Catching Up Part 1

Omigoodness, how amazing was May 2019? I think I am going to make a notation in my calendar so when time travel is a thing I will remember that it was quite possibly the best month ever and I'll want to be extra mindful not to create a paradox. Unless in the paradox universe all that changes is the last season of Game of Thrones.
Instead of my normal Monday where can you find me post, I'm going to time travel in the only fashion available to me at this time, and share all the yummy moments you missed in the past couple weeks.  Oh sorry for you, you should follow my blog, groups & platforms more closely if you want to be in the loop.  Or you should submit more fully if you want to be part of these moments.
A few weeks ago my top said that he was going to be someplace practically on another planet and suggested that I meet him there. Have I mentioned how conflicted and full each of our schedules are? My overly full schedule though, like everything else in my universe (or nearly everything) bends the knee (so angry about GoT). Where was I? Yes sir, on my knees. What? That can't be right. No, my schedule was bending for me. My top said he could carve out some time in his too full schedule and I started banging on my calendar until I thought I could make it work too.
But could I really make it work? I have a lot of specialized responsibilities. I can't just tap any muggle or call up Kelly's Temp Service and say yes, I'll need a dominatrix on Tuesday, who cooks from scratch using only locally sourced produce, to step into my shoes for a few days. But it so happens I know a dominatrix who knows the value of bone broth and free range eggs. Bonus, she loves me. Mistress Dahlia and I began hammering out a visit and at some point it became clear that really we needed another person to make this work. Our favorite Panda stepped up to fill in the rest of what was needed.
Let's pause here for a moment to appreciate this is the rewards of building meaningful, healthy, and complex dynamics. In all things I give my all, having partners and friends that do the same, fills me with so much that it rarely feels like work.
How much of my time with my top am I going to share with you little voyeurs? I haven't quite decided yet. Let's pin it & talk about my party now.

Shortly after settling in here I was introduced to an amazing local Dominatrix, Lady X of House of Femdom. House of Femdom, among many other things, hosts welcoming parties for local and visiting Dommes. Lady X, her partner Mistress Katie, and their well-trained house subs put together a top-notch evening of pampering, and playing to introduce local subs to new-to-the-area dominants.  Mistress X has a wicked imagination, and she devised so many naughty games for the subbies to compete for our attentions. The submissive guests reflected a range of experience levels. I got to play with amusing betas that yelped when they saw a clamp and experienced masochists that took my lashings and thanked me as welts formed on their flesh. My party was so special; another moment when I was able to pause and reflect on everything I love about being a professional dominant. This is the community I am a part of, and these are the people I am blessed to spend my time with.

Overlapping the weekend of my party, our Panda had to go home. I wish I was able to carve some play time or bring her to an event during her stay. For a self-proclaimed brat, she is such a solid and helpful friend. You were missed so much Panda, thank you again and again for all you did.
Dahlia and I were then able to focus on some behind the scenes stuff.  How many times have I said that she is amazing? I haven't said it half as often as I have thought it. She is amazing. She tended to everything I value with the same level of thoughtfulness and devotion that I vanilla at. When I returned, my home was spotless and fresh flowers were in every room. She managed my business so that my trip could be truly down time. And she did this while bouncing that booty to Cardi B and singing along, bitches is mad, bitches is trash err, Oscar the Grouch, Seeing me win, they gotta hurt, ooh ouch. Said when the see me, what they gon do? Bitch, not from the couch. She's everything. After unpacking, and a moment to rest my feet. They are still humming, thank you sir. What? Oops, sidetracked again. After a moment to decompress, there were schedules to coordinate. Events and launch dates were penciled on calendars. Ideas for content were considered, and pinned.

Dahlia and my top are my point and counterpoint in all things. Neither are my echo chamber, I know how good my coffee is Jules, I buy the motherfucking coffee. I have no need of an echo chamber. It is rare, but what I have a need for is someone to say, you've put a lot of energy into this and it isn't proving worth your time. Or more often, to say that idea last week, that was brilliant, why isn't it in motion yet. There's a thing I have debated with myself far too long, when I said it out loud, my muse and my top agreed with me. The work-cations to Massachusetts are not the best investment of my time. I will not be returning to Massachusetts this summer. When I do return, whenever that may be, I will be wearing my tourist shirt. It will not be announced publicly and I will no longer try to juggle downtime and work time. If you are devoted to me, if you wish to serve me, you will do so on my schedule here in Paradise.
Omi, how long has this become? A quick edit suggests there isn't much I want to cut. Listen if George RRRRRR Martinson can use every word in the English language 10,000 times to tell a story of how everything burns, (could have been summed up with, totes wicked hot) I can use this many to share the best month ever. I'm not quite done, but I am quite tired. I know, you're already waiting on a part two of the post on Long Distance Dynamics. Mistress needs a nap. You will also wait to hear about my surprise visitor, Mistress Dahlia's birthday bash and maybe, if you beg & I am feeling especially exhibition-y, a little taste of how tops play when they get actual downtime. You're welcome. 

I Love Living in the Future

This is another of those entries that have been on the idea board for some time. I have decided it will be in two parts. The second will share my thoughts on how to have a successful long distant dynamic.  The title came to me like 2 months ago. I was in my bed early after a very busy day, but I still had to tend my nutritional needs. I placed my second order ever with Uber Eats, and realized I didn't even have to get up to grab my purse because my card info was stored in my phone. Spontaneously, and with absolute sincerity, the title burst from my mouth. It may have included an F-bomb. That's it Cassidy, skip turning into your mother and go directly to channeling your grandmother. Gather the TNG'ers around and teach them of the hardships of life back in the stone age. When a lazy dinner meant having to call the pizza place on the telephone, that may have been wired to a wall in a room other than your bedroom, and how you had to have paper money in your wallet when the driver arrived.

Then tell them about your first long distance relationships. When to keep in touch meant paying $99 a month, in addition to your base rate, for 1 hour of talk time. If I recall correctly it was $1.00 per minute after the first 60. Or one could put pen to paper, proclaim their devotion and share the minutia of their day in words. For a mere 25 cents the postal service would take up to an ounce of your words to your beloved anywhere, rain or shine. Of course it would be a week later that your beloved would hear your words. I did love writing to my long distance partners and I still do. Thoughts shared on paper will always hold a special place for me, I love words. My long distance partners of long ago, were often a bit quieter on paper. In my first long distance relationships, mismatched budgets, schedules and inclination to express one's self on paper sometimes left me questioning if my partner so far away thought of me as often as I thought of them.

Yet the people I shared those relationships with are, in varying capacities, still in my life today. It seems to me now that a person who would invest even a couple words via a call or card, when there is little to no irl time, valued any and all time spent together. 

All of the words above have been written a half a dozen times. This is the spot where I realize the post is going to go all Dear Diary if I continue to revisit thoughts of people on Memory Lane, and that is not where I am intending to go today.

Today I intend to talk about now. I intend to talk about the amazing, complex, long distance dynamics I have now, and how they are enhanced by the distance that separates us. 

Let's start with recognizing the word that is pluralized. Dynamics. I suppose this may have been an option for some people 20+ years ago. Incredibly progressive, bold people, who were able to find other like minded partners without the help of the internet. While I have always been quite bold and progressive, finding like minded partners was not a thing I was able to do as a young adult. I once tried diligently to explain to my Texas boyfriend that it was perfectly reasonable I should also have a Massachusetts boyfriend. Both my Texas and Massachusetts best friends agreed with Texas boyfriend that I was completely unreasonable. Today my top understands my needs, and encourages anything that is best for me. My muse and partner supports my other dynamics. She brings my pet to scene  and vanilla events so my sub knows she is not forgotten in my absence. My partner's primary partner teases me, in ways I love, with video chats during their play time. Not only would I literally not know these people I love if not for meeting them through virtual channels first, none of us would have the support to explore these alternative paths if not for having digital communities to share with and learn from. 

Of course I would like to spend more time in person with these people I love, but I recognize there would be many trade-offs. From a distance, my pet appreciates the minutes I carve from my day to share with her. How neglected would she feel if I were down the street but still only had minutes in a day for her? Those minutes are just as scarce in my life no matter where I am. My partner is a dominant, take-charge woman. From a distance, when we share ideas for managing our vanilla responsibilities and our professional lives, it is helpful. If we were sharing a home, she may not understand that there is actually only one way to fold a towel correctly. My top has a schedule as full and as variable as my own. I have no desire to neglect or feel neglected. At this time, these relationships occupy precisely the right amount of space. The time I spend virtually and in person with each is special, valued, and magical.  

All Good Things Happen in Threes

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Voyeuristic Thursday: 10 Weeks of Self-Inflicted Punishment

A kind and patient Mistress Cassidy

The following is slave allan's assignment from last week. If you missed my post last Thursday, his assignment was late, leaving Mistress to write her own post for Thursday at 3 in the morning. On the one hand, allan failed to complete a task by a specific deadline, and he failed to ask for an extension. I am a rather indulgent top. I said that to a very good friend of mine the other day, while her and I do not have a dynamic, she is active in the scene and knows me better than most. She laughed when I said I was indulgent. You cowered before me,I was frightening. <--- my favorite scene from my favorite movie, 100 cool points to whomever identifies it. I send candy to a little who is not My little because it warms my heart when she asks for more spankies please. I take calls from My Hazey kitten at 6 AM, that are not emergencies even after she has been told emergency calls only at that hour. If slave allan had simply asked for an extension, if he had even messaged me within say an hour of the deadline and explained what had happened, I would have said I understand. I would have said that it was OK allan, tend to your responsibilities and I hope you're not too uncomfortable after your procedure. I would have made a note to Myself to follow up and ask allan how he was feeling on Friday. I am typing this on that Friday, it will be next Thursday when this posts. How are you feeling slave?  Perhaps my indulgent nature is not appreciated because it has been awhile since I shared how strict I am in public. At parties we see Mistress Cassidy massage guests with Dreamer and Dancer, the volume seldom going past a moderate 6. On CB we hear Mistress patiently explain to would be subbie boys, please don't use dismissive terms like sweetie to compliment a top, Goddess is more appropriate and My Goddess is not if I haven't claimed you. I am so patient, how do you not know that? On the other hand, allan failed to complete a task. No further explanation or justification is needed for what comes next. 

slave you will not be released from your task. Your task is being expanded. You will continue to give yourself 5

 Mistress having far more fun 

whacks, once a week, on the same day. You are to pick a day and tell me via email within an hour of reading this. If you find you can not complete your task on the day you choose you are to send me an email explaining why and ask permission to swap days. (That should have been understood without me needing to explain that allan) And you will now do 10, You will first do 5 on the spot you last used, and then 5 more on a new spot. Are these written directions clear enough? If for example the last week you gave yourself 5 on your right inner thigh, this week you are to do 5 on your right inner thigh again and then 5 on say your left upper arm. The following week you would begin with your upper arm and then 5 on a fresh spot. You are then to send me an email with THREE sentences only. The post below, while it is very well written allan, it does illustrate that you still have not heard me when I say you need to be more concise. The 3 sentences will 1. verify the task was completed, 2. state where you delivered these slaps, and 3. one statement of your thoughts. You will be released from this task when I feel like releasing you, if ever. Do not ask to be excused from it again. 


Smack, smack, smack, smack, smack is a familiar sound to me. Five whacks applied to my inner thigh with a wooden shower brush once every week is the punishment given to me by Mistress Cassidy. Nine times this ritual has played out. This week being the tenth time. Why do I have to do this to myself, one might ask.  For that, there is no one better to tell you why than Mistress Cassidy herself. Here is the link to her post where I was assigned this task.
 http://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/2018/08/q-tuesday-floggers-and-impact-toys.html

When I started the task I confess I did silently question the punishment. I reread the post because I didn't think I had said something so terribly wrong. Even after rereading the post I said "Really" in my private thoughts. But I did not challenge Mistress's assignment, I just gather up the tools I needed for the task and set myself to it. I stripped completely, pulled on the panties and sat on the edge of my bed. I picked up the brush looked at my target spot and swung. I remember thinking "l know when it is going hit. Where is the anticipation in this? "CRACK" the back of the shower brush connected with flesh. The result was surprising. When the brush first hit I was startled by the noise it made. That commanding thud of the impact and the higher pitch ricochet sound resulting from exploding flesh. I saw my skin turn red and my nerve ending was sending a message to my brain saying "I feel a sting". I brought the brush down equally as hard the second time, having the same reaction and actually saying out loud "Ouch! that hurt". I wimped out on number 3 and more or less just patted the skin. I was afraid of the hit. I immediately felt bad though. As a slave I had a feeling Mistress would disapprove of me holding back. So, on hits 4 and 5 I returned to the intensity of the first two impacts. I marveled at the darkness of the red forming on the impact zone. I then laid back and fought off the urge to brink myself to a release, But I did enjoy the stinging sensation for about 20 minutes before it diminished away. Over the next few weeks, I carried out the routine obediently as a good slave should. At some point, I realized I was looking forward to changing into panties and carrying out my task. I would try every few weeks to change it up and increase the force of the blow. I also started to wonder what it would feel like to strike other areas on my body. I contemplated trying to spank my backside, but I came to a conclusion first. It dawned on me then that I was thinking about this task all wrong. It wasn't a task to get me to like the feeling of spanking myself. No, It was a lesson for me to learn that I chose to be Mistress's slave and in doing so I am to carry out what she demands of me. My servitude is not solely for getting a tickle in my shorts. I knew then and there that I was doing this task, not for sexual gratification. I was spanking my thigh each week so Mistress would be pleased with my effort and hoping in return to hear her say "Good Slave". So for me now as Mistress Cassidy slave, I strive to complete a task not for what reward is in it for me. I complete it because it is what Mistress told me to do, and if she is happy when I am done. Then I did my part right.

 

As for the present task, I have asked Mistress for release from it. You can see the request in her group on FetLife at https://fetlife.com/groups/175329/group_posts/13352079?page=1#group_comment_120208815 Mistress has chosen to have me carry on for now. Tomorrow is a big one for this assignment, it is the tenth week. This time I have been asked to provide pictures of the task while in progress. I also think for week ten I will try an impact or two using the bristle side of the brush. What do you think?

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The pieces I choose to showcase here reflect my tastes. I love clean, simple, elegant designs. Go check out the store though. Misty creates in a range of styles. I saw whimsical unicorns & mermaid pieces, blunt pieces proclaiming one's status or what one should do with themselves, pieces that would appeal to masochists and the sadist who love them, she even has a piece featuring a mini Tardis. FTR Mistress would be quite happy to receive any of the pieces shown her for her birthday which is just 22 shopping days away.

Love this piece. It's a simple yet elegant design and I can tell looking at it that it is going to have some weight to it. And with all those chains, a creative top could find a way to add more if they wished. I would.  

Love this one, it's another clean design but this time with a little sparkle. 

I can't get over the price on this one. I may have to purchase a dozen for holiday gifts this year.

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How adorable is this? What kitten wouldn't love a little kitty giving her special parts a little hug? I know a pretty kitty who may find this in her stocking this year if she's a good girl. 

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Do you like it? A Rant.

Mistress is in a mood. Mostly my mood is great. I am tackling my Sunday To Do List, my goal list is 95% checked and a new week starts tomorrow. We all remember that Monday's are my very most favorite day, right?

There's just this small part of my mood that wishes to poke a really sharp pencil in the eye of someone deserving of a pencil in their eye. I play Tori Amos Waitress in these moments. Truly, I believe in peace bitch. I do. But fuck you, you are annoying me and I can not suffer to be annoyed by a pain in the ass like you for another moment. I'll feel bad as soon as I stab you with the aforementioned pencil and then perhaps I can pity you and go back to being kind to you. I believe in peace bitch. The you in this case is just some random nobody on Fetlife. It could be a random nobody that pops into Chaturbate or Instagram or Wal-mart. You, random nobody are not allowed to be a pain in my ass. You are not allowed to ask me if I like it.
I love what I do. Listen I know in top mode all the dommes say, read my profile in it's entirety. Do not contact until you have read xy & z. I have said similar before. It is certainly helpful, and shows good manners if you do. But it is not really needed. You're busy? I get it, I am busy too. A quick scan, she offers impact play, she offers sounds, and she's in my area, perfect where's the contact information. I am perfectly OK with sessions that begin that way. I know that even if you only quick scan my profile, my ad, one entry here on my blog, whatever- one quick scan of anything I sat at the keys & penned will convey what I think is most important in a professional interaction. I love what I do. I am sincere, I am candid, and I am articulate as a mf'er. If you don't hear the respect I have for the community, if you can't hear the reverence that I hold for the scene, if you don't hear the love I have for my calling- you need to have your vision assessed.
Do I like it? There is one person on the planet who is allowed to ask me if I liked a thing related to BDSM. You are not him. Do you like this is a perfectly acceptable question for a Top to ask a bottom. I ask bottoms all the time if they like a thing. Anyone else, anyone presenting as a bottom, sub, slave, etc, asking should recognize how gross of a question it is, how thick with entitlement it is. You're not really asking if I like this activity, you're asking if I liked doing it with you. How dare you question me. I told you I love what I do, that statement does not imply anything positive or negative about how I feel about you. Nor does it need to. Do you ask your hair dresser if she likes cutting your hair? A hairdresser is an artist, called to a profession that's both emotionally and physically demanding. We can reasonably assume that every hair dresser on the planet loves what she does, but she might think you're an ass. If you ask if she likes it, she probably thinks you're an ass. Let me try again. Do you ask the emergency room doctor, the one you threw up on while she was arranging your broken arm for an X-ray if she likes her job? She loves her job. She should. She saves people. She helps people through emergencies. She is a God, and she is compensated well for it. And there are parts that are dangerous, dirty, and emotionally draining. There are times she doesn't like it. Their are patients who are rude, demanding, and ignorant; if she is a professional she treats them with compassion and kindness, but it is perfectly OK if she doesn't also like them.
Truthfully, I also like my job. I probably like you. I recognize that your faux pas are probably simply your unfamiliarity with protocols. Your poor manners, your bad breath, it is OK. We all have our shortcomings. We are sadly usually blind to them. Let me show you, correct you, guide you, gently,  into a more pleasing being. Let's make you the best version of yourself. It is going to be messy. It might be emotionally draining. It will probably hurt. We might not like it. Let's do it anyway.

It Isn't Always What it Seems

Anyway, things are going well. As much as getting up sucks, I definitely feel better when I sit down in the evening and can list the things I’ve accomplished. I’m also about to start a new vitamin protocol based on my lab results, which should help my energy as well as some other issues I’ve been having. All of that stuff will arrive for me on Saturday. It’s full steam ahead, and most of this thanks to my Mommy. 

That is why I am a dominant.
That is an excerpt from My boi's latest blog post, which can be read in its entirety HERE.
You should read it in its entirety.

Midnight Navel Gazing: Thoughts on Being "Out"

My boi wrote this, I want to say for me. It reflects an assignment I gave him. It is just not accurate though to say that it is for me. I give him assignments that I believe bring out or showcase his strengths and his best. In turn, witnessing his best, that is for me. I am never disappointed, his best is beautiful.
We need a name to refer to my boi. We're working on it. I could, I believe I have consent, I could just state his name. He is pretty much as out in his life as I am in mine. Actually, he's kind-of more out in his life than I am in mine. I have no closets left of my own, but the nature of my business mandates that I safe guard other people's closets.
It is unfortunate that some people can not be out. Is this a spot where I need to remember that the language, the concepts that are part of my every day life, are not part of everyone's? The concept of "out" seems so basic to me. I learned the term in like 1987 or so, didn't everyone get the memo? Maybe if you're straight, monogamous, vanilla, believe that gender is binary, a follower of a mainstream religion, and the 101 things that many people aren't and feel unsafe disclosing, maybe you have no idea what it being out means. Congratulations, you're also probably a muggle. No judgment, but no magic for you either. Sorry, I don't usually harbor contempt for muggles, and I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. But there was some muggle-based friction in my Boi's life tonight, and I am still a bit angry about it. Angry that I couldn't stop it from touching him. It was thankfully nothing physically unsafe, and he handled it beautifully. But nonetheless it upsets me that he had to.
I am not qualified to be the spokesperson for being out. Of the things I listed, the things I claim as my identity are the things that are almost acceptable in polite society. They are things no one could tell by looking at me or a cursory look at my life. If I didn't tell you, I am a single, poly-amorous, pansexual, dominatrix, who believes in many deities, you wouldn't know. Other than being a woman moving about the world, I am not in any significant danger physically or emotionally for being who I am. I can opt to be quiet in any situation where that might not be true. My boi can not make those same statements. Yet he is bold, brave and out anyway.
Catching up with him has been on my To Do List for a week. We each have very busy lives, and our dynamic isn't finalized or formalized. No actual collar or contract, yet. Neither of us were slacking in our responsibilities to each other. He reached out to me to share what had happened, and I was able to carve some time to share with him. We had a great conversation that included clarification of how out he can be about our dynamic, and I was able to state my hopes for it. I want to share some of what I said, "I would like to claim you publicly if that is what you wish. You are one of my favorite humans and in some manner you are my responsibility and you belong to me." Can I share a thing? It was scary to say that out-loud to him. What if that was more than he was seeking? This is one of my closest friends. We do not have a romantic relationship. And yes, here I am using romantic to stand in place of sexual. He enthusiastically consented to my offer. We  took a new step not only in our dynamic, but we took a new step out. There is little to no chance of negative blow-back for me, sharing our experiences will likely actually benefit me in my work life. You are enjoying reading this aren't you?  I trust that he considered the chance of negative consequences to him, and decided they were an acceptable risk level. That touches my heart. I, his non-partner, non-romantic interest, his friend who wishes to baby, flog, care for & love him, I am worth some level of risk in his vanilla world.
Not everyone can safely be out. Not everyone wishes to be out. I said that recently, didn't I?  The first statement saddens me. It is unconscionable to me that we have not evolved to a place where consenting adults can engage in any behavior they wish between them. That we are so emotionally immature as a society that how a person looks, prays, eats, who they love, etc can evoke such fear that one might feel justified in harming another person for it. Not everyone wishes to be out. I respect that, I have a hard time understanding it. Why would anyone choose to be untrue to themselves? Why would anyone choose to deny themselves? I again acknowledge I am not the person to speak on out-ness. I stayed quietly in the closet when there was a small risk of inconvenience to me if I had been out then, and again my closet wasn't even all that risky of a thing. I like pretty girls, big deal, the scariest members of our society are typically turned on by that. I am a dominant women in the BDSM community. Again, not something terribly threatening to the status quo or those who participate in it. I work in the safest corner of the adult industry. But as unqualified as I may be, and as hard as it is for me to accept that it is unsafe for some people to be out, I will continue to guard the secrets, hopes, fantasies and truths that people share with me.

Voyeuristic Thursday: slave allan's August Goals

The following is slave allan's assignment for the week. I wish for voyeuristic Thursday to be a thing, and this is my universe so now it is. So add read Mistress Cassidy's blog to your Thursday To Do List. allan's words will be in black, mine will be italicized and in purple, defiant purple. That is an insider joke between my sort of or once was metamour, Miss Sunshyne and I. Perhaps if you beg I might be inclined to share that story another day. 

For the first time in a long time I am sitting at my keyboard typing out
sentences for a topic that I didn't come up with. This time I have a direct
order form Mistress Cassidy, and if I don't want to end up on KP duty. I
better do it. But before I get started. There is something I would like to
say formally.

*Yes!*  Mistress Cassidy. I would like to be your collared slave.

Okay that is one item off the list. You see Mistress has task me with
providing my personal and BDSM goal for the next month. My proclamation was
my foremost goal for both personal and BDSM.

Alright lets start with personal stuff as the appetiser. And keep the BDSM
for the main course, And since losing some weight is always part of my
personal goal. I will have to pass on dessert :)

<Mistress Cassidy opted to edit for privacy>
<Note to slave allan: I have talked to you about that before, I will remind you of where the boundary is on that subject> 

I am blessed to be living halfway between two of Canada's bigger
cities. Both the country's second biggest city Montreal, and the nations
capital, Ottawa, is an hour drive from us. I want to take the family to the
top of Mount Royal in Montreal. Especially at night. The lights of the
city are breath
taking. Staying with Montreal, all hands would enjoy spending time at
the historic Old Port of Montreal. While at the Port I would like to
take everyone
on a Dinner Cruise. That one is a big personal goal.

Now on another day I would like to
pile everyone into the van and visit Ottawa. We would visit the
parliament buildings. While we're on parliament hill we will go up to
the top of The Peace Tower, and if we are lucky, we might even witness
The Changing of the Guard ceremony. I personally want to visit the
newly renovated Museum of Science and Technology. And it wouldn't be a
family trip to Ottawa if we didn't stop at the airport to watch the planes
takeoff and land.

The other thing I want to do is expand on my knowledge of online
commerce. There is money to be made online. <edit>. I didn't do much in the month of
July. This month I want to make time to launch a few ideas that I saw
on YouTube. I have found 2 individual on YouTube that I find genuine and honest.
They both release videos about different sites that they have tried
and made money from. Let me point out these are not pie in sky
opportunities. These are small task jobs that pay you for your work.
For me the amount I earn is based on my efforts, and I want to apply
myself more. So over the next month I want to choose two sites. Learn
how to use them, and see if I can generate some revenue. I also want
to write more content for my BDSM blog and start a vanilla blog about
my journey into the online market. I guess for the next month that's it for
my personal goals.

BDSM goals for the month. I mentioned the most important one at the
beginning of this post. I also want to apply myself more for when
Mistress Cassidy ask me to do some training. There is also the new
contract to take in to account. I need to be ready both mental and
physically whenever Mistress Cassidy present me with it. I want to
find the necklace that represent my collar from my last contract. I
might be required to have it again. Working at improving my
schedule is important. So I can provide Mistress Cassidy time to do
my task-based tribute. And silly me. I can't remember where I hid
those lacey panties.

At one time Mistress and I talked about recording a hypnosis session.
I would like to find out if Mistress still wants to do the recording.
I am not getting myself excited about a hypnosis session. It is summer
time and Mistress is very busy. <edit> A. So after establishing if
Mistress is even still interested. We can figure out when to do a
session. I also need to retrain my mind this next month, to the fact that
I have agreed to become someone's slave. I have to also remember that Mistress
Cassidy will once again be my owner, and I have to obey her. Also this month I
have to practice what I promised in a previous post. I need to stop
fantasizing about
what I believe a collared slave is.

So a lot of this month's goals  are learning how to think like a
collared slave. This is an important goal to remember. I am Mistress's
slave, and my job is to help her,
and to see that she is happy with my efforts. Also before the month
is up. I hope to have replace my thinking, that a punishment is fun. A
punishment comes from making Mistress upset. Which goes against my primary
objective of keeping Mistress happy. I want, to the best of my
abilities to stay away from being punished. I also think this goal is
important. Too enjoy this experience.
<I'd like to state here that this is a thing that is different in an online dynamic than one in real time with me. I believe I have said it here before, I say it in real life often. I do not hurt people out of anger or frustration, I hurt people because I enjoy it. Innocent, non-pathological sadism; armchair self-diagnosis. An online dynamic is different. I have changed my approach to online dynamics, in truth until about 2 years ago I did not engage in virtual domination. One might mistakenly think it is easier than real time play. There's no set up or clean up, and I do appreciate that. Aside from that though, it really is not easier and in some ways it is far more challenging. I can swing a flogger for hours, body after body and dance when I am finished. It is typically 2 days before the adrenaline flood wears off and I need to rest. An online dynamic requires creativity, requires a different type of thought process and presentation to keep both the engagement of my sub and my own. So yes, in virtual play a sub will be punished for disobeying or disappointing me. If I can not have the reward of gifting my sub with a physical experience that I enjoy, then except few if any disappointments and I will take what pleasure I can find via a virtual punishment when there is a need for one.> 
So these are the goals I have to work and improve on over the next
month. Lastly this month I want to plant the seeds to establishing my
true BDSM identity.

Bye

A little wordy slave, but as you didn't have a word limit it is acceptable. Over all a good job allan. By the time this actually publishes I believe you will be locked back into a contract and as you know you will no longer be able to peruse erotica or smut. You may, as a reward, view up to an hour of adult material of your choosing in the 24 hours following this going live. Note, if you don't see this until it has been live over 24 hours, sorry for your loss the reward will have expired. Also note, what you view will be part of your assignment for next Thursday. So choose a thing you are comfortable disclosing publicly. 

Mistress Cassidy's New Contract

Until recently I wasn't especially attracted to formal contracts. Until I wish to offer a sub a collar there is no reason whatsoever to create one for professional sessions. And with subs that transition from clients to collared by the time I am offering them my collar we have already established the ground rules that guide our dynamic. I may jot them down or truthfully I have on a few occasions tasked my sub with writing what they understood the expectations to be and I simply correct any mistakes and sign off on what they have presented me. I do love to write, but overly formal, wordy, micro-managing is just not a hot button for me. I had never been terribly impressed with what I saw in other's contracts either, slave will suck my dick on demand. Well I lack the appendage and I am not a big fan of demands in either direction. I much prefer my personal subbies long for me, and beg for me. Collared subbies that came via the professional route are never, ever going to be allowed to suck my anything and they are well aware of that limit before accepting my collar. I came across a contract that I really appreciated though. I no longer recall where, so unfortunately I can not credit the creator. Other than the first line of the bottoms guidelines, this is not a copy of that contract. What I liked was that the requirements for the sub focused on the well-being of the sub, not how the sub was expected to serve. The responsibilities of the top were more clearly defined in my opinion than those for the bottom. I want a sub who seeks my collar to know exactly how I conduct myself. I want them to know my style, my preferences and to recognize that what I give them is a significant piece of my life and my energy. If this is not what they seek, if they simply want to be told that they will perform on demand, I am not the right dominant for them. 

So this is the blue-print for my new contract. It will be augmented to reflect the specifics of the bottom it is edited for, but I had two bottoms I in mind when I wrote it. With my upcoming move, my intention to essentially live in two states that are separated by 600 miles, I wish to find the best among the submissives that currently serve me informally and to transition them into collared positions. For my plans to go smoothly I will require the devotion and dedication that comes from a committed sub. I will print no more than 9 copies in the next year, and  I may print less. But I suspect 3 subs in Massachusetts, 3 subs in Virginia and 3 virtual subbies is what I will require. I will continue to see newbies, and uncollared subs, but my focus will be on and my attention will be given to those who serve me formally.   

Mistress Cassidy V. Cream recognizes that your skills, attitude and general demeanor is pleasing to her and does wish to extend a formal offer of my collar to you. I wish for you to be my _________, and I will refer to you as__________at community events and in private. As my _________ you will be expected to follow the following rules at all times, to the best of your ability. You will without hesitation disclose any infractions immediately. 

1. Each morning you will state a thing you like about yourself. It should be an original thought each day. At any time I may ask you what your statement was that day, you should be prepared to disclose it.
2. You will check-in once per week via_____ on _____day. At which time you will update me on any projects we are working on, your schedule for the following week and you will share one statement that you used the previous week. 
3. You will disclose to me your fantasies, your hopes, and your goals. Both as they are currently, and ongoing as they change. 
4. You will refrain from self-harm, and negative internal chatter. If this proves to be difficult for you, you will bring it to my attention so we may develop a strategy to address it.  
5. You will disclose your fears, concerns, and limitations. Including but not limited to hard limits, phobias, medical conditions and the state of your emotional well-being. Again this will be both as the are currently and as needed should they change. 
6. You will protect yourself in and out of scenes. You will, to the best of your ability, avoid toxic people, and unsafe situations. 
7. You will use your safe word of ______ in scenes as needed, without fear of repercussion, at any time for any reason. You are trusted and encouraged to know your limits, to know when you are ready to push on them and when to hold firmly to them.  
8. You are my property and I expect you to maintain yourself in a manner that reflects the value I recognize in you. 
9. When I am in _______ you will be available to me ___________. I will use ______ to contact you. You are expected to acknowledge my messages within _______., to carry out any task that I may ask of you or to ask for additional time if needed. 
10. When I am away, in my absence you will be expected to continue with all rules listed, to complete any on-going projects or tasks. And to communicate with me via _______, _________.
11. In an emergency in my absence you are to contact ________ via__________ and to heed her advice as if it were mine. 
12.  At scene events and in private you are to refer to me as _________, In vanilla public settings and around muggles, you may simply call me Cassidy. Your overall demeanor at these times should reflect your respect and affection for me, but I do not expect you to out yourself. 
13. If ever you do not understand the instructions I have given you, you may respectfully ask for "clarity" and expect that I will clarify my instructions without frustration.

As your ___________ you are my property and you will be treated with the utmost respect and care. I place the highest value on my belongings. The following are my promises and responsibilities to you. 

1. I will guide you through your experiences in submission with love and affection. 
2. I will not withhold affection or attention as a form of punishment.
3. I will never strike you or otherwise cause you pain out of anger or frustration. I do not hurt people out of malice, I hurt people because I enjoy it. 
4. I will be available to you for after care in whatever form best matches your needs immediately after all scenes and as needed in the days that follow. 
5. I will include you in community events that I deem appropriate for you. I will give you clear expectations for any event we attend.
6. I will reply to your messages within 24 hours, in the event of an emergency and an emergency only you may contact me via _________. An emergency is to be understood to mean that you are in immediate risk of harm or have sustained an injury of significance. 
7. Should I come to be disappointed in your behavior it will be addressed quickly, kindly, using precise language, examples of the behavior and with clear instructions with how I expect it to be remedied. I do not expect my submissives to be mind readers and I would never intentionally set you up to fail.
8.  When I feel our dynamic has reached it's natural end or should you seek to be released from my ownership, I will release you with kindness, grace and gratitude. I will maintain your privacy and my respect for you until the end of time.