It Isn't Always What it Seems

Anyway, things are going well. As much as getting up sucks, I definitely feel better when I sit down in the evening and can list the things I’ve accomplished. I’m also about to start a new vitamin protocol based on my lab results, which should help my energy as well as some other issues I’ve been having. All of that stuff will arrive for me on Saturday. It’s full steam ahead, and most of this thanks to my Mommy. 

That is why I am a dominant.
That is an excerpt from My boi's latest blog post, which can be read in its entirety HERE.
You should read it in its entirety.

Tuesday Q & A with Slave allan

My OCD feels that we should assign a specific day to be Q & A day. My awareness of my schedule suggests this will prove to be a silly idea. But let's try anyway. What day? Monday is my most favorite day of the week. Monday is for list making, and starting new projects. Mondays are for my thoughts. Monday will not be the day. Tuesday is my least favorite day of the week. It's a muggle day, very little probability of magic on a Tuesday. Wednesday is the first day of the weekend. Packing typically happens on Wednesday. Thursday is for travel. Friday and Saturday are for parties. Sunday, also know as Pre-Monday, is for aftercare, reflecting on a great week and preparing for Monday. I see it, let's try to elevate poor Tuesday. Tuesday will be for questions with slave allan. Just created the auto-post for this entry, this Tuesday is the last day of July. My quirky tendencies are happy with this, and to give it a little magic boost to kick off I scheduled it to post at 11:11. Make a wish, you're welcome.   
The last Q&A slave allan sent me had 3 questions. You'll notice there is only one here. slave allan is great at coming up with ideas for questions but they don't always fit my style or what I want to focus on at the time. Note to self: give allan some clearer directions for how to choose topics. 

slave allan: It's summertime let's daydream a bit. You have collared your dream
slave. You want to escape with said slave to have your way with him or her as you start their training. Where did you escape to and what isinvolved in that slave's training? 

Mistress Cassidy: There you go again slave allan- suppose you could do anything you wanted, anywhere you wanted, what work would you want to do? I'm mostly teasing, but being a top to a real human is an investment of time and energy. It is work. Work I love, work that I identify as my calling, but it is work nonetheless. Even when we move past the blurry lines between what I do for a living and what I do in my personal dynamics, even when we are firmly in the this is my personal dynamic realm, it is still a position I take seriously. A new slave (and for the record in my personal life one who identifies as a slave would not likely be terribly compatible with me. I require my partner level playmates to have opinions, to have personality, to embrace their submission and to proactively wish to give it to me) back on track, no matter how dreamy this bottom may be, a new playmate and vacation do not really go together in my mind. I do not have my way with my subs privately or professionally. Ideally I have their way in a way that I very much enjoy. The getting to know a sub happens long before I offer them my collar, especially in a personal dynamic.   

Let's take this in another direction entirely. At this time I am more or less single. I have no interest in vanilla dating and no interest in a new personal dynamic with males. I wish to be vanilla-single for the foreseeable future. Before this current round of singleness, I have been single for a grand total of 20 months since I was 13. Nineteen months of which happened in 2000-2001 when my other adult relationship of much significance ended.There are things I wish to do, goals I have set and ideas I want to explore for myself, by myself. Yet as into me as I intend to be, I am as far as I know, human. I do enjoy the company of other adult humans and from time to time, and I may require a bit more than their conversation. So let's try describe the person I would wish to spend time with while I explore my singleness. I would like to meet a submissive or more bottom-than-top switch of a woman. They would enjoy being pampered as much as they enjoyed serving. They would have a moderate to heavy pain tolerance or being willing to build to one. Articulate, and verbose, but equally able to be quiet & listen. Self-confidence that borders or ever so gently crosses the line into arrogant. I have a weakness for arrogance, it must be reality based and it must be slight, but I do enjoy someone who knows they are special. Independent, self-sufficient but maybe cling just a little bit during a thunderstorm or scary movie. It would probably be best if she currently or has ever worked in the adult industry and that it was a positive experience for her. I am so over explaining to other feminist in the vanilla world that I am not exploited, that I love what I do, that the adult industry has been liberating, empowering and wonderful to me. It would be best if we were on the same page in that area. I like indulging kittens, puppies, little/middles, but my preference is a princess like myself. I'll sound so narcissistic saying this, but the more a person reminds me of myself the more attractive I tend to find them. They should identify as poly/non-mono, but truthfully I would probably prefer that they not have another relationship of significance. I do not mean to sound selfish, but I am newly navigating poly myself. The first year didn't quite unfold as I had anticipated and I just don't have the patience for ever expanding rings of partners and partners of partners. I am over the never ending let's talk about our feelings, again. Oh did that read like I feel exploring polyamory was a mistake? That isn't what I meant. It should have conveyed that while I am certain that I am 'poly' I am equally certain that I am meant to be mostly single while I learn what style of non-monogamy is right for me. Casually dating others, while able to demonstrate that they value their safety and health as much as I value my own, would work for me. A schedule that somehow matches my own bizarre schedule that completely lacks rhyme or reason so that we may spend a day together often and an occasional weekend away. 
Now to try to bring it back to your questions allan; once I got to know my new princess, when I knew if she liked exhibitionist play (I do hope she does), when I knew if thuddy or stingy was her preference, and when I knew all the spots that bring her to her knees, I'd put a sparkly collar on my prize and bring her anywhere in the world she wished to go. 

Be sure to check out slave allan's blog too: https://slaveallan68.blogspot.com/2018/07/i-wager.html

Mistress Cassidy's New Contract

Until recently I wasn't especially attracted to formal contracts. Until I wish to offer a sub a collar there is no reason whatsoever to create one for professional sessions. And with subs that transition from clients to collared by the time I am offering them my collar we have already established the ground rules that guide our dynamic. I may jot them down or truthfully I have on a few occasions tasked my sub with writing what they understood the expectations to be and I simply correct any mistakes and sign off on what they have presented me. I do love to write, but overly formal, wordy, micro-managing is just not a hot button for me. I had never been terribly impressed with what I saw in other's contracts either, slave will suck my dick on demand. Well I lack the appendage and I am not a big fan of demands in either direction. I much prefer my personal subbies long for me, and beg for me. Collared subbies that came via the professional route are never, ever going to be allowed to suck my anything and they are well aware of that limit before accepting my collar. I came across a contract that I really appreciated though. I no longer recall where, so unfortunately I can not credit the creator. Other than the first line of the bottoms guidelines, this is not a copy of that contract. What I liked was that the requirements for the sub focused on the well-being of the sub, not how the sub was expected to serve. The responsibilities of the top were more clearly defined in my opinion than those for the bottom. I want a sub who seeks my collar to know exactly how I conduct myself. I want them to know my style, my preferences and to recognize that what I give them is a significant piece of my life and my energy. If this is not what they seek, if they simply want to be told that they will perform on demand, I am not the right dominant for them. 

So this is the blue-print for my new contract. It will be augmented to reflect the specifics of the bottom it is edited for, but I had two bottoms I in mind when I wrote it. With my upcoming move, my intention to essentially live in two states that are separated by 600 miles, I wish to find the best among the submissives that currently serve me informally and to transition them into collared positions. For my plans to go smoothly I will require the devotion and dedication that comes from a committed sub. I will print no more than 9 copies in the next year, and  I may print less. But I suspect 3 subs in Massachusetts, 3 subs in Virginia and 3 virtual subbies is what I will require. I will continue to see newbies, and uncollared subs, but my focus will be on and my attention will be given to those who serve me formally.   

Mistress Cassidy V. Cream recognizes that your skills, attitude and general demeanor is pleasing to her and does wish to extend a formal offer of my collar to you. I wish for you to be my _________, and I will refer to you as__________at community events and in private. As my _________ you will be expected to follow the following rules at all times, to the best of your ability. You will without hesitation disclose any infractions immediately. 

1. Each morning you will state a thing you like about yourself. It should be an original thought each day. At any time I may ask you what your statement was that day, you should be prepared to disclose it.
2. You will check-in once per week via_____ on _____day. At which time you will update me on any projects we are working on, your schedule for the following week and you will share one statement that you used the previous week. 
3. You will disclose to me your fantasies, your hopes, and your goals. Both as they are currently, and ongoing as they change. 
4. You will refrain from self-harm, and negative internal chatter. If this proves to be difficult for you, you will bring it to my attention so we may develop a strategy to address it.  
5. You will disclose your fears, concerns, and limitations. Including but not limited to hard limits, phobias, medical conditions and the state of your emotional well-being. Again this will be both as the are currently and as needed should they change. 
6. You will protect yourself in and out of scenes. You will, to the best of your ability, avoid toxic people, and unsafe situations. 
7. You will use your safe word of ______ in scenes as needed, without fear of repercussion, at any time for any reason. You are trusted and encouraged to know your limits, to know when you are ready to push on them and when to hold firmly to them.  
8. You are my property and I expect you to maintain yourself in a manner that reflects the value I recognize in you. 
9. When I am in _______ you will be available to me ___________. I will use ______ to contact you. You are expected to acknowledge my messages within _______., to carry out any task that I may ask of you or to ask for additional time if needed. 
10. When I am away, in my absence you will be expected to continue with all rules listed, to complete any on-going projects or tasks. And to communicate with me via _______, _________.
11. In an emergency in my absence you are to contact ________ via__________ and to heed her advice as if it were mine. 
12.  At scene events and in private you are to refer to me as _________, In vanilla public settings and around muggles, you may simply call me Cassidy. Your overall demeanor at these times should reflect your respect and affection for me, but I do not expect you to out yourself. 
13. If ever you do not understand the instructions I have given you, you may respectfully ask for "clarity" and expect that I will clarify my instructions without frustration.

As your ___________ you are my property and you will be treated with the utmost respect and care. I place the highest value on my belongings. The following are my promises and responsibilities to you. 

1. I will guide you through your experiences in submission with love and affection. 
2. I will not withhold affection or attention as a form of punishment.
3. I will never strike you or otherwise cause you pain out of anger or frustration. I do not hurt people out of malice, I hurt people because I enjoy it. 
4. I will be available to you for after care in whatever form best matches your needs immediately after all scenes and as needed in the days that follow. 
5. I will include you in community events that I deem appropriate for you. I will give you clear expectations for any event we attend.
6. I will reply to your messages within 24 hours, in the event of an emergency and an emergency only you may contact me via _________. An emergency is to be understood to mean that you are in immediate risk of harm or have sustained an injury of significance. 
7. Should I come to be disappointed in your behavior it will be addressed quickly, kindly, using precise language, examples of the behavior and with clear instructions with how I expect it to be remedied. I do not expect my submissives to be mind readers and I would never intentionally set you up to fail.
8.  When I feel our dynamic has reached it's natural end or should you seek to be released from my ownership, I will release you with kindness, grace and gratitude. I will maintain your privacy and my respect for you until the end of time.