Are you doing something... sexual right now?

I'm not being provocative, it is quote from my favorite scene in one of my favorite movies.

Secretary Maggie Gyllenhaal 

The movie is Secretary, with (deep sigh) Maggie Gyllenhaal. Isn't she divine? Sorry, Mistress was distracted for a moment there. If you haven't seen the movie, you should- it's smart, sexy and yes at times the story line is a bit problematic but it is light years more entertaining than 32 hues of blue or whatever that  'bdsm' movie is called. Let me share the scene for those that haven't seen it. Maggie's character, Lee Halloway,  has just runaway from trying on her would-be mother-in-law's wedding dress for her upcoming nuptials with the definitely not-kinky, lamb-like Peter. She ran back to her boss/dom, played by James Spader, who is having something of an OCD/mental health crisis himself (it is his character that causes me to use the term problematic over and over again during the movie but that's a review for another day). Spader's character, E. Edward Grey, orders Lee to sit at this desk, with her elbows on the table until he returns. Then the ass goes off to work out, but that's not where I was going. Lee is sitting at this desk, for days,  and the fiance` she just bailed on comes in, rips her away from the desk and asks (accuses) her, "Are you doing something.... sexual right now?" She looks up and says, "Does this look sexual to you?".
Sometimes muggles don't get what I do. Sometimes would-be clients don't get what I do. The most common misconception is that professional domination is perhaps a code word for escort, which of course most people think of as a more polite term for prostitution.
Am I sex worker? Sometimes I help my subs ease their private parts into a metal cage, with or without internal spikes, and slap a padlock on it. Does that sound like something sexual to you?
Until recently I my favorite over-used statement was, I do not engage in anything as pedestrian as sucking and fucking with my submisives. I still don't, I am just trying harder not to judge other people's kinks- if vanilla sucking and fucking do something special for you, who am I to knock it.
Is BDSM just about sex with a kinky twist? I am engaged in several personal BDSM based relationships. I do not wish to be crude but for the sake of clarity I will say it plainly, only one includes sex. Yet they all include an intense level of intimacy. Intense, what do I mean when I say intense? I have what is largely a long distance, service oriented arrangement with a very dear friend of mine. He was actually the person who suggested this subject matter for an entry. I have known him for over a decade. Our friendship spanned a period of life changing personal experiences for each of us, a time when our families grew and a time when we each experienced painful losses. He is having surgery in a few weeks. It is my intention to take a week or maybe 2 off during the busiest season of my job. I am going to travel 600 miles to hold him. I will assist with caring for his family. I will feed him soup, home made.  And will spank, burn, flog or whatever activity he feels will best support & assist his healing whenever he wishes. I will tell him repeatedly that he is my good boy and that I am so proud of him. Does that sound like something sexual to you?
A BDSM session is of course an adult experience. It is often an exploration of fantasies that are sexual nature, but it is more than that. It is an exploration of one's identity, a time to expand or affirm one's boundaries, and  a safe space for exposing one's soul.

Mistress Desperately Needs...

Another vacation.
No, that's not where this was going. I have way too many irons in the fire to escape just yet.
What I actually need is a multi-talented submissive or perhaps several talented submissives.
I need a web designer, professional not hobbyist, preferably with adult content experience. Someone contacted me months ago, they were from North Carolina specifically.I managed to misplace their contact info in the course of the never ending move. I don't know if they follow my blog, but if you're a web designer from NC I'm probably talking about you & you should contact me asap, please. If you're a designer from someplace other than NC that's OK too, contact me.
I also need help with promoting and maintaining my social media accounts. I need help launching a Youtube channel, a Patreon campaign and similar projects. I'd like to find someone interested in doing guest posts on my blog. This can be a one-off or an ongoing project.
I will gladly trade time under my floggers for any of these services and some have the potential to become compensated arrangements.

Catch Me if You Can

Busy season has officially begun, hooray! My calendar is filling up nicely. I am going to the best events, meeting the coolest people and starting a bunch of projects that I am super excited about. Watch for updates on said cool projects soon, but in the mean time you can find me at the following events. You must have a Fetlife account to access the links, but it's super easy to set up an account and if you fancy yourself part of the scene you really need to have a Fetlife account.

Girls Only Sleepover with Princess-Geminihttps://fetlife.com/events/657843

Friday, April 27, 2018 · 3:00 PM –
Saturday, April 28, 2018 ·12:00 PM 

Flowerween - Chains Galore!https://fetlife.com/events/654579
Saturday, April 28, 2018 · 7:00 PM – 2:00 AM

2nd Annual Aprilweenhttps://fetlife.com/events/651585
Saturday, April 28, 2018 · 8:00 PM – 3:00 AM

https://fetlife.com/events/657855

Oh did you notice I have myself committed to two events on the same day and a third that overlaps the other two? I wasn't playing when I said it was busy season. 

Sunday April 29th 

Private sessions available in my private, central Mass, dungeon. 

Monday April 30th 

Traveling to Newport RI to play tourist for the day with a couple girlfriends. Would welcome an indulgent subbie companion to help keep us amused. 

Stoughton Munch
Wednesday, May 02, 2018 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM 

https://fetlife.com/events/657145
Princess Gemini's: May the 4th Be With You
Friday, May 04, 2018 · 9:00 PM – 2:00 AM

https://fetlife.com/events/658175
Princess-Gemini presents Purgatory Swingers & Fetish Newbie night
Wednesday, May 09, 2018 · 9:00 PM – 1:00 AM

https://fetlife.com/events/657854
Princess-Gemini's Providence Munch Free Video Game Arcade BAR
Wednesday, May 16, 2018 · 8:00 PM –11:00 PM

There are so many more events that need to be added here but Mistress is tired and still lacks a media manager. Come out to one of the weekend's parties, and watch this space for updates.

Eye Candy to make sure you make it all the way til the end of the post. I have the very best life and the very best job on the planet 

VIRTUAL SPACES:

Fetlife.com: MistressCassidy
email: cassidycream15@gmail.com
Twitter: Cassidy Cream
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KIK: Mistresscassidycream
Airtightlifestyle.com: Mistress Cassidy

TEXT ONLY: 401-287-2877

don't try to call me at that number, it is for text ONLY

and of course my currently defunct website www.cassidycream.com that I desperately need the assistance of web designer to get back up.

Girls Girls Girls

A few months back I did a Q&A with slave allan that included a question about sessioning with women. At the time I replied, honestly, I had barely any experience sessioning with women. As a professional offering one on one sessions, I simply rarely had inquiries from women. Over the years I contemplated why that was many times. Is it that women do not frequent the places I advertise? Is it that my ads are not welcoming to women? Is it that women are simply not inclined to see a professional dominatrix? I suspect all of those play a part. It has always bothered me. It isn't about who I am most attracted to, if that were the driving force behind the sessions I agree to I would only see subs who have a mouth like David Bowie's or bear a striking resemblance Maggie Gyllenhaal. My dissatisfaction about not sessioning with women was that I know I offer an amazing experience, and I wished to share that with those of my gender too.

Hmm, these all look like female people to me. There are many things I love about working for Princess Gemini Enterprises. One of the things I love the most is that we are an adult company owned  by a woman. Now in fairness, Mista_Jay, Princess Gemini's husband & partner does an incredible amount of work to make our parties perfect too, but it is Gemini who is in the spotlight. It is Gemini who is out, loud and proud, with no apologies, owning that this is her party literally & figuratively. Another thing I love is that our core staff is three men, seven women. That ratio extends out to our contractors and even our vendors. We are a pro-woman, body positive, consent driven, adult business. I don't know how much time you've spent in the adult industry, but in the corners I've visited we are a rarity. 

At the risk of sounding a little new age woo-hoo-y, I believe our guests can feel that the energy of our parties and events is different. I believe the reason I average four scenes with women for every one with a man at our events is because of this different vibe we put off. I love that at every event I am tapped by woman after woman, sometimes shyly, sometimes boldly, asking if I can make some time to flog them. I love that after every event I have emails and texts from the women I have scened with offering feedback, asking question, and thanking me again for the experience I helped them have. Now that I have found the platform to speak to a female audience, women contact me for private sessions now too. Still not nearly at the rate men do, but it's a start. 

We have event coming up this Friday that I am so excited about...

It is for our crew and select female guests. I hope that it is screaming success and becomes a regular event. Our team is filled with women with big personalities, there is nothing snarky in that observation and I am not an exception to it. We have some really amazing projects just kicking off. We have each been keeping an incredibly hectic schedule, and we know it is not easing up anytime soon.  I have had some major upheavals & changes in my vanilla world recently. Our emotions are sometimes very close to the surface and sometimes they bubble right over too. I am not making any apologies for that, our emotional investment in Princess Gemini Enterprises is a testament to how much we believe in our vision. The Girls Night Sleepover should prove to be a chance to move past the minor but jarring bumps we have hit a few times and to kick off spring ready for the best party in New England to be better than ever and go further than before.