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Showing posts with label Mondays. Monday List. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mondays. Monday List. Show all posts
Monday, July 29, 2019
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Tuesday, April 23, 2019
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Monday, November 19, 2018
People Plan, Gods Laugh...
Just wing it. I had a magnet that said that ages ago. Slave allan reminded me of it when he quoted Of Mice and Men to me the other day on Fetlife.
The other day when I ordered myself to bed-rest hoping I might throw off the cold that began Wednesday night. The cold that altered my plans to return to Massachusetts Thursday. I will do my part to keep the Gods amused, I will continue to plan. But I will also accept that I am where I am meant to be, when I am meant to be there.
So we are in Richmond. The plan, go ahead laugh Zeus and Athena and Horus my most favorite, cackle away. The plan, currently, is to stay through the holidays. The plan is to continue to give all of my energy and focus to building in Richmond. I'm letting go of my anxiety about this. It did seem like the best idea was to go back to Massachusetts, see my regulars, replenish my shrinking savings and come back with a new cushion. Yet every time I am about to put my toothbrush in my purse and head out, the universe loudly says, in Samuel Jackson's voice,"Just sit your ass back down.".
So what are we doing in Virginia? What does giving all of my energy & focus here look like? I've expanded on a component of my sessions and added an entirely new thing. Aftercare is an area of sessions that always concerned me. In play between partners aftercare, in my opinion, never really ends. A scene, an experience can be revisited any time it needs to be. That is impractical and unreasonable in a professional setting. What I have always done is to leave a two hour empty space in my schedule after the end time of all appointments. Depending on the theme, at most it takes an hour for me to clean my dungeon. Sometimes it takes much less. Even for the themes I know will take less, I still leave a two hour block. Then if a session goes a little over, I can allow it. If the sub wants to switch gears when we actually meet, it isn't a big deal. If a client has an emotional response to their experience, we can take as much time as needed to work through it before I put them behind the wheel of their car and send them back to the real world. While I feel that is pretty generous of me, I do not tack on an extra fee for that time, I also feel like sometimes it isn't enough. It is rare for a sub to need that hour immediately after a session. Most clients leave shortly after our time together ends. I am confident that they are fine, ready to go back to their vanilla worlds. What I wonder about is what are they feeling as they are getting ready for bed that night. Or the next day when the marks have faded, or when bruises have set in. My ability to check in with them is pretty limited. I encourage everyone to get in touch if they need to, but it would be inappropriate for me to reach into their vanilla lives to check on them. We'll come back to this in a moment.
I have a friend in Massachusetts who is a professional "cuddler". She offers platonic, wholesome, clothes on affection. I was fascinated. She helps people feel acceptance, loved and yet she doesn't call them dirty, little- well never mind what I call my subs. What a concept. It's interesting but I could never offer that, I'm a smoker. The idea came up again recently. I'm not a smoker anymore, remember when you thought this was interesting? You could totally give this a try now. At first I intended to try to keep it distinct and separate from my BDSM work. My first cuddling client had been in my space for exactly 1 minute when he said, so I googled your phone number and I see you are also a professional dominatrix. This has been echoed by every cuddling client and inquiry since. So much for avoiding crossover.
How does this tie back to aftercare? I haven't had a bdsm client find my cuddling ad yet. If they are googling to check my reputation there is only 1 small cuddling ad in a sea of BDSM ads. I could avoid crossover in that direction for quite some time, I don't wish to though. Telling my clients about it in the course of their session gives me an opportunity to talk about aftercare. It gives me a logical place to reiterate that I recognize the importance of good aftercare, and in a sense it reinforces that they have my consent to reach out should they need more. They don't have to schedule a cuddle session, although they are welcome to if they wish. Just knowing that I offer them, reminds them that the warm moments we shared were just as sincere as the moments of discomfort I gave them. When I put your head in my lap, when I stroked your hair and told you that I was proud of you, that really happened too. Reminding them that their top is also a warm, compassionate person gives them permission to reach out should they need more follow-up.
There is just one more idea I wanted to share here, but I feel like this post has exceeded a reasonable length already.
What's a domme with an idea to do? Just a little tease...
I'm going to introduce a new idea on Chaturbate this week. What is it? Oh you'll have to tune in to find out. What day will I be unveiling it? I'm not sure. People plan, Gods laugh. I am signed on almost every night at about midnight. Pop in, around midnight & see if this is the night.
The other day when I ordered myself to bed-rest hoping I might throw off the cold that began Wednesday night. The cold that altered my plans to return to Massachusetts Thursday. I will do my part to keep the Gods amused, I will continue to plan. But I will also accept that I am where I am meant to be, when I am meant to be there.
So we are in Richmond. The plan, go ahead laugh Zeus and Athena and Horus my most favorite, cackle away. The plan, currently, is to stay through the holidays. The plan is to continue to give all of my energy and focus to building in Richmond. I'm letting go of my anxiety about this. It did seem like the best idea was to go back to Massachusetts, see my regulars, replenish my shrinking savings and come back with a new cushion. Yet every time I am about to put my toothbrush in my purse and head out, the universe loudly says, in Samuel Jackson's voice,"Just sit your ass back down.".
So what are we doing in Virginia? What does giving all of my energy & focus here look like? I've expanded on a component of my sessions and added an entirely new thing. Aftercare is an area of sessions that always concerned me. In play between partners aftercare, in my opinion, never really ends. A scene, an experience can be revisited any time it needs to be. That is impractical and unreasonable in a professional setting. What I have always done is to leave a two hour empty space in my schedule after the end time of all appointments. Depending on the theme, at most it takes an hour for me to clean my dungeon. Sometimes it takes much less. Even for the themes I know will take less, I still leave a two hour block. Then if a session goes a little over, I can allow it. If the sub wants to switch gears when we actually meet, it isn't a big deal. If a client has an emotional response to their experience, we can take as much time as needed to work through it before I put them behind the wheel of their car and send them back to the real world. While I feel that is pretty generous of me, I do not tack on an extra fee for that time, I also feel like sometimes it isn't enough. It is rare for a sub to need that hour immediately after a session. Most clients leave shortly after our time together ends. I am confident that they are fine, ready to go back to their vanilla worlds. What I wonder about is what are they feeling as they are getting ready for bed that night. Or the next day when the marks have faded, or when bruises have set in. My ability to check in with them is pretty limited. I encourage everyone to get in touch if they need to, but it would be inappropriate for me to reach into their vanilla lives to check on them. We'll come back to this in a moment.
I have a friend in Massachusetts who is a professional "cuddler". She offers platonic, wholesome, clothes on affection. I was fascinated. She helps people feel acceptance, loved and yet she doesn't call them dirty, little- well never mind what I call my subs. What a concept. It's interesting but I could never offer that, I'm a smoker. The idea came up again recently. I'm not a smoker anymore, remember when you thought this was interesting? You could totally give this a try now. At first I intended to try to keep it distinct and separate from my BDSM work. My first cuddling client had been in my space for exactly 1 minute when he said, so I googled your phone number and I see you are also a professional dominatrix. This has been echoed by every cuddling client and inquiry since. So much for avoiding crossover.
How does this tie back to aftercare? I haven't had a bdsm client find my cuddling ad yet. If they are googling to check my reputation there is only 1 small cuddling ad in a sea of BDSM ads. I could avoid crossover in that direction for quite some time, I don't wish to though. Telling my clients about it in the course of their session gives me an opportunity to talk about aftercare. It gives me a logical place to reiterate that I recognize the importance of good aftercare, and in a sense it reinforces that they have my consent to reach out should they need more. They don't have to schedule a cuddle session, although they are welcome to if they wish. Just knowing that I offer them, reminds them that the warm moments we shared were just as sincere as the moments of discomfort I gave them. When I put your head in my lap, when I stroked your hair and told you that I was proud of you, that really happened too. Reminding them that their top is also a warm, compassionate person gives them permission to reach out should they need more follow-up.
There is just one more idea I wanted to share here, but I feel like this post has exceeded a reasonable length already.
What's a domme with an idea to do? Just a little tease...
I'm going to introduce a new idea on Chaturbate this week. What is it? Oh you'll have to tune in to find out. What day will I be unveiling it? I'm not sure. People plan, Gods laugh. I am signed on almost every night at about midnight. Pop in, around midnight & see if this is the night.
VIRTUAL SPACES:
Chaturbate: Mistress can be found on cam most nights after midnight until about 3AM EST
https://chaturbate.com/in/?tour=7Bgecampaign=hoETIroom=mistresscassidycream
email: cassidycream15@gmail.com
Fetlife: MistressCassidy
Groups on Fetlife:
- https://fetlife.com/groups/166037
Twitter: Cassidy Cream
Insta: Cassidy Cream
Snap: cassidycream
KIK: Mistresscassidycream
KIK Groups:
- Erotic Hypnosis with Mistress Cassidy Cream
- Financial Domination, Wishlists PayPigs
- RI Footlovers
- Pretty Feet of Massachusetts & RI
Airtightlifestyle.com: Mistress Cassidy
Blog:
https://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, November 14, 2018
Ready for the Big Announcement?
I said two weeks ago something to the effect of I was reclaiming control of all things. I said last week I would be nailing down dates for my trip north and announcing them Monday. Do you remember? Your word is your wand. That is a mantra from my favorite book. I read it when I was 19, it changed the path of my life. I have purchased about 50 copies of it since then. I sent a copy to Mistress Dahlia just last week. How was I nailing down dates by Monday? I had no idea, but I said it out loud. Your word is your wand. I wrote it down too. Words yield to me. New age mumbo-jumbo, energy manifested, magic & alchemy, blue smoke & mirrors, hard work and goal setting. Who cares which one brings things to fruition? I do them all. Well except smoke, go me.
Have you missed me? How much? I am a teenage boy in the back seat of a car, prove it.
I am silly with excitement. In about 24 hours, Mistress Cassidy is not afraid of some dusting of snow, please stop telling me about it, in 24 hours Mistress Cassidy is jetting north.
It is going to be a whirlwind trip. It hurts to say this, there will be no time for catching up and spending time with friends. Thank you for understanding.
This is the official kick-off of all the other projects I have been hinting at and teasing about for months. Mistress Dahlia and I will be meeting with a venue to start planning our parties. We are meeting with a producer to begin a series of BDSM films; tasteful, sexy, part educational, part erotica. I am also going to begin a series of hypnosis videos. Again reflecting my tastes, and my point of view, they will be tasteful erotica. Do I need to pause here? Is that not commonly known information? My friends and fans know that once upon a time in the vanilla world I was a clinical hypnotherapist, right? Well if you missed it, I was. I have kept my skill set in working order by using it in BDSM sessions, even though I stopped offering my services professionally a decade ago. I have said it before, when asked what my favorites scenes are, I have no go-to reply. I love what I do, all of it. I do however go through cycles of a thing repeating in sessions. Without any obvious rhyme or reason, I will have a string of requests for a specific theme. When this happens, I find myself remembering and expanding my love for that thing. Hypnosis is one that cycles more frequently. I love hypnosis. It lends itself to nearly all of the play I engage in. Hypnosis is a multitasker, like me. The flip side is hypnosis is a thing that takes a bit more energy than average from me. There is more communication with the sub before the session, so that I might hear exactly what their goals and expectations are. I write a new script for each session, they're all unique. Then in the session itself, I spend around 45 minutes talking continuously to someone who seems to be asleep. The energy exchanged during a hypnosis session is one directional for most of the time together. But then, when the sub has successfully reached their goals, then the energy rushes back to me in their excitement for having had the experience they wanted. Sessions that include hypnosis are a completely different feeling than those that do not. I am so excited to see what happens when I release videos of it.
We have a list, of course we have a list, of many themes for both the hypnosis and the femdomme videos. Narrowing down which ones should be done first will be the hardest part. Leave a comment or message me what you would like to see, if it happens to be on the list already, I'll move it up one spot.
There will be content added to the fan club portion of Chaturbate and I will be signing in when I can. Quite possibly more than my normal schedule, as I will be spending pretty much zero time pretending to be a muggle.
Finally, yes there will be time for private sessions. I planned my schedule to allow for a handful of private sessions. I will not have enough appointments to see everyone this trip, but I couldn't in good conscious say no sessions at all after making my subbies wait so long. Priority scheduling will be given to exhibitionist subbies. I have several, gorgeous and versatile bottoms to play with on film already. I want variety though, and I want to maximize my time in the studio. I want to be exhausted when I close out the day. There may be an opportunity for sessions not on film, but I can not promise that at this time. In any case, if you want to spend time with me during this trip, the time to get in touch is right now.
Have you missed me? How much? I am a teenage boy in the back seat of a car, prove it.
I am silly with excitement. In about 24 hours, Mistress Cassidy is not afraid of some dusting of snow, please stop telling me about it, in 24 hours Mistress Cassidy is jetting north.
It is going to be a whirlwind trip. It hurts to say this, there will be no time for catching up and spending time with friends. Thank you for understanding.
This is the official kick-off of all the other projects I have been hinting at and teasing about for months. Mistress Dahlia and I will be meeting with a venue to start planning our parties. We are meeting with a producer to begin a series of BDSM films; tasteful, sexy, part educational, part erotica. I am also going to begin a series of hypnosis videos. Again reflecting my tastes, and my point of view, they will be tasteful erotica. Do I need to pause here? Is that not commonly known information? My friends and fans know that once upon a time in the vanilla world I was a clinical hypnotherapist, right? Well if you missed it, I was. I have kept my skill set in working order by using it in BDSM sessions, even though I stopped offering my services professionally a decade ago. I have said it before, when asked what my favorites scenes are, I have no go-to reply. I love what I do, all of it. I do however go through cycles of a thing repeating in sessions. Without any obvious rhyme or reason, I will have a string of requests for a specific theme. When this happens, I find myself remembering and expanding my love for that thing. Hypnosis is one that cycles more frequently. I love hypnosis. It lends itself to nearly all of the play I engage in. Hypnosis is a multitasker, like me. The flip side is hypnosis is a thing that takes a bit more energy than average from me. There is more communication with the sub before the session, so that I might hear exactly what their goals and expectations are. I write a new script for each session, they're all unique. Then in the session itself, I spend around 45 minutes talking continuously to someone who seems to be asleep. The energy exchanged during a hypnosis session is one directional for most of the time together. But then, when the sub has successfully reached their goals, then the energy rushes back to me in their excitement for having had the experience they wanted. Sessions that include hypnosis are a completely different feeling than those that do not. I am so excited to see what happens when I release videos of it.
We have a list, of course we have a list, of many themes for both the hypnosis and the femdomme videos. Narrowing down which ones should be done first will be the hardest part. Leave a comment or message me what you would like to see, if it happens to be on the list already, I'll move it up one spot.
There will be content added to the fan club portion of Chaturbate and I will be signing in when I can. Quite possibly more than my normal schedule, as I will be spending pretty much zero time pretending to be a muggle.
Finally, yes there will be time for private sessions. I planned my schedule to allow for a handful of private sessions. I will not have enough appointments to see everyone this trip, but I couldn't in good conscious say no sessions at all after making my subbies wait so long. Priority scheduling will be given to exhibitionist subbies. I have several, gorgeous and versatile bottoms to play with on film already. I want variety though, and I want to maximize my time in the studio. I want to be exhausted when I close out the day. There may be an opportunity for sessions not on film, but I can not promise that at this time. In any case, if you want to spend time with me during this trip, the time to get in touch is right now.
And you do want to spend time with me, don't you?
For those that stay to the very end of the credits, I love leaving a message for you here. Want to hear a secret? There is another project or two still on the drawing board, announcements to happen sometime after my birthday... I do so love keeping you waiting.
Sunday, October 28, 2018
Do you like it? A Rant.
Mistress is in a mood. Mostly my mood is great. I am tackling my Sunday To Do List, my goal list is 95% checked and a new week starts tomorrow. We all remember that Monday's are my very most favorite day, right?
There's just this small part of my mood that wishes to poke a really sharp pencil in the eye of someone deserving of a pencil in their eye. I play Tori Amos Waitress in these moments. Truly, I believe in peace bitch. I do. But fuck you, you are annoying me and I can not suffer to be annoyed by a pain in the ass like you for another moment. I'll feel bad as soon as I stab you with the aforementioned pencil and then perhaps I can pity you and go back to being kind to you. I believe in peace bitch. The you in this case is just some random nobody on Fetlife. It could be a random nobody that pops into Chaturbate or Instagram or Wal-mart. You, random nobody are not allowed to be a pain in my ass. You are not allowed to ask me if I like it.
I love what I do. Listen I know in top mode all the dommes say, read my profile in it's entirety. Do not contact until you have read xy & z. I have said similar before. It is certainly helpful, and shows good manners if you do. But it is not really needed. You're busy? I get it, I am busy too. A quick scan, she offers impact play, she offers sounds, and she's in my area, perfect where's the contact information. I am perfectly OK with sessions that begin that way. I know that even if you only quick scan my profile, my ad, one entry here on my blog, whatever- one quick scan of anything I sat at the keys & penned will convey what I think is most important in a professional interaction. I love what I do. I am sincere, I am candid, and I am articulate as a mf'er. If you don't hear the respect I have for the community, if you can't hear the reverence that I hold for the scene, if you don't hear the love I have for my calling- you need to have your vision assessed.
Do I like it? There is one person on the planet who is allowed to ask me if I liked a thing related to BDSM. You are not him. Do you like this is a perfectly acceptable question for a Top to ask a bottom. I ask bottoms all the time if they like a thing. Anyone else, anyone presenting as a bottom, sub, slave, etc, asking should recognize how gross of a question it is, how thick with entitlement it is. You're not really asking if I like this activity, you're asking if I liked doing it with you. How dare you question me. I told you I love what I do, that statement does not imply anything positive or negative about how I feel about you. Nor does it need to. Do you ask your hair dresser if she likes cutting your hair? A hairdresser is an artist, called to a profession that's both emotionally and physically demanding. We can reasonably assume that every hair dresser on the planet loves what she does, but she might think you're an ass. If you ask if she likes it, she probably thinks you're an ass. Let me try again. Do you ask the emergency room doctor, the one you threw up on while she was arranging your broken arm for an X-ray if she likes her job? She loves her job. She should. She saves people. She helps people through emergencies. She is a God, and she is compensated well for it. And there are parts that are dangerous, dirty, and emotionally draining. There are times she doesn't like it. Their are patients who are rude, demanding, and ignorant; if she is a professional she treats them with compassion and kindness, but it is perfectly OK if she doesn't also like them.
Truthfully, I also like my job. I probably like you. I recognize that your faux pas are probably simply your unfamiliarity with protocols. Your poor manners, your bad breath, it is OK. We all have our shortcomings. We are sadly usually blind to them. Let me show you, correct you, guide you, gently, into a more pleasing being. Let's make you the best version of yourself. It is going to be messy. It might be emotionally draining. It will probably hurt. We might not like it. Let's do it anyway.
There's just this small part of my mood that wishes to poke a really sharp pencil in the eye of someone deserving of a pencil in their eye. I play Tori Amos Waitress in these moments. Truly, I believe in peace bitch. I do. But fuck you, you are annoying me and I can not suffer to be annoyed by a pain in the ass like you for another moment. I'll feel bad as soon as I stab you with the aforementioned pencil and then perhaps I can pity you and go back to being kind to you. I believe in peace bitch. The you in this case is just some random nobody on Fetlife. It could be a random nobody that pops into Chaturbate or Instagram or Wal-mart. You, random nobody are not allowed to be a pain in my ass. You are not allowed to ask me if I like it.
I love what I do. Listen I know in top mode all the dommes say, read my profile in it's entirety. Do not contact until you have read xy & z. I have said similar before. It is certainly helpful, and shows good manners if you do. But it is not really needed. You're busy? I get it, I am busy too. A quick scan, she offers impact play, she offers sounds, and she's in my area, perfect where's the contact information. I am perfectly OK with sessions that begin that way. I know that even if you only quick scan my profile, my ad, one entry here on my blog, whatever- one quick scan of anything I sat at the keys & penned will convey what I think is most important in a professional interaction. I love what I do. I am sincere, I am candid, and I am articulate as a mf'er. If you don't hear the respect I have for the community, if you can't hear the reverence that I hold for the scene, if you don't hear the love I have for my calling- you need to have your vision assessed.
Do I like it? There is one person on the planet who is allowed to ask me if I liked a thing related to BDSM. You are not him. Do you like this is a perfectly acceptable question for a Top to ask a bottom. I ask bottoms all the time if they like a thing. Anyone else, anyone presenting as a bottom, sub, slave, etc, asking should recognize how gross of a question it is, how thick with entitlement it is. You're not really asking if I like this activity, you're asking if I liked doing it with you. How dare you question me. I told you I love what I do, that statement does not imply anything positive or negative about how I feel about you. Nor does it need to. Do you ask your hair dresser if she likes cutting your hair? A hairdresser is an artist, called to a profession that's both emotionally and physically demanding. We can reasonably assume that every hair dresser on the planet loves what she does, but she might think you're an ass. If you ask if she likes it, she probably thinks you're an ass. Let me try again. Do you ask the emergency room doctor, the one you threw up on while she was arranging your broken arm for an X-ray if she likes her job? She loves her job. She should. She saves people. She helps people through emergencies. She is a God, and she is compensated well for it. And there are parts that are dangerous, dirty, and emotionally draining. There are times she doesn't like it. Their are patients who are rude, demanding, and ignorant; if she is a professional she treats them with compassion and kindness, but it is perfectly OK if she doesn't also like them.
Truthfully, I also like my job. I probably like you. I recognize that your faux pas are probably simply your unfamiliarity with protocols. Your poor manners, your bad breath, it is OK. We all have our shortcomings. We are sadly usually blind to them. Let me show you, correct you, guide you, gently, into a more pleasing being. Let's make you the best version of yourself. It is going to be messy. It might be emotionally draining. It will probably hurt. We might not like it. Let's do it anyway.
Tuesday, July 4, 2017
Happy Fourth
With the fourth falling on a Tuesday this year, it's like having a bonus Monday this week. Note to new friends: Mistress's favorite day of the week is Monday. No really, I <3 Mondays. They are the best day of the week.
So in honor of the pretend Monday, we'll have on Wednesday this week, let's revisit the Monday's List post idea.
Mistress has some needs, and a bulleted list seems the best way to share them.
So in honor of the pretend Monday, we'll have on Wednesday this week, let's revisit the Monday's List post idea.
Mistress has some needs, and a bulleted list seems the best way to share them.
- A craftsman. Mistress would like some new pieces and her regular carpenter is overbooked this summer. Must have samples of work and give impeccable attention to safety and durability.
- A videographer. Mistress wants to explore offering audio recordings, primarily hypnosis recordings, and video clips, video blog entries and clips from my sessions. What I most need help with is setting up a recording space in my playspace and purchasing the right equipment.
- Someone who understands bitcoins and could help me decide if this is a payment option I should explore.
- A real estate agent.
- A web designer. At this point, I need more than a hobbyist.
- Mistress Sarah needs bodies to practice on.
And if you need some motivation, here are some pictures of Mistress Sarah....
Monday, May 22, 2017
My Dominatrix Fantasy verses Real Life as a Dominatrix
In my fantasy life as a dominatrix I might imagine that my day looks something like; wake up at the hour of my choosing, to birds chirping and a breakfast tray of pastries and fresh squeezed juice. Served to me by a sub who bears a striking resemblance to Alton Brown, and is his culinary equal. A Bowie look-a-like draws my bath and sings to me while I soak in a bubble-filled tub that JK Rowling used as the inspiration for describing the bath in the fourth Harry Potter book. Madeleine Stowe's doppelganger lays out my clothing and helps me dress. All the while a team of grooms are hard at work in my stable preparing my pony for a relaxing romp around the grounds and another team of secretaries are screening and scheduling sessions that will amuse and stimulate me for that evening. The grooms and secretaries might resemble Prince, Cynthia Ettinger, Alan Rickman, Gary Oldman and Johnny Depp in a pirate costume; my tastes are eclectic like that. My evening sessions would be a charming X-dresser who wants to be dressed up like a blushing bride and given a lesson in etiquette, followed by a sensory deprivation session with a side of forced smoking, and wrapping up the night I'd have a pain slut with resilient skin who wants to be covered with welts and bruises. Each sub would arrive on time, bearing chocolates and flowers, and they would smell like soap & toothpaste. I would return home to slave-chef Alton serving something new & delicious and all of my celeb impersonating subs would reenact my favorite scenes from my favorite movies. He couldn't quite understand that the charge nurse couldn't make it be yesterday. Thank you very much, Albert Einstein.*
I am blessed. My real world does, in some areas at least, mimic my fantasy life. I spend my free time riding my pony. I am often indulged and treated to masterful meals. The vast majority of my clients are timely, well-groomed and a ball to play with. But at the end of the day, being a dominatrix is my business. It is a career that I love, but there are components to it that are work, just like any other job. I can not delegate screening clients to a sub. It would compromise my clients' privacy and it would be impossible to teach a sub to hear the things I hear when I interact with potential clients. I can not task subs with managing my advertisement. When advertising an adult service, the venues I advertise with have various safety & legal protocols. I am often asked to verify personal information such as my legal name, my residence and even my tax ID information. Even if I had a slave who I trusted with that information, it is actually crossing into some legal gray areas to create an advertisement for another in an adult industry. I only trust myself to clean my gear and playspace to my standards.
So it's back to the trenches for me. Branding, advertising, screening potentials and upkeeping the dungeon. The really cool idea I planned on unveiling a week or so ago? The one I imagine is going to be so much fun when it is up & running? Ya, well, creating a merchant account with a reputable provider who is adult industry friendly is proving a bit more challenging than I thought it would be. I'm in a holding pattern waiting for my site to be screen & approved. The assorted great ideas I have for posts here? They're still shorthand notes on my paper To Do List.
But stay tuned, I'll catch up soon.
* If you can name the movie that quote is from, without using google, I'll publically declare how very cool you must be.
Monday, April 10, 2017
These are a few of my favorite things...
Two of my very favorite things are Mondays and lists.I read an article 20 or more years ago that said a disproportional percentage of people die on Mondays. The author speculated this was because a disproportionate number of people hate their jobs. It's been a long time, I don't recall fact checking the article. Maybe it was all hokum, but it stuck with me all the same. It seems like it could be true. Mondays have always been my favorite day of the week. I vowed to never work a job that I hate and ruin the best day of the week by dying on it some day while stuck in traffic.
Mondays are the best day of the week because it's a new start. Whatever went wrong last week is over, on Monday there is the potential for every thing to go perfectly. Monday is a new notebook and a freshly sharpen pencil.
Which brings me to one of my other favorite things. Lists. I love lists. I am mildly OCD. At the start of the day I find my list reassuring. This is what I am going to do, and I am prepared to do it. At the end of the day my list with a column of neat little checks is a reward. Even items that don't have a check, items that didn't get competed, they're no big deal. There they are ready to be transposed to tomorrow's list. Without a list those items would bounce around in my thoughts and keep me from sleeping until they were completed.
All of this was to say I have a new idea for this blog, an idea that combines my favorite things, a Monday List. Each Monday I will post a list of what's going on in the studio. So without further ado, the first Monday List.
- Available Days: Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday
- New toys: Pink bouncy seat that I believe I have posted a picture of recently
- New Projects: Mistress is starting an ebook tentative release date May 1st
- Looking forward to (scene): a session with a subbie that first contacted me over a decade ago, but was unable to follow through at the time.
- Looking forward to (vanilla): Trail time with my pony :)
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