepy in here, turn on your flashlight. Those are the ones I can share here. Eventually there may be a Fetlife version of this that includes the more risque ideas. Working with Gemini was like attending a sleepover party with your best friends, at Disney Land, with a guest list that included Ron Jeremy, Mr Rogers and Einstein. Yes there was some sex, probably more than you're having and less than you are imagining. Again, maybe another version of this will appear on Fet.  There was far more, let me introduce you to the person who is an expert at that thing you said you were looking for, no finder's fee required. There was follow-up when someone was out of sorts. There were planning meetings, those were my favorite. Everyone on Team Gemini, claiming floor or bed space in Gemini's bedroom just tossing out whatever crazy idea popped into their head for our next party. I would claim a corner of the bed, with my box of pens (when one's lists are color coded, one needs a whole box of pens), calendar, phone and typically 2 notebooks for notes. My To Do List book to put specific tasks into and the idea book, shiny purple for Princess Gemini, for the short hand notes of the crazy ideas that I did my best to turn into reality. 

Why did we part ways? I have heard at least a half a dozen rumors, there are twice as many reality based reasons. They're not nearly as sexy as the rumors. There are only 24 hours in a day, I have tried to have this altered, no one has gotten back to me yet. The truth is simply, what was next and best for me, was in a different direction than what was next and best for Gemini. 

The next and best for me included coming home. The next and best for our Princess includes Las Vegas: 

Help her get there by attending her events and checking out her projects. Oh that will be so hard, going to super cool parties, meeting great people and um...watching adult entertainment.  

Princess, I love you. Thank you for having my back more times than I can count. I am so proud of where you have taken things in the past few months. You are an amazing, strong and fearless woman. I know that you will accomplish everything you have set out to do. I want a postcard from Vegas. I will buy the stamps, and tuck them into your phone case for you. 

Q&A: Dungeons

slave allan asked: You mentioned your desire to have another dungeon in Richmond, Virginia. Would you describe your vision for this dungeon? Also if a reader would like to help with the dungeon, is there anything you would like in particular? 


There was a spelling error in your question allan, please be more attentive. Otherwise, perfect timing for this question. I am once again pro-actively looking for a permanent play space in Richmond. When the timeline didn't work out quite how I had planned for the first two months here, I had to make some adjustments to my plans. The condo my friend made available to me has been the perfect spot for contemplating my navel, regrouping after the drastic changes the past year has seen and planning what comes next. It is less than the perfect place for hosting BDSM sessions. 

I have finished the period of contemplation.
My vision is an attached garage. Attached is preferred to stand alone as I would rather not to have subs trekking across the backyard to reach the restroom. That is one of my only complaints about Safe Haven, that there wasn't a restroom in the space. A typical garage has the things I need, and is the right size. I need structure strong enough to attach hard points. Hard point, a hook or other tie off spot that can support the weight of an adult. At Safe Haven there is a simple, heavy duty chain hanging from the hard point. While it does its job, and one can clip off anywhere along the chain to accommodate people of any height, Mistress is tired of climbing a step ladder in heels. My space will have a pulley system. A pulley system will also allow for a sub to be restrained by his feet if I prefer. Short of having a sub stand on his head, I could not do that with the static chain at Safe Haven. I am all about inversion lately. There's an inversion table on my wishlist, and if a generous subbie doesn't bestow one on me soon, I do think it is going to be my Christmas present to myself.  I need a space that won't be damaged by having dozens of tie of spots along the walls & floors. My dungeon in Taunton had dozens of spots along the baseboard, a perk of being the home owner, I could make holes in the baseboard. I have missed those in the spaces I have utilized over the past 10 years. 
My vision for this space is cozy, warm and rustic. I want to hear the rain of the roof when I session on stormy days. I want it to be dark and cool, in August. 
One of my celebrity crushes is Alton Brown. He's smart, a little sadistic (have you watched Cut Throat Kitchen?) and he can cook, be still my heart. Anyway, back on Good Eats, he had great disdain for items he called uni-taskers. I too strongly dislike things that take up space and can only do one job. My space has to be a multitasker like me. It will be my space to record and broadcast from, and it will lend itself to photo shoots. It is my intention to make it available on Kink B&B (yes, that's a thing! How cool is that?) when I am in New England.  It will be a cozy space for small parties. And as I network here, I will make the space available to other professionals and players in the scene. 
There are several ways friends and fans can contribute if they wish. I have mentioned before that many of my pieces were destroyed while in storage when we moved from Virginia back to Massachusetts. The pieces acquired more recently were either co-owned with or belong to my ex. In an effort to minimize conflict, I relinquished any claim to co-owned items. I am reinvesting as quickly as I can in my own collection, but between moving, and my vanilla responsibilities, my savings and budget are screaming their safe words and begging me to have mercy.  So if you see a piece on my wishlist that you would love to explore with me, I will show my gratitude with an experience you will never forget. When the space is found, the goal is to start the New Year in this new space, I will need help with moving. There will be hardware to install, and heavy things to lift; I am not a damsel but these are skills not in my wheelhouse. Returning to Massachusetts for a visit, as I have tried to plan too many times now, would quiet my savings and budget quite nicely, and one can contribute to that here.  In the spring I will also need a hand in Massachusetts packing what is left of my belongings. As always though, friends support their friends' projects. The best way to do that is to comment, share, and echo my promotions where ever it is appropriate and safe for you to do so. 

Where will you be next Mistress?

Good Monday morning everyone. It's the first Monday of my 46th year, I am so excited to see where it goes. I am writing this at 12:59 AM on what is technically Monday already. But I have shared that quirk before right? As far as I am concerned, if I haven't put my head on my pillow yet it is still the day it was when I woke up. Ergo, it is 12:59 AM on the Monday portion of Sunday evening, or something like that. This is the second to final item on today's (Sunday's) To Do List. I made all the calls, my ads are renewed, the rhythm for the week has been written (extended To Do List) and the first To Do List is 99.9% finished.

Monday's are for updates and schedules.

There should be posts here this week on Monday (super confident that is happening as I am doing it right now), Tuesday's Q&A is outlined, Thursday's teasing voyeuristic post (I have something in mind already) and Friday's promotional post. I do not have someone lined up for Friday yet. I had a couple people in mind, I haven't reached out to any of them yet. Note to Self: add that to Monday's To Do List.

The other half of my virtual schedule: I will be on Chaturbate this week on Monday at Midnight, Tuesday afternoon- shooting for about 2pm, Wednesday I am hoping to sign for a morning session, say around 10 am. Thursday, Friday and Saturday should see me there around Midnight again.

The real world schedule: Monday I could squeeze in a private phone or cam session, but available session time is booked already. Tuesday time on CB could be replaced with time in the dungeon. As I said in my last post, I am heading to Virginia Beach for a couple days. I will be back in RVA Friday afternoon, and there are still a couple appointments open for next weekend.

Before I wrap this up I want to thank everyone for the outpouring of love you showered on me for my birthday. I opted to spend a quiet day with the most important people in my universe. All through out the day my phone would ping from across the room (I was trying to minimize my time online) I would take a quick look and find the sweetest messages. They each meant so much to me. Then later that night the messages were replaced with pictures of smiling faces (and maybe a red bottom) from my friends at Twizted (consented to photos, of course! The no pictures rule only applies to taking photos without consent). I miss you all so much, but it feels great to know that you are thinking of me too.

VIRTUAL SPACES:

Chaturbate: Mistress can be found on cam most nights after midnight until about 3AM EST

Come hang with me on Chaturbate!

This will take you to my room when I am signed on and to Chaturbate's site when I am not. Set up an account, follow me and you will be automatically notified when I sign on. 

email: cassidycream15@gmail.com

Fetlife: MistressCassidy

Groups on Fetlife:

Please note you must have an account with Fetlife.com to access the groups on Fet. The sign-up is simple, and free.

• https://fetlife.com/groups/175329
• https://fetlife.com/groups/166037

Twitter: Cassidy Cream

Insta: Cassidy Cream

Snap: cassidycream

Promotional Friday: My Favorite Player in the Scene

Starting the week with a cold, finishing it with 2 holidays (you didn't forget about Mistress's birthday Saturday, did you?) has lead to my intended posting schedule being thrown off. Monday's where can we find Mistress this week post was out on time, imnsho that is the most important post of any week. Tuesday's Q&A and Thursday's voyeuristic post were skipped. I have been way too busy for my ocd to responded very strongly to that, thankfully. Promotional Fridays though is a new thing. This will be the third post in that category, the other two can be seen here and here. I do not want to skip a week with a new idea. I haven't decided yet if this is will be a year round thing or if it's just here for the holidays. If it's just here for the holidays, I especially do not wish to miss a week.
Besides, it has been my intention to feature my favorite person in the scene this week, me.

Oh Mistress, is your ego really that big? No. Maybe. Sometimes. Yes. Yes, my ego is this big when I am Mistress Cassidy Cream. I am my favorite person in the scene. I have built, refined and perfected this version of myself for nearly 20 years. I am kind of a big deal to me. In 1999, a 27 year old version of me,  agreed to meet a stranger off the internet at the Providence Place Mall, to discuss how he would enjoy being slapped around. I will say it again, in case you have missed it in other posts, this person was absolutely aware that I had no experience in this role. Have I ever mentioned, I still hear from him? We do not have an ongoing dynamic. I think it has been over a decade since I last saw him, but about once a year I get a call or an email from him. I am never, ever going to sleep with you; and you are never ever going to forget me. When I said that in the first post here, did you think I was just posturing? 

Some things have remained consistent since that first scene. I am always honest about my experience with an activity. My firmest limits are still the same, refer back to when I might sleep with you. I pushed on some limits, and verified their absoluteness. There is the silly example of the request for balloon popping. I told that story in my first podcast with Lunchbox, I'll come back & add the link. It's a long story to type and the podcast was so much fun, you should hear it. Yet some limits were not so absolute, and they fell away. For example, in the world outside my dungeon I use kind language, PC language. It took me a long time to recognize the healing a person could experience being taunted by ugly words in a safe space. 

I appreciate that with the changes I have made in the past year, my dedicated submissives may be confused about how to arrange time with me now. My new-to-me subs are likely struggling just translating my unique colloquialisms to muggle-English to see the ways we can spend time together and how to arrange for each.  I see you have been saving Ovaltine labels all year, here I have a decoder ring for you. 

However we know each other, however you found my way here to my blog, I love you. I appreciate your energy in the scene and your presence in my universe. If you think of me from time to time, while I travel and split my time between Virginia and New England, then please follow my blog, leave a comment and let me know. If you miss me, and you'd like the adult versions of the things I share here, follow my Fetlife groups. This is the group I share with Mistress Liberty and Mistress Dahlia, and THIS is my group, Alchemy with Mistress Cassidy. Each of these options are free of charge spaces where you can say hello to me, know that I will see your comment myself and it will fill my heart to know you miss me. I share teasing but tame pics on Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram. I also share the where am I right now notices on those platforms. My vanilla life dictates that my availability to sign on to Chaturbate has to remain pretty fluid. To compensate for that, I always post 5-10 minutes before I sign on to CB on each of those platforms. I recommend following me on 2 or more platforms. I have shared this on Fet already, I hesitated to share it here. It seems my account with Instagram was intentionally targeted recently. I would prefer to believe it was an innocent, accidental flagging of posts. It will be sorted out soon and my account will not remain restricted. In any case, intentional or accidental, some fans lost contact with me as a result. Following me on multiple platforms should insure that doesn't happen to you. At this time I do maintain those accounts myself, but after the holidays I will be transitioning to an auto-posting app. See above, honesty is important to me. I love interacting with everyone in the scene, I love meeting new people, but there are still only 24 hours in a day despite my requests for more. I have to better safe guard my energy if I am going to continue to have it for the activities and the people I love the most. 

My kik groups are going going to transition into premium groups. Of course I am going to stay in groups I am a member of as means of staying in touch with my friends. Nothing will change in those groups, relax Hazey- listen to what Auntie Cassidy is explaining here. My groups, the groups I created & own, those will become premium groups. At this time that includes groups catering to hypnosis, foot worship, and fans of my pics. More will be added as needed. If you are a follower already, you will be allowed to remain while the transition happens but you may be asked to tribute or make room for those that do. The fact is I share adult photos in those groups, sometimes photos I have paid a professional to take. I give micro-sessions and casually share advice and knowledge I paid to learn. I can not continue to do so. I have a very generous nature, but I am giving my energy to strangers and short changing myself, and my dynamics. I can justify exhausting myself, it is an easy thing for a woman like me to do. Short changing my kitten, three days have passed with "Call Hazey" unchecked on my To Do List, that I will never allow to happen again. Anyway, if you are unfamiliar with it, KIK is great. We can text privately or within a group, speak or cam-to-cam and your privacy & security is pretty solid. If someone tries to access your account from another device, it automatically clears your history. Snapchat is similar, and I did consider making that my premium option. But Snap erases as soon as an item is read. I love revisiting great conversations I have had with friends and subbies. KIK allows for  that. So no one will ever see our private conversations, you will be aware immediately if anyone tries and you may hold our conversation indefinitely if you wish. KIK won, Snap lost. Beginning now, those who wish to stay in touch via kik, will send a monthly tribute and then I will add them to the appropriate group. Contact me via email- cassidycream15@gmail.com to arrange your tribute, and if needed I or someone on my team will help you set-up your KIK account.  

The other way to see me no matter where I am physically is on Chaturbate. Link HERE that will take you to the website when I am not signed on, and directly to my room when I am. I am there most nights from Midnight until about 3AM. Again following me on Insta, Twitter & Snap and once you set up a Chaturbate account following me there directly will insure that you know when I am signed on. This week I am going to add Tuesday, day time hours to my schedule- unless I don't. Tuesdays and Thursdays are typically days I spend engaged in real time, private sessions. Since moving to Richmond, my in person sessions have been, as expected, less consistent. So Tuesday may be a cam day or it may continue to be a day for real play. Real play helps Tuesday to be less muggle-rific.
In person sessions, offered as one on one or as an experience as a couple; cuddling, BDSM, or mentoring in nature can be arranged by email. Deposits to insure against cold feet are required from all new-to-me clients.
Finally, my travel schedule. I will be in Virginia Beach this week. It will be a mini workcation I am gifting myself for my birthday. No, I never really just relax. Well there was this one special hour in March, but anyway let's stay focused here. I will be in Virginia beach this week, spending time at the ocean and seeing some new subbie boys. I have a couple more open appointments, if you're a fan from Norfolk, Hampton etc today is your lucky day, contact me now to arrange our time together.
Travel north. Oy vey ist mir I am just not announcing my plans again until they are in motion. I will post from the road when I pass the halfway mark, or maybe that is too tempting to fate too. Maybe I will wait until I drive by the Big Blue Bug. A trip north is on the agenda for December. I could tap my regulars, I could ask that they prepay their session time. Several have offered to already. And how stressed would I have been getting sick last week if I felt like I owed one of my longest, dearest, favored subbies time in the dungeon? The energy in a session is very important to me, and to how I experience my scenes, beginning from a place of feeling like I owe you this time doesn't work for me. So no prepays, no deposits until I am physically there. If you wish to help make this happen, as a birthday gift or because you appreciate the time I share with you here, you are welcome to contribute here: paypal.me/cassidycream 

That's my new Fetlife profile picture. I debated changing my face-obscured photo for a long time. When I choose that one it was with much forethought. I didn't wish to mislead anyone about my age, imagine at 36 I was concerned about how people perceived my age. Bahaha. I didn't want to change the photo constantly, I got a decade of use from it so it was a success on that front. And at that time, full face shots were too much exposure even in a closed, members only forum. This is 46. Well this was 45 and 51 weeks. Untouched, a little contouring yes, but unfiltered. Full face, dropped my legal name here on at least 2 occasions, we are all out and we are owning this space.

People Plan, Gods Laugh...

Just wing it. I had a magnet that said that ages ago. Slave allan reminded me of it when he quoted Of Mice and Men to me the other day on Fetlife.
The other day when I ordered myself to bed-rest hoping I might throw off the cold that began Wednesday night. The cold that altered my plans to return to Massachusetts Thursday. I will do my part to keep the Gods amused, I will continue to plan. But I will also accept that I am where I am meant to be, when I am meant to be there.

So we are in Richmond. The plan, go ahead laugh Zeus and Athena and Horus my most favorite, cackle away. The plan, currently, is to stay through the holidays. The plan is to continue to give all of my energy and focus to building in Richmond. I'm letting go of my anxiety about this. It did seem like the best idea was to go back to Massachusetts, see my regulars, replenish my shrinking savings and come back with a new cushion. Yet every time I am about to put my toothbrush in my purse and head out, the universe loudly says, in Samuel Jackson's voice,"Just sit your ass back down.".
So what are we doing in Virginia? What does giving all of my energy & focus here look like? I've expanded on a component of my sessions and added an entirely new thing. Aftercare is an area of sessions that always concerned me. In play between partners aftercare, in my opinion, never really ends. A scene, an experience can be revisited any time it needs to be. That is impractical and unreasonable in a professional setting. What I have always done is to leave a two hour empty space in my schedule after the end time of all appointments. Depending on the theme, at most it takes an hour for me to clean my dungeon. Sometimes it takes much less. Even for the themes I know will take less, I still leave a two hour block. Then if a session goes a little over, I can allow it. If the sub wants to switch gears when we actually meet, it isn't a big deal. If a client has an emotional response to their experience, we can take as much time as needed to work through it before I put them behind the wheel of their car and send them back to the real world. While I feel that is pretty generous of me, I do not tack on an extra fee for that time, I also feel like sometimes it isn't enough. It is rare for a sub to need that hour immediately after a session. Most clients leave shortly after our time together ends. I am confident that they are fine, ready to go back to their vanilla worlds. What I wonder about is what are they feeling as they are getting ready for bed that night. Or the next day when the marks have faded, or when bruises have set in. My ability to check in with them is pretty limited. I encourage everyone to get in touch if they need to, but it would be inappropriate for me to reach into their vanilla lives to check on them. We'll come back to this in a moment.
I have a friend in Massachusetts who is a professional "cuddler". She offers platonic, wholesome, clothes on affection. I was fascinated. She helps people feel acceptance, loved and yet she doesn't call them dirty, little- well never mind what I call my subs. What a concept. It's interesting but I could never offer that, I'm a smoker. The idea came up again recently. I'm not a smoker anymore, remember when you thought this was interesting? You could totally give this a try now. At first I intended to try to keep it distinct and separate from my BDSM work. My first cuddling client had been in my space for exactly 1 minute when he said, so I googled your phone number and I see you are also a professional dominatrix. This has been echoed by every cuddling client and inquiry since. So much for avoiding crossover.
How does this tie back to aftercare? I haven't had a bdsm client find my cuddling ad yet. If they are googling to check my reputation there is only 1 small cuddling ad in a sea of BDSM ads. I could avoid crossover in that direction for quite some time, I don't wish to though. Telling my clients about it in the course of their session gives me an opportunity to talk about aftercare. It gives me a logical place to reiterate that I recognize the importance of good aftercare, and in a sense it reinforces that they have my consent to reach out should they need more. They don't have to schedule a cuddle session, although they are welcome to if they wish. Just knowing that I offer them, reminds them that the warm moments we shared were just as sincere as the moments of discomfort I gave them. When I put your head in my lap, when I stroked your hair and told you that I was proud of you, that really happened too. Reminding them that their top is also a warm, compassionate person gives them permission to reach out should they need more follow-up.
There is just one more idea I wanted to share here, but I feel like this post has exceeded a reasonable length already.
What's a domme with an idea to do? Just a little tease...

I'm going to introduce a new idea on Chaturbate this week. What is it? Oh you'll have to tune in to find out. What day will I be unveiling it? I'm not sure. People plan, Gods laugh. I am signed on almost every night at about midnight. Pop in, around midnight & see if this is the night.

VIRTUAL SPACES:

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Ready for the Big Announcement?

I said two weeks ago something to the effect of I was reclaiming control of all things. I said last week I would be nailing down dates for my trip north and announcing them Monday. Do you remember? Your word is your wand. That is a mantra from my favorite book. I read it when I was 19, it changed the path of my life. I have purchased about 50 copies of it since then. I sent a copy to Mistress Dahlia just last week. How was I nailing down dates by Monday? I had no idea, but I said it out loud. Your word is your wand. I wrote it down too. Words yield to me. New age mumbo-jumbo, energy manifested, magic & alchemy, blue smoke & mirrors, hard work and goal setting. Who cares which one brings things to fruition? I do them all. Well except smoke, go me.

Have you missed me? How much? I am a teenage boy in the back seat of a car, prove it.

I am silly with excitement. In about 24 hours, Mistress Cassidy is not afraid of some dusting of snow, please stop telling me about it, in 24 hours Mistress Cassidy is jetting north.

It is going to be a whirlwind trip. It hurts to say this, there will be no time for catching up and spending time with friends. Thank you for understanding.

This is the official kick-off of all the other projects I have been hinting at and teasing about for months. Mistress Dahlia and I will be meeting with a venue to start planning our parties. We are meeting with a producer to begin a series of BDSM films; tasteful, sexy, part educational, part erotica. I am also going to begin a series of hypnosis videos. Again reflecting my tastes, and my point of view, they will be tasteful erotica. Do I need to pause here? Is that not commonly known information? My friends and fans know that once upon a time in the vanilla world I was a clinical hypnotherapist, right? Well if you missed it, I was. I have kept my skill set in working order by using it in BDSM sessions, even though I stopped offering my services professionally a decade ago. I have said it before, when asked what my favorites scenes are, I have no go-to reply. I love what I do, all of it. I do however go through cycles of a thing repeating in sessions. Without any obvious rhyme or reason, I will have a string of requests for a specific theme. When this happens, I find myself remembering and expanding my love for that thing. Hypnosis is one that cycles more frequently. I love hypnosis. It lends itself to nearly all of the play I engage in. Hypnosis is a multitasker, like me. The flip side is hypnosis is a thing that takes a bit more energy than average from me. There is more communication with the sub before the session, so that I might hear exactly what their goals and expectations are.  I write a new script for each session, they're all unique. Then in the session itself, I spend around 45 minutes talking continuously to someone who seems to be asleep. The energy exchanged during a hypnosis session is one directional for most of the time together. But then, when the sub has successfully reached their goals, then the energy rushes back to me in their excitement for having had the experience they wanted. Sessions that include hypnosis are a completely different feeling than those that do not. I am so excited to see what happens when I release videos of it.
We have a list, of course we have a list, of many themes for both the hypnosis and the femdomme videos. Narrowing down which ones should be done first will be the hardest part. Leave a comment or message me what you would like to see, if it happens to be on the list already, I'll move it up one spot.

There will be content added to the fan club portion of Chaturbate and I will be signing in when I can. Quite possibly more than my normal schedule, as I will be spending pretty much zero time pretending to be a muggle.

Finally, yes there will be time for private sessions. I planned my schedule to allow for a handful of private sessions. I will not have enough appointments to see everyone this trip, but I couldn't in good conscious say no sessions at all after making my subbies wait so long. Priority scheduling will be given to exhibitionist subbies. I have several, gorgeous and versatile bottoms to play with on film already. I want variety though, and I want to maximize my time in the studio. I want to be exhausted when I close out the day. There may be an opportunity for sessions not on film, but I can not promise that at this time. In any case, if you want to spend time with me during this trip, the time to get in touch is right now.

And you do want to spend time with me, don't you?

For those that stay to the very end of the credits, I love leaving a message for you here. Want to hear a secret? There is another project or two still on the drawing board, announcements to happen sometime after my birthday... I do so love keeping you waiting. 

Voyeuristic Thursday: 10 Weeks of Self-Inflicted Punishment

A kind and patient Mistress Cassidy

The following is slave allan's assignment from last week. If you missed my post last Thursday, his assignment was late, leaving Mistress to write her own post for Thursday at 3 in the morning. On the one hand, allan failed to complete a task by a specific deadline, and he failed to ask for an extension. I am a rather indulgent top. I said that to a very good friend of mine the other day, while her and I do not have a dynamic, she is active in the scene and knows me better than most. She laughed when I said I was indulgent. You cowered before me,I was frightening. <--- my favorite scene from my favorite movie, 100 cool points to whomever identifies it. I send candy to a little who is not My little because it warms my heart when she asks for more spankies please. I take calls from My Hazey kitten at 6 AM, that are not emergencies even after she has been told emergency calls only at that hour. If slave allan had simply asked for an extension, if he had even messaged me within say an hour of the deadline and explained what had happened, I would have said I understand. I would have said that it was OK allan, tend to your responsibilities and I hope you're not too uncomfortable after your procedure. I would have made a note to Myself to follow up and ask allan how he was feeling on Friday. I am typing this on that Friday, it will be next Thursday when this posts. How are you feeling slave?  Perhaps my indulgent nature is not appreciated because it has been awhile since I shared how strict I am in public. At parties we see Mistress Cassidy massage guests with Dreamer and Dancer, the volume seldom going past a moderate 6. On CB we hear Mistress patiently explain to would be subbie boys, please don't use dismissive terms like sweetie to compliment a top, Goddess is more appropriate and My Goddess is not if I haven't claimed you. I am so patient, how do you not know that? On the other hand, allan failed to complete a task. No further explanation or justification is needed for what comes next. 

slave you will not be released from your task. Your task is being expanded. You will continue to give yourself 5

 Mistress having far more fun 

whacks, once a week, on the same day. You are to pick a day and tell me via email within an hour of reading this. If you find you can not complete your task on the day you choose you are to send me an email explaining why and ask permission to swap days. (That should have been understood without me needing to explain that allan) And you will now do 10, You will first do 5 on the spot you last used, and then 5 more on a new spot. Are these written directions clear enough? If for example the last week you gave yourself 5 on your right inner thigh, this week you are to do 5 on your right inner thigh again and then 5 on say your left upper arm. The following week you would begin with your upper arm and then 5 on a fresh spot. You are then to send me an email with THREE sentences only. The post below, while it is very well written allan, it does illustrate that you still have not heard me when I say you need to be more concise. The 3 sentences will 1. verify the task was completed, 2. state where you delivered these slaps, and 3. one statement of your thoughts. You will be released from this task when I feel like releasing you, if ever. Do not ask to be excused from it again. 


Smack, smack, smack, smack, smack is a familiar sound to me. Five whacks applied to my inner thigh with a wooden shower brush once every week is the punishment given to me by Mistress Cassidy. Nine times this ritual has played out. This week being the tenth time. Why do I have to do this to myself, one might ask.  For that, there is no one better to tell you why than Mistress Cassidy herself. Here is the link to her post where I was assigned this task.
 http://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/2018/08/q-tuesday-floggers-and-impact-toys.html

When I started the task I confess I did silently question the punishment. I reread the post because I didn't think I had said something so terribly wrong. Even after rereading the post I said "Really" in my private thoughts. But I did not challenge Mistress's assignment, I just gather up the tools I needed for the task and set myself to it. I stripped completely, pulled on the panties and sat on the edge of my bed. I picked up the brush looked at my target spot and swung. I remember thinking "l know when it is going hit. Where is the anticipation in this? "CRACK" the back of the shower brush connected with flesh. The result was surprising. When the brush first hit I was startled by the noise it made. That commanding thud of the impact and the higher pitch ricochet sound resulting from exploding flesh. I saw my skin turn red and my nerve ending was sending a message to my brain saying "I feel a sting". I brought the brush down equally as hard the second time, having the same reaction and actually saying out loud "Ouch! that hurt". I wimped out on number 3 and more or less just patted the skin. I was afraid of the hit. I immediately felt bad though. As a slave I had a feeling Mistress would disapprove of me holding back. So, on hits 4 and 5 I returned to the intensity of the first two impacts. I marveled at the darkness of the red forming on the impact zone. I then laid back and fought off the urge to brink myself to a release, But I did enjoy the stinging sensation for about 20 minutes before it diminished away. Over the next few weeks, I carried out the routine obediently as a good slave should. At some point, I realized I was looking forward to changing into panties and carrying out my task. I would try every few weeks to change it up and increase the force of the blow. I also started to wonder what it would feel like to strike other areas on my body. I contemplated trying to spank my backside, but I came to a conclusion first. It dawned on me then that I was thinking about this task all wrong. It wasn't a task to get me to like the feeling of spanking myself. No, It was a lesson for me to learn that I chose to be Mistress's slave and in doing so I am to carry out what she demands of me. My servitude is not solely for getting a tickle in my shorts. I knew then and there that I was doing this task, not for sexual gratification. I was spanking my thigh each week so Mistress would be pleased with my effort and hoping in return to hear her say "Good Slave". So for me now as Mistress Cassidy slave, I strive to complete a task not for what reward is in it for me. I complete it because it is what Mistress told me to do, and if she is happy when I am done. Then I did my part right.

 

As for the present task, I have asked Mistress for release from it. You can see the request in her group on FetLife at https://fetlife.com/groups/175329/group_posts/13352079?page=1#group_comment_120208815 Mistress has chosen to have me carry on for now. Tomorrow is a big one for this assignment, it is the tenth week. This time I have been asked to provide pictures of the task while in progress. I also think for week ten I will try an impact or two using the bristle side of the brush. What do you think?