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Monday, April 29, 2019
Sometimes It Doesn't Snow in April
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Monday, November 19, 2018
People Plan, Gods Laugh...
Just wing it. I had a magnet that said that ages ago. Slave allan reminded me of it when he quoted Of Mice and Men to me the other day on Fetlife.
The other day when I ordered myself to bed-rest hoping I might throw off the cold that began Wednesday night. The cold that altered my plans to return to Massachusetts Thursday. I will do my part to keep the Gods amused, I will continue to plan. But I will also accept that I am where I am meant to be, when I am meant to be there.
So we are in Richmond. The plan, go ahead laugh Zeus and Athena and Horus my most favorite, cackle away. The plan, currently, is to stay through the holidays. The plan is to continue to give all of my energy and focus to building in Richmond. I'm letting go of my anxiety about this. It did seem like the best idea was to go back to Massachusetts, see my regulars, replenish my shrinking savings and come back with a new cushion. Yet every time I am about to put my toothbrush in my purse and head out, the universe loudly says, in Samuel Jackson's voice,"Just sit your ass back down.".
So what are we doing in Virginia? What does giving all of my energy & focus here look like? I've expanded on a component of my sessions and added an entirely new thing. Aftercare is an area of sessions that always concerned me. In play between partners aftercare, in my opinion, never really ends. A scene, an experience can be revisited any time it needs to be. That is impractical and unreasonable in a professional setting. What I have always done is to leave a two hour empty space in my schedule after the end time of all appointments. Depending on the theme, at most it takes an hour for me to clean my dungeon. Sometimes it takes much less. Even for the themes I know will take less, I still leave a two hour block. Then if a session goes a little over, I can allow it. If the sub wants to switch gears when we actually meet, it isn't a big deal. If a client has an emotional response to their experience, we can take as much time as needed to work through it before I put them behind the wheel of their car and send them back to the real world. While I feel that is pretty generous of me, I do not tack on an extra fee for that time, I also feel like sometimes it isn't enough. It is rare for a sub to need that hour immediately after a session. Most clients leave shortly after our time together ends. I am confident that they are fine, ready to go back to their vanilla worlds. What I wonder about is what are they feeling as they are getting ready for bed that night. Or the next day when the marks have faded, or when bruises have set in. My ability to check in with them is pretty limited. I encourage everyone to get in touch if they need to, but it would be inappropriate for me to reach into their vanilla lives to check on them. We'll come back to this in a moment.
I have a friend in Massachusetts who is a professional "cuddler". She offers platonic, wholesome, clothes on affection. I was fascinated. She helps people feel acceptance, loved and yet she doesn't call them dirty, little- well never mind what I call my subs. What a concept. It's interesting but I could never offer that, I'm a smoker. The idea came up again recently. I'm not a smoker anymore, remember when you thought this was interesting? You could totally give this a try now. At first I intended to try to keep it distinct and separate from my BDSM work. My first cuddling client had been in my space for exactly 1 minute when he said, so I googled your phone number and I see you are also a professional dominatrix. This has been echoed by every cuddling client and inquiry since. So much for avoiding crossover.
How does this tie back to aftercare? I haven't had a bdsm client find my cuddling ad yet. If they are googling to check my reputation there is only 1 small cuddling ad in a sea of BDSM ads. I could avoid crossover in that direction for quite some time, I don't wish to though. Telling my clients about it in the course of their session gives me an opportunity to talk about aftercare. It gives me a logical place to reiterate that I recognize the importance of good aftercare, and in a sense it reinforces that they have my consent to reach out should they need more. They don't have to schedule a cuddle session, although they are welcome to if they wish. Just knowing that I offer them, reminds them that the warm moments we shared were just as sincere as the moments of discomfort I gave them. When I put your head in my lap, when I stroked your hair and told you that I was proud of you, that really happened too. Reminding them that their top is also a warm, compassionate person gives them permission to reach out should they need more follow-up.
There is just one more idea I wanted to share here, but I feel like this post has exceeded a reasonable length already.
What's a domme with an idea to do? Just a little tease...
I'm going to introduce a new idea on Chaturbate this week. What is it? Oh you'll have to tune in to find out. What day will I be unveiling it? I'm not sure. People plan, Gods laugh. I am signed on almost every night at about midnight. Pop in, around midnight & see if this is the night.
The other day when I ordered myself to bed-rest hoping I might throw off the cold that began Wednesday night. The cold that altered my plans to return to Massachusetts Thursday. I will do my part to keep the Gods amused, I will continue to plan. But I will also accept that I am where I am meant to be, when I am meant to be there.
So we are in Richmond. The plan, go ahead laugh Zeus and Athena and Horus my most favorite, cackle away. The plan, currently, is to stay through the holidays. The plan is to continue to give all of my energy and focus to building in Richmond. I'm letting go of my anxiety about this. It did seem like the best idea was to go back to Massachusetts, see my regulars, replenish my shrinking savings and come back with a new cushion. Yet every time I am about to put my toothbrush in my purse and head out, the universe loudly says, in Samuel Jackson's voice,"Just sit your ass back down.".
So what are we doing in Virginia? What does giving all of my energy & focus here look like? I've expanded on a component of my sessions and added an entirely new thing. Aftercare is an area of sessions that always concerned me. In play between partners aftercare, in my opinion, never really ends. A scene, an experience can be revisited any time it needs to be. That is impractical and unreasonable in a professional setting. What I have always done is to leave a two hour empty space in my schedule after the end time of all appointments. Depending on the theme, at most it takes an hour for me to clean my dungeon. Sometimes it takes much less. Even for the themes I know will take less, I still leave a two hour block. Then if a session goes a little over, I can allow it. If the sub wants to switch gears when we actually meet, it isn't a big deal. If a client has an emotional response to their experience, we can take as much time as needed to work through it before I put them behind the wheel of their car and send them back to the real world. While I feel that is pretty generous of me, I do not tack on an extra fee for that time, I also feel like sometimes it isn't enough. It is rare for a sub to need that hour immediately after a session. Most clients leave shortly after our time together ends. I am confident that they are fine, ready to go back to their vanilla worlds. What I wonder about is what are they feeling as they are getting ready for bed that night. Or the next day when the marks have faded, or when bruises have set in. My ability to check in with them is pretty limited. I encourage everyone to get in touch if they need to, but it would be inappropriate for me to reach into their vanilla lives to check on them. We'll come back to this in a moment.
I have a friend in Massachusetts who is a professional "cuddler". She offers platonic, wholesome, clothes on affection. I was fascinated. She helps people feel acceptance, loved and yet she doesn't call them dirty, little- well never mind what I call my subs. What a concept. It's interesting but I could never offer that, I'm a smoker. The idea came up again recently. I'm not a smoker anymore, remember when you thought this was interesting? You could totally give this a try now. At first I intended to try to keep it distinct and separate from my BDSM work. My first cuddling client had been in my space for exactly 1 minute when he said, so I googled your phone number and I see you are also a professional dominatrix. This has been echoed by every cuddling client and inquiry since. So much for avoiding crossover.
How does this tie back to aftercare? I haven't had a bdsm client find my cuddling ad yet. If they are googling to check my reputation there is only 1 small cuddling ad in a sea of BDSM ads. I could avoid crossover in that direction for quite some time, I don't wish to though. Telling my clients about it in the course of their session gives me an opportunity to talk about aftercare. It gives me a logical place to reiterate that I recognize the importance of good aftercare, and in a sense it reinforces that they have my consent to reach out should they need more. They don't have to schedule a cuddle session, although they are welcome to if they wish. Just knowing that I offer them, reminds them that the warm moments we shared were just as sincere as the moments of discomfort I gave them. When I put your head in my lap, when I stroked your hair and told you that I was proud of you, that really happened too. Reminding them that their top is also a warm, compassionate person gives them permission to reach out should they need more follow-up.
There is just one more idea I wanted to share here, but I feel like this post has exceeded a reasonable length already.
What's a domme with an idea to do? Just a little tease...
I'm going to introduce a new idea on Chaturbate this week. What is it? Oh you'll have to tune in to find out. What day will I be unveiling it? I'm not sure. People plan, Gods laugh. I am signed on almost every night at about midnight. Pop in, around midnight & see if this is the night.
VIRTUAL SPACES:
Chaturbate: Mistress can be found on cam most nights after midnight until about 3AM EST
https://chaturbate.com/in/?tour=7Bgecampaign=hoETIroom=mistresscassidycream
email: cassidycream15@gmail.com
Fetlife: MistressCassidy
Groups on Fetlife:
- https://fetlife.com/groups/166037
Twitter: Cassidy Cream
Insta: Cassidy Cream
Snap: cassidycream
KIK: Mistresscassidycream
KIK Groups:
- Erotic Hypnosis with Mistress Cassidy Cream
- Financial Domination, Wishlists PayPigs
- RI Footlovers
- Pretty Feet of Massachusetts & RI
Airtightlifestyle.com: Mistress Cassidy
Blog:
https://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/
Monday, August 6, 2018
Where to Find Mistress Cassidy this Week
Let it be known that Mistress is sitting at the keys on Sunday evening updating my schedule, writing entries and purring with happiness after the most wonderful weekend in recent memory. Wednesday, remember I have explained this before My weekend begins on Wednesdays, saw me in the studio with my good friend Lunchbagg. He is an aspiring musician, and host of a fun podcast hosted in Providence. Expect some cross-promoting links to be posted in another entry this week. Lunch and his crew are muggles, but very open to learning about the scene. Mistress may have turned one into an explorer. I have a new goal list for August, all about making moving in September go as smoothly as possible and Thursday some time was invested in those projects. Friday I saw a new subbie I suspect I will see again. And of course Saturday was spent at Twizted Acres, where for the first time in months nearly all of the regulars were in attendance. There were a few notable exceptions, it is still summer and kinksters take vacations too. I missed my friend who reenacts the Buffalo Bill scene when Goodbye Horses plays on my playlist, and his pretty, energetic subbie. I missed Mistress X and our late night chats. My favorite glass artist and her smoke show partner were not able to attend. I was hoping a certain newbie would be returning this week, but sadly she did not. It is unfortunate that this was the week they missed, because the house was jumping all night. I am pretty sure that every body this week had a scene of significance in the course of the night. Today I napped, and prepped for my most favorite day of the week; Monday. And shh, Mistress tries not to kiss and tell so don't go telling people about this; but through all of this wonderfulness, at the most perfect moments and completely unexpectedly my phone would ping and I would find my top's smiling face and thoughtful messages waiting for me. I suspect my decompression, my drop in adrenaline will be a gentle slope this week and I will navigate life in the vanilla world smoothly until I am back in my real world next.
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| A wonderful night at Twizted Acres with My Hazey July 2018 |
On to the purpose of this post, where to find Mistress this week.
Monday: Mistress will be far too busy with something far too special to have time for you. Feel free to email me how much you miss me.
Tuesday: Mistress will be at Safe Haven. The day is filling in quickly, but I do still have some availability.
Wednesday: Again I will be at Safe Haven, I may have time for you if you're quick to schedule.
Thursday: Foot party day! Mistress and several of her most awesome friends will be hosting a small, invite only cwnm foot worshiping party on Thursday. Is that a newb in the back asking what a cwnm is? Clothed woman, naked male; see you learned a new thing you're less of a newb now. Which of my awesome friends will be there? We shall see for sure on Thursday, but my Hazey, Mistress Dahlia, Mistress Liberty, Mistress X (which is not her scene name, it's the moniker I gave her until I can verify that her personal & professional scene name are the same), Miss Sunshyne and the lovely Keypup have all expressed a hope that they will be there. I will edit with the Fetlife event page once said Fetlife event page has been created. If you wish for an invite do not wait for the event page to be created, email me now cassidycream15@gmail.com. There is a hard cap on guests and again guests are vetted, you must give me enough time to do so. Also of note, on the day Mistress hosts a theme party that theme is available for private, intro sessions of 20 minutes at a special rate.
Friday: Mistress will be at Safe Haven performing at House of Pain's Fire and Ice party. I am so excited for this event. Secret sharing, Mistress has a great fondness both in scenes and privately for ice play. August 10th is sure to be plenty hot enough for an amazing ice scene and I am flipping through my contacts looking for the right body to create this scene with.
Saturday: You know where I will be on Saturday, right? Where is Mistress nearly every Saturday. Hanging with the coolest of the cool kids at Twizted Acres. Do you want to be a cool kid? I may entertain bringing a guest, contact soon if you wish to be considered.
VIRTUAL
SPACES:
email: cassidycream15@gmail.com
Twitter: Cassidy Cream
Insta: Cassidy Cream
Snap: cassidycream
KIK: Mistresscassidycream
Airtightlifestyle.com: Mistress Cassidy
Blog:
https://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/
email: cassidycream15@gmail.com
Twitter: Cassidy Cream
Insta: Cassidy Cream
Snap: cassidycream
KIK: Mistresscassidycream
Airtightlifestyle.com: Mistress Cassidy
Blog:
https://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, June 20, 2018
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