Another Round of Q&A

  Today we venture back to Mistress's studio to find Mistress Cassidy. Mistress has agreed to answer some more questions for us. The topic today is about general BDSM practices. In future Q and A's, if Mistress permits me, I would like to focus on just one topic. That way the people coming into the scene can benefit form Mistress Cassidy's experience. Also, keep an eye out for my blunder. Even with just asking questions a slave can get into trouble. I better get this started before Mistress decides to snap her whip

Could Mistress describe for those new to the scene, what is wax play?I would put wax play under the umbrella of sensory play. Wax play might take the form of simply dripping candle wax from a low-temp burn candle onto a partner's or one's own skinor it could be an elaborate scene of layering waxes, that one might sculpt, carve, peel or whatever your wicked imagination can come up with.


What are sounds?

 Urethra sounds are wands/rods that are inserted into the urethra. They should be medical grade stainless steel and properly sterilized between use or disposable catheters may be used. 

When you watch a BDSM scene on a video clip, when a sub is being flogged the motion of the flogger looks like it is only lightly caressing the sub. Is there a level of pain and discomfort for the sub during these punishments? 
 Floggers are made out of many materials from tickling fur to biting stiff leather. There are many ways to swing a flogger and a whole body's worth of places to land the swing.  I don't know what flogging movies you have viewed so I can't speak to what the sub may have been experiencing. My go-to floggers are a pair of red and black suede floggers with weighted handles. I have been swinging this specific set for at least a decade now, so they are well broken in. I can swing these so they don't touch the sub's skin but simply cause a stir of the air, I can caress like a massage with them, I can do thuddy, rhythmic flogging or I can cause welts with them. I often use them in one hand, doubling the impact. I sometimes hold them above a sub's flesh & just shake them so they tickle the sub. When I do two-handed flogging I might swing them in unison, I might do an alternating swing or if I am feeling particularly rhythmic I might do one forward & one back- I often goof this up after a half dozen swings though. I have several floggers. I have mentioned a few of my other favorites in previous entries. I have a short, maybe 15" stiff rubber that seems to have been made from the same material as a car floor mat. Again, a soft swing will just make a thuddy impact. A swing with some weight behind it will bring welts. I have a super stiff purple leather, that's around 30"s and I would love it except it has a less than comfortable handle. A heavy swing with that will break the skin. Then I have my silver handled weighted, black leather that has 24" or so fells. The handle is very comfortable, and it will also break the skin. I have paracord floggers, I had a beaded flogger- not sure what happened to that now that I am thinking of it. I have latex floggers in a range of lengths, including 6" nipple teasers. Material & swing determine how it feels against the skin. 
   

In a BDSM scene, do some dominants actually use bull whips, cattle prods, and shock collars? Or is that a myth?

 Some dominants use bullwhips. Some use cattle prods. Some use shock collars. At one time I owned an elastarator (gizmo used to castrate goats & cattle), and I used that several times before becoming annoyed with always dropping the itty bitty elastics all over my space & retiring the piece. I have never used a bullwhip, cattle prod or shock collar in a scene. My space is not big enough to use a bullwhip in, and I do not know a qualified user to tutor me in proper use. I imagine cattle prods & shock collars are probably similar to using a TENs unit, but I do not have any personal experience with either.
Have you ever heard of the term pervertable? And if you have, could you tell the new people to the scene what it means?
 A pervertable is a vanilla item that can be used as a kink item. I have a pair of paper holders, I suppose they were intended to hold phone messages or something like that- alligator clips on a spiral of wire attached to a weighted base. Since I use them to clip nipples, we could say that they are a pervertable. A feather duster is a pervertable, a leather belt is a pervertable. There is a song from a kid show that's name is escaping me that features a song called "Anything Can Be a Bookmark" and the lyrics go on to suggest you can use all sorts of things including your grandma as a bookmark. It's quite silly, but just as anything can be a bookmark, anything can be a pervertable. 

For newbies among us. Is there a difference between Femdomme and serving a Mistress?

There is or there isn't based on what the terms mean to the person using them. A Mistress may or may not be a professional Mistress, a Femdomme may or may not be a professional Domme/Dominatrix. One might serve, see or session with either or with a woman who identifies herself as one or the other. Femdomme sometimes means dommes who enjoy a female supremacy style of sessioning.

What is a Findomme, is it a fetish with fish, or a preference to dommes from Finland? ;)

Edit: I remember when I was responding to this Q&A with slave allan. I was in an incredibly cranky mood. I think that contributed to the less than complete response here. A findomme is also a specific fetish. From what I understand as it is not really a type of play I engage in, it is typically strictly about an exchange of money or gifts. The sub enjoys gifting, indulging, perhaps providing for his dominant and his dominant enjoys receiving. But it is also, incorrectly I might add, used as I described below. /End edit 

A Findomme is an (IMO) stupid word someone coined to described a professional dominant woman, aka a woman who charges you to beat your ass. While some women seem to embrace the term, and that's their prerogative, I find it silly at best. Forevermore I'm going to think of a Finish Domme with a Fish thanks to your question. I prefer the term professional, and the average person shouldn't have such a difficult time understanding that professional means one who is compensated for their service. But yet every day I encounter a new newbie who has to have that explained to him, who then often tosses an "Oh you're just a Findomme then and it's all about the money for you" at me. It's late now, I am overtired we may edit this before publication. But you touched a pet peeve of mine. Does the average dude believe that they can contact a stranger, include a dick pic and ask her to truss him up like the Christmas goose and light his ass on fire and that the average woman is going to jump at such a glorious opportunity? And if the average dude knows women who would, he should contact those women & not me. It is not "all about the money", what a ridiculous accusation; but I know of no one who loves their job so much that they do it for strangers for free. I love what I do as much if not more than any of my friends seem to love their job, it is completely reasonable that one of the reasons I love it is because I am compensated very well to do it.  ( I am pleased to say that slave allan was not punished for making Mistress think of a Finish domme with a fish)

What would you say was the most interesting thing you ever did to a sub with ice.
 The most interesting things I have done with ice specifically have been during my personal time not during a session. I have a bit of a thing for ice, I think I forgot to mention that a few Q&As back when you asked about my fetishes. I guess I have done a thing or two with ice in sessions that I suppose is interesting in their own right. I will use ice and my hot stones during a sensory scene.  I have slipped ice into the plastic-wrapped subbie burrito. I have fed bound subs ice when they seem to be overheating. 


I don't know if you're a cold weather girl? Have you ever done an outside winter scene with a sub?
 I am very much a cold weather woman. Also don't refer to me as a girl again. If I opt to on occasion that is my prerogative; you will remember I am an adult, your superior and your owner. I have not actually done any outdoor winter scenes. While I love outdoor play, it is especially challenging. I think it is in very poor taste to expose others who have not consented to be part of your scene to session activities, even if one is very covert about it. Finding a place that one can reasonably expect will be free from mundane by-standers is a challenge on its own, finding an accessible spot in poor weather is more so. 

(I am very sorry Mistress, for displeasing you by me referring to you as a girl)

Other than the obvious, is there very much difference between a male and female session?Truthfully I have not had a session with an AFAB (assigned female at birth) woman professionally. I have had a limited number of couples session with me over the years. In my experiences with couples, it has been that the male partner was the primary submissive and the female partner either wished to learn a specific skill and/or wished to witness her partner's session. So even in my experience with couples, I have not really played with a female submissive professionally. Women, in my experience, do not seek professional scenes. I am sure the biggest reason for that is women seldom have a hard time finding a partner who will say that they will accommodate their interests. Which I think is in a way unfortunate, and likely leads to submissive women having much less than ideal experiences with partners of various skill levels before finding a skilled partner that they also connect with.  I wish that more women viewed their fantasy life in the same light they view their other personal needs. I don't think anyone would consider seeing a professional masseuse, for example, inappropriate while in a relationship with someone capable of rubbing their shoulders. While a massage is an intimate experience, no one would think if it as cheating or straying to see a professional when one needs the skill level of a professional.On your FetLife profile, you have pictures of some custom made collars. How would an individual be able to acquire one?

 Those are collars made by Master Paine, who I have mentioned a few times here. If one was interested in a custom collar or other leather piece, they should let me know & I will relay the information. Master Paine has a vanilla life too and I am not at liberty to give his contact info to strangers. 
Post editting note: Master Paine has now, finally, set-up a Fetlife profile. He can be found their under the handle "MisterPeterPain". 
  This is a shout out for Kinky Social at http://www.kinky-social.com/user/MistressCassidy  Are you enjoying the site?

I am. I love Fetlife, I have been a member there for many years. But right now on Kinky-Social, as a new site, it is pretty quiet when I visit. If I want to post a blog entry or comment on another's post I can do so without being interrupted by private messages. I am certain that soon enough that will change as the site gains momentum, but for now, I will enjoy the quietness.What is the name of your website again, for a first-time fan? 
cassidycream.comOnce again it has been a pleasure having Mistress Cassidy enlighten us with her knowledge of BDSM. Please make a point of visiting her profile on both Kinky Social and FetLife and say hello. Just remember, if you wish for Mistress to continue contacting you please always be polite and respectful and that will help. I am leaving Mistress's studio almost unscathed today. I must never refer to Mistress with anything less than a woman. Not with a girl, never never again. If anyone has any ideas for future topics, please let Mistress Cassidy know, and if you ask nicely enough she might put you in contact with me, so I can include your query in a future Q and A. 

Custom Leather by Master Paine

I do believe I've mentioned my custom pieces by Master Paine on a couple of occasions. slave allan recently included a question in our weekly Q&A exchange, asking for further information about ordering leatherwork through Master Paine. It has always been on the To Do List to add Paine's leatherwork to my site, it's just been the item that rolls over to the next day's list over & over again. See Master Paine has yet to join us in the 21st century and still doesn't have a website, Etsy shop or any sort of formal or informal online presence. Can you imagine? From what I see though, he does manage to stay busy enough through word of mouth and devoted fans like myself. Since he doesn't have a site to link to, makes it a challenge to add a nod to him on my site.
Anyway- I talked to him and have his permission to share some of the photos I have of his custom pieces and to refer any inquiries through my blog to him. So here are some of my favorite custom pieces of mine and my friends:

This is a replica of a Gorian whip/flogger as described in the series. It belongs to one of my besties, a little cutie of a sub with a Gorian fetish. It's about 4 years old now, still stings & thuds like it did when it was brand new.

 This is a Laura Croft inspired, functional garter belt with pouch. This belongs to a friend I haven't seen in so long, but I am certain it's held up to its frequent use.

I can't figure out how to spin this to be upright 😐 This also belongs to the subbie mentioned above.












And this is a hand-carved & tooled, Thor's Hammer, motorcycle bag another friend of mine has strapped to his Harley. He conditions it properly, and while it has aged as expected, it's as gorgeous now as it was 4 years ago.
Somehow I don't seem to have any pictures of my own pieces. Next trip to the studio maybe I'll snap a couple of my beloved silver handled flogger.

Mistress's Weekend Plans

Here it is Thursday afternoon and I realized that while my weekends are normally swamped with vanilla commitments this weekend is not! This weekend Mistress is going to a private fetish party and has ample time available for swinging my flogger at my studio too!  

While the party is a venue I am unfamiliar with and I am going with just one trusted friend, I am super excited to be having some fetish filled downtime. I have a pleasant hum of nervousness for meeting new people, and I high level of expectation for having a wonderful time. 

And I have time for weekend sessions! So many of my favorite subbies to play with have schedules that make weekends better than weekdays. It is so rare that I can accommodate the weekend requests, but this weekend I can. I wish I had taken a peek at my agenda sooner so I could have better shared my availability. But it's all good, my mute little subbies here will know I'm available once I hit "Publish".  

Let me wave my magic wand a bit and craft the perfect weekend, jump right in where you see you can be of service to me:

Early Friday I would like a pretty, slutty, little sissy in my studio. I need to play closet to decide what to wear and what toys to bring to the party. I'd like a girlfriend to help me decide. I'll put them in my pretty wigs and practice some extreme makeup ideas I'm contemplating for the party.

Saturday, while I won't be hungover, Mistress doesn't drink, I will be out late and perhaps not my most perkiest of selves. I need a good, working, service oriented slave to come serve me. I may very well wind up with a small afterparty at my studio if the new friends I meet are interesting enough. The floors may need to be scrubbed, and Mistress's feet will most definitely need servicing. And if you do a good job being my bitch, maybe I'll secure you to my doorway and lazily flog your bottom. 

Sunday. I need to recheck the forecast, but I think I saw that we'll have more rain on Sunday. Mistress loves rainy days. Sunday, rain or shine, Mistress would be down with a sensory session. Oh OK, Mistress is always down for a sensory session. Did I mention I picked up 3' wide plastic wrap for my playroom and a new blindfold? I have some new naughty ideas I want to try- ideas borrowed from others that I recently realized really spark my interest. Like mummified, blinded, scent identification. I want to tease a little cocooned subbie with my favorite scents, rewarding them for proper identification and lighting their ass on fire if they fail. 

Alright Mistress is going back to jamming to Shikira to get in the mood for tomorrow night.... if you are an established subbie & know my number, you have my permission to call today. If you are new subbie hoping to fit into my weekend you may email cassidycream15@gmail.com And should it come to pass that any of my subbies are going to be at the private party I mentioned, I expect that you will check in today so we can discuss my expectations for socializing outside of the studio. Assume that you can speak to me during my downtime without previous permission will not be met with kindness. I will assume that you are giving your consent to a public display of your worthlessness. 

Vanilla Q&A

It pleases me to say that Mistress Cassidy has answered some more of my questions. This time I left the dungeon and asked Mistress somethings about herself. I have to applaud and thank Ms. Cassidy on her openness this time around. Once again, I hope you enjoy reading Ma'am answers as much as I did, bringing them to you. So let's hand this blog back to Mistress Cassidy.
You mentioned you like getting flowers. Does Mistress have a green thumb?
This year the season got away from me and all I got in the ground were some flowers, mint & tomatoes. I love gardening and I am absolutely horrible at it. I over water & underwater and touch plants too much as they grow.

 (I wonder if this is the reason Ma'am plants are having a watering problem?) *post finish by Mistress, no slave allan Mistress doesn't get distracted by men in watering cans. Mistress doesn't get distracted by men, remember? 

 I forget to double check what should be grown near each other and what should be kept apart. I've been actively fucking up plants for oh 15 years or so now, but every season I learn something that sticks and I'm a little better than I was the season before. 
                                               

What kind of plants or flowers does Mistress enjoy?

 My favorite flowers for displaying would be orange roses. I have no idea why, but it seems to me that orange roses last longer and open up more beautifully than any other. I love sunflowers, and most years I have a huge towering array of them. I love mint (especially lemon balm), crocuses, irises, morning glories, oh right love all the flowers and there are too many to list.
          

In your last entry, you mentioned you like anything with water. Have you ever scuba dived, parasailed, water skied, or white water rafting?
OK, maybe I shouldn't have said everything water. I love tanning, swimming, floating and boating. Fresh, salt or poolside. I tried water skiing once. I had dagger length sculptured nails at the time, when the boat pulled me up I lost the handle and ripped 3 nails off at the base. I bled horrifically and thought I had broken my fingers. I haven't worked up the nerve to try again, but I do have natural nails now so maybe next summer.
Is Mistress a camper, or does a holiday entail a roof and room service and an indoor washroom?
That's a funny question. I am frequently reminded by my friends that I use to say "I pay a lot of money to live in a beautiful home, why would I want to pretend to be homeless for a vacation?". Now, my current life goal is to buy a campground in the next 5 years. I met someone who I so enjoyed spending time with that I agreed to go camping with him, and it was such an amazing time that I've spent nearly 2 decades with him and we camp every chance we get. Oh look at that, Mistress gave a slightly wider peek at my vanilla world than I am typically inclined to.
          


Which would best match Mistress's personality? A house with a picket fence, or a condo in a high-rise with a view?
I've had both, and neither works for me. Although I will acknowledge that the condo life had the least amount of work associated with it & at the time it was precisely what I needed. The picket fence, the suburban dream,had far more noise and nonsense than I have the patience for.  A farmhouse with wrap around porch is what I am looking for now.
                

If Mistress permits it, I will do an online task for the first fan who can identify this farmhouse.
                                   

*Mistress Cassidy again, I know that house. 

Does Mistress have a sport she considers herself a fan of?

Oh, gods no. I am not a competitive person. I'm just not wired that way, and I can't wrap my mind around giving hours of my time to watch other people compete. I played basketball as a kid, and I will engage in a friendly game whenever I come across a hoop. But watching others sweat with clothes on is not a fetish of mine.

Who is Mistress's favorite comedian?
George Carlin was my favorite. Here we go again with a totally mundane question making Mistress sad.
           
You mentioned that Mistress has sensitive feet, but is Mistress ticklish?
I am moderately ticklish and I am neither opposed to tickling nor am I overly into it.

If I was a tourist visiting your area. What are some of the points of interest, that you personally think is worth seeing? (Other than your dungeon :)
I'm going to consider all of New England my area and say there is just too much to see, one should plan on staying a long time. There's all the obvious places, the New England Aquarium, the Boston Museum of Science, and all of the Children's museums- Boston, Providence, Portland, the Eric Carle Museum out in Amherst and at least 6 more that I am forgetting. The Ecotarium in Worcester. Faneuil Hall. Newport beaches, the Newport mansions, and Bretton Park. Woods Hole and Martha's Vineyard. Oh, and I didn't even mention anything in NH or Vermont! But you shouldn't do any of these things without a local guide. All of these places have a little place nearby to get the best *insert yummy style food here* spots. When you go to the Ecotarium, you should go to the Eggroll Lady for fried clams. When you go to the Aquarium you buzz over a few streets for the best sushi, no idea what the name of the place is & I couldn't give you directions. My feet know the way, that's how you get there. And if there isn't a tried and true established place to eat, there is a quiet corner that is where you picnic.
          

I once again wish to thank Mistress Cassidy for her time and her candor. I look forward to our next question and answer session, which I believe will dive back into the scene lifestyle. So this is an invitation to all of Mistress's fans to return for that. Once again if I made any mistakes, please point them out to Mistress so she can correct me, and we can all have a more enjoyable time reading.

                                                                               slave allan

Special Rate on 2 Hour Sessions

Mistress has a special treat to share with her mute blog-reading friends first...
In the vanilla world Mistress is house hunting. The goal is to be settled into my new place before my birthday in November. My schedule has been moderately busy, but truthfully I need it be very busy for at least a couple weeks. So I hit the drawing board to see where I could focus to turn up the volume. My ads are running. I'm posting here regularly. I've increased the time I spend on sites like Fetlife & Kinky-Social. I've had a string of new & super fun subbies in the past few weeks, but still not quite as busy as I'd like. And more than not as busy as I'd like, not using my time as effectively as I'd like. My tribute has always reflected that I prefer longer sessions. An hour with a new subbie is just not long enough to establish the right rhythm and enjoy it once it has been found. For most sessions, with new friends or old, two hours really is the right the length. It allows time to catch up or get acquainted. We can move from one idea to the next at a relaxed pace, savoring each component rather than rush between ideas trying to get a sampling of all that I offer. My commute to the studio, my setup time and my clean up time remain the same regardless of the time spent in the session.
I appreciate that sessioning is a luxury service and that it is a financial sacrifice for most of my clients. If you're curious about the types of subs I see, the vast majority are, like myself, owners of small to moderate businesses that they actively work, independent contractors in various fields. I very much enjoy the company of these clients.
So how do I encourage my subbies to book the longer sessions I prefer, while staying within their budgets? I'm lowering my tribute for two-hour sessions. I'm not sure how long I will run this special for, it is not a permanent change. But if you schedule a two-hour session while I am running this special, the special rate will remain your 2-hour rate for as long we session together. It is for a 2-hour session ONLY, but it applies to all the sessions I offer. And the number is.... $350. A hundred off my regular two-hour rate. I will commit to offering it to at least the first 10 responders I have, the pace that takes will determine if I run it longer.
I'm giving my mute friends here the first opportunity to schedule their sessions at this rate. Tomorrow I'll start promoting it on other sites.

Thoughts on Being a Dominatrix and slave allan's Latest Post

I have added a new component to my long distance slave allan's training. He was given the option of sharing it in his blog and opted to do so. The post can be found here: slave allan. It's a rather more vulnerable post than what followers of his blog might normally see. When I read it to approve it before posting, I realized it was a sharable moment in someone else's words that illustrates why I love what I do.
It isn't that I have a particular interest in dictating one's diet or activity level. I am not a professional dietician or fitness trainer, which of course slave allan is aware of. My interest, what thrills me about being a Dominatrix, at the risk of sounding a little new-agey- woo-hoo, is that my subs will show me their soul. Maybe it's an extreme form of voyeurism, but that is what excites me to witness. It happens in the vanilla world occasionally. If you push, if you really engage with the people you meet, sometimes they'll share something deeper than the weather with you, but it is so rare. Even with the people you're closest to; we all have our baggage. Everyone has some, completely reasonable, self-preservation barriers that they keep up.
I'm a huge fan of Ann Rice. In her version of vampirism, vampires can hear each other's thoughts, unless it is a vampire one has made. I read Interview with a Vampire the first time when I was seventeen. I remember being unable to suspend belief and accept that as part of the story. How can that be how it works? The people one is closest to, shouldn't they be the ones who can hear you the loudest? Know you the best? Magical, mythical creatures of extraordinary abilities and they can't hear if their offspring loves them or loathes them. It just seemed unbelievable to me, and wise 17 year old me was certain that's not how life worked.
But it is, isn't it? We can not read anyone's mind of course, but we hold back what we are passionate about, what inspires us, sometimes even from the people who stir that passion or inspire us directly.
As a dominatrix, strangers share their souls with me. Typically it is only a glimpse, my hubris is not so great as to believe that I see all of who they are either, but it does tend to be the glimpse that they share with few if any others. In my dungeon, things that can not be put into words are articulated and brought to life.

Finally Mistress Sarah's First Session!!!

It has been quite some time since I last posted about apprenticing Mistress Sarah. Perhaps my faithful but mute readers thought that I had scared her off or something. That wasn't what happened at all. Mistress Sarah's day gig has a seasonal component to it, summer is her busiest time of year and this summer, in particular, was swamped for her.  We touched base a few times over the summer while waiting for her schedule to ease up a bit, and now that Labor Day has passed Mistress Sarah has time to swing her flogger.  Hooray!

My initial plan was to head to the studio for a few hours of non-sessioning work; work on some hypnosis recordings, update the blog and my fingers were crossed that the photographer I'm working with would be available to take some pictures for me. My morning went all shades of wrong, with assorted vanilla errands that I was unsuccessful in completing through no fault of my own.Then the photographer let me know that she wasn't going to be available. Last I had checked in with Mistress Sarah it didn't seem like our schedules were going to line up either. But then, largely because my errands didn't get accomplished, my open time changed to fit hers. Shortly after realizing that I got a text from a subbie I have known for ages but haven't sessioned with in a decade. He wanted to see if I had time that day. Normally I frown on same day appointments, do you think Mistress Cassidy sits around holding her breath for you to contact me? And legitimately, I can rarely make them fit into my schedule. But again, thanks to things not working out, I could this day. So a quick check with Ms. Sarah that she felt up for a warm body and verifying that my subbie would be cool being worked over by two Dommes, and a new, equally cool day fell into place. 

Miss Sarah and I had a little bit of time before sub arrived. I shared some of my thoughts on what being a dominatrix is like, the things I might do differently if I knew then the things I know now. For what it's worth, there isn't much about my career trajectory that I would change. I didn't become a dominatrix through an apprenticeship route. I may have avoided some minor snafus over the years had I had a mentor, but I learned and grew from my mistakes. 

My subbie arrived and became my prop for the next couple hours. At each step, I would stop the flow to explain why I did something or what might be different with someone I didn't know as well as this subbie. I showed her how I gauge how likely a sub is inclined to bruising. This sub wishes not to have lasting marks, so I showed Miss Sarah the tools I would use to accommodate that request. This sub arrived in a chastity device (remember Mistress Cassidy quite enjoys chastity devices), so subbie stood so I could show Miss Sarah some of the features of his model and explained how others might differ.   While subbie was restrained and blindfolded I motioned Mistress Sarah over to give the fur paddle a go. I wonder if subbie knew? Was there a noticeable difference in tempo or intensity? I have no idea, but it was fun to be an observer in my studio. I teased subbie with the possibility of not returning his cage key to him when he left. A completely empty threat when one is locked in a silicone cage. Of course, I returned his key to him so he wouldn't have to destroy his cage when he is ready to remove it. Later I also gave sub the option of release from his cage at the end of his session, and he wished to remain caged! I really would have loved to have retained his key, but this is not a collared subbie of mine. His obligation to chastity ends when he passes back over my threshold into the mundane world. Oh well, next caged subbie might be one who can carry our scene into the mundane & be the one who's key hangs on my necklace next. 

I've had a quick check in with Mistress Sarah since our session, and I am thrilled to hear she enjoyed the session as much as I. 

Mistress Answers More of slave allan's Questions

Once again Mistress has chosen to enlighten us with some more of her wisdom in the world of BDSM. Knowledge stemming from 20 plus years as professional Dominatrix in the lifestyle, makes Mistress an authority on the subject in my book. Feel free to ask Mistress a question if there is something on your mind. She would be more than happy to help you out. And if by chance any mistakes did make it pass me. Please point them out to Mistress Cassidy so she can set me straight on the matter.
 In the BDSM scene. Is a collared slave consider a being or a belonging?

    

That can only be answered by the people within a specific relationship. For me, the people I play with are people,  complete human beings regardless of the type of play or the level of our commitment. 

 

Could you explain what TPE means? And how it may or may not compare to our scene?
It took a moment for the caffeine to kick in enough to remember what that particular acronym stood for; Total Power Exchange. So a relationship where one party has consented to submit themselves totally to another. What it looks like in practice I am sure is unique to each participant. We do not have a TPE relationship, nor is Mistress interested in any similar arrangement. Our contract outlines your commitment, my expectations, each of our responsibilities and has definitive boundaries set.  

Hypothetical question. In RL. if you were attending a themed event, party. How would you present yourself and what would your slave be required to have once inside?
Well, what is the theme of the party? Let me see if I can find an answer- when I am going out to a vanilla event I tend towards classic styles with a quiet risque element. Tastefully sexy. I love that fetish events allow me to indulge in whatever strikes my fancy. I expect any partner I spend my time with to be courteous, good company and attentive to my needs. If I were bringing a submissive to an event we would discuss my expectations for their behavior and duties before the event. 

   
Vanilla question. From your blog, I know you like Mondays. But What is your favorite month, season, holiday?

All of them :) If I had to pick just one of each though: November, Autumn, and Thanksgiving.

 Are you a land lover or do you have your sea legs too? And if you do which would you prefer more if you had to chose. Pleasure craft or cruise ship?
I love all things water. 

 
I know this is so male of me. What are your preferences: Pant suits or dresses? Heel or not for shoes? T-shirt or blouse? Shorts or skorts? For your legs nylons, long stockings or bare? Bikini or one piece?
It is a rather male type of question. I think I've talked about what I wear in sessions recently. In the day to day of the vanilla world, I am apt to be dressed similarly for a variation of the same reasons I dress how I do for sessions. I'm pretty active, I hate feeling restricted or tangled up in clothing so most days it's leggings & a tank with sandals or keds. I don't do skorts. I've taken entirely too much time on this question.


  
And to make it fair, same question, but on a man?
Same questions? Well to begin with I seldom call dudes 'men'. I'm not especially into 'men', so I don't particularly care what they wear. None of that was intended to be male bashing or a female supremacy type of statement. I like dudes quite a bit, but the image that comes to mind when I hear 'man' is not the same. So with that out of the way. I love dudes in drag quite a bit. Super glam, high theater, and over the top gender bending presentations is a hot button for me. A guy in a pantsuit that looks like it came from Prince's closet, thumbs up. A man in a suit for court, thumbs down (although if you are legitimately dressed for court you'd get a pass for me, looking the part for the situation you're in is more important than fashion). I do not dig a man in uniform at all. Guys looking male in dresses or dress-like outfits work for me. Allan Rickman as Severus Snape worked for me. Johnny Depp in a pirate outfit works for me. Tim Curry in Rocky Horror so worked for me. Heels; boys that can walk in heels are sexier than dudes who can fly in capes. Most shorts are just too pedestrian to bother forming an opinion of them. Skorts are silly unless you are under 12. Blouses- again, refer back to the Prince reference. I do have a thing for T-shirts like John Travolta rocked in Grease or Fonzie wore on Happy Days. And I think I've mentioned my fixation on striped shirts in another entry. Nylons, I'd prefer a boy in a thigh high stocking over panty hose. I'd prefer any leg I am looking at to be in a thigh high. For swimwear that is being swum in, function overrules fashion for men or women. But for swimwear that is being lounged in, less is more. I'm also terribly attracted to dudes in black or dark blue eyeliner, lipstick, and/or fingernail or toenail polish. Red lips if they have really full lips and have that romantic vampire thing going on. Red or dark pink polish if they've got an artsy vibe. 

I sure hope everyone enjoyed reading what my Owner had to say. Mistress, I think the next time I will ask fewer questions. This is hard work :) well until the next time please be safe.

                                                                                    slave allan

Did you really think it was a terribly challenging assignment? 

New Projects!

Mistress has a bunch of new projects kicking off next week, and I so want to share them with my mute friends here but I'm not quite ready for that....
Hmm- what can I share?
I can share that I am really enjoying the new fetish/social network being offered HERE. While there aren't many members yet, that's kind of nice. Meet the other first members without having too many groups, blogs & chatting to distract you.
I can share that I am actively looking for subs interested in being filmed. Must be willing to sign a model release and provide a copy of your ID, but face obscured is A-OK with me.
And I can share that I am officially adding ASMR to my repertoire. I have a short shopping list of items I'd like to play with, but  I know I could have an interesting ASMR session working with what I have already on hand.
Three posts in one week. Is that a sign of what to expect as the seasons change? I don't know, it might be. Hold your breath and stayed tuned.