slave allan can't stay away- Q&A returns to Mistress's Blog

1: You recently mentioned wanting to create an RV dungeon. I do have to apologize though. My first mental images were that of Walter White standing in his underwear next to his RV on Breaking Bad.

Or Robin Williams misadventure in his movie called RV, when I first read your idea. So for clarification purposes, would you describe for us what Mistress's RV dungeon would look like to you? 

lolz allan, that was a great opening for a series though wasn't it? So, I have only the roughest ideas of what the RV should look like. I had a cute little tow behind vintage Scotty for ages, don't ask what became of it, it's a scary story.

Anyway, I have a thing for vintage campers and RVs. I'm not afraid of driving something old enough to buy itself a drink. I trust the universe will put the right unit in my path at the right time, and I will do my best to be patient (god damn that's so hard for me) in the meantime. When the right one finds its way to me the right vibe for the dungeon will make itself known too. What I do have imagined in technicolor detail is what this adventure is going to look like, and how it is going to work, and I am so super excited about it, I'm going to act like that's what you asked and ramble on about it.

I haven’t announced any of this on my blog yet, have I? Well either this is the announcement or I'm going to have to scramble & write that post before scheduling this one. Mistress is going to become a Gypsy (I so love that word; please forgive me I know it's less than PC to use) Dominatrix. Surprise!

For now, Massachusetts is going to remain my primary residence, and I am going to continue to run the dungeon for Princess Gemini Enterprises. When the time comes I will work out a schedule with Princess that will probably be something like our first and second Friday of the month parties and 2 of our mid-week, Purgatory at Platforms, parties.  I've also just begun, this Thursday is the first, hosting my own small gatherings at Safe Haven. This Thursday is a foot worshiping party, the next one planned will be announced soon. Anyway, assuming those come together as expected, I will continue to host 2 of those during the weeks I am in Massachusetts. I've also got one more idea that I was about to unveil soon, might as well do it now. I am going to start hosting an Aftercare Potluck one Sunday a month. I'm picturing not quite a munch and totally not a party get together.  No cover for anyone who has attended a Princess Gemini, Safe Haven, or Twizted Acre event within the previous month or anyone who is a regular submissive of mine, low donation for new friends. This will be my event, I am simply extending the offer to guests of those venues because I love the guests at those venues. I'm picturing barbecues, tapping friends who offer Reiki & other forms of bodywork, and I'll offer guided meditation and/or hypnosis. I'm picturing just a casual networking and community building event that brings local kinksters together. So Princess Gemini parties, Thursday parties, Aftercare Potluck, of course, I will visit Twizted when I am home, and I will see my local submissives while I am home. I'll also spend time with my vanilla people, eating the best seafood in the US and riding my pony while I'm home.

But who cares what I will do when I am home? The exciting part is the part when I am not home! My current goal is to head out the first week of July. I was hoping for sooner, I was hoping for last week, but apparently things take time and patience. Whatever, Mistress has neither of those and I don't see the value in acquiring them. The first trip will be local, a week up to Maine to spend time with my family and to test the roadworthiness of the RV. I will probably not offer sessions during that trip. Then Virginia!!! My last trip was just not long enough at all. Two weeks this time, at least! I couldn’t make it down to take care of my Baby Boy I mentioned in the post about BDSM & Sex recently, and I have so much guilt over that, I am working on a special idea for him when I do make it down. Maybe if you ask nicely he'll consent to sharing pictures. I'm hoping my Hazey will be able to make this trip with me. She works just as hard as Mistress behind the scenes to keep my world spinning smoothly, she deserves an amazing adventure too. While I will obviously see new-to-me submissives in Virginia, I will be carefully screening for long-term compatibility, Richmond will be a frequent stop for me and having my needs met while I am there is, of course, a priority. There may be an adventure within an adventure with a side trip to see my top, but that's none of your business nosy little voyeurs. I am planning, preparing and budgeting for 6 months of travelling. If there are unexpected bumps in the beginning I want to stick it out at least that long to see if the bumps have solutions. If it smooth sailing and as magical as I imagine it will be, I am thinking this might be what the next couple years of my life looks like. The stops during those months will likely be Maine, Ohio, Virginia Beach, Richmond, VA, Western Virginia (not West Virginia, Mistress has no friends in WV at this time send an application if you'd like to be a WV friend lol), North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia and Austin, Texas. There was also a hope that I would make it to Toronto this summer, but sadly I think that may need to be penciled in for Spring of 2019.

2: Staying with the same theme. If money was not a factor. What would Mistress's RV dungeon be like. Would you remodel a 53-foot truck and trailer to build your dungeon in? Or go for a bus style Motor Coach to be your workspace?

Who said money was a factor now? Money is a resource and a tool, and there is an incredible abundance of it in the universe. While I don't happen to be in possession of very much of it at this moment, when I need it I can find it. My dream space would be a collection of cottages in quiet settings around the country in the places I love.

My OCD would like them all to be nearly identical, with duplicates of my gear and costumes in each so I don't have to pack & schlep them around. I would spend whatever season I like best in that location and move to the next when the whim struck me. I would skip the RV entirely in this fantasy and travel in a different fashion between each. A train when moving between ones that had mountains along the route, a boat to an island getaway, etc.

I've edited the last question from the original conversation between slave allan and I. I didn't love the way it read and even with repeated editing it just wouldn't flow smoothly. Mistress is in a little bit of a funk, and that is probably playing a part in my inability to edit for smoothness. The RV I was so looking forward to seeing this past weekend is most definitely not The One. It's OK, I trust the universe will bring me the best & right one at the right time, but truly patience is not a particularly defining characteristic of mine.  

Really Cool Questions

Yesterday I posted something trivial about my dungeon on my personal Facebook account. A friend of mine from way back in grade school had some interesting questions based and it seemed like a great theme for a post...


1. What exactly happens in this dungeon? Alchemy, and magic. Well that's what I want to happen in my dungeon. Some sessions are, most aren't quite that cerebral. What exactly happens. Typically I arrive an hour before my scheduled session. I am about half transformed when I arrive, I finish getting into character (where going to come back to that term in a moment, I've already read through the questions) and set-up the dungeon for the scene in that hour. My client arrives, if they are a returning client there will be small talk, hugs, perhaps inquiries about their experience post-scene from their last scene. If they are a new-to-me client we will spend some time getting to know one another. I ask medical history questions. I explain how to use our safe words. I establish the boundaries for our time together, and I give them a chance to express their goals for our session. During this time I may answer questions about my gear, my experience with their kink, or how I would handle emergency situations. It surprises me that not every client asks those questions. Anyway, once those pleasantries are out of the way, the session begins. They're told to strip naked, and to leave their clothes in a specific manner. If they fail, they are told to do it over again. This is my thing, it's one of the few things in a session that is for my benefit. It's how I gauge how present they are. If their clothes wind up on a heap on the floor, it's probably nerves but they are clearly not all in and I won't have that. They will be given their instructions again and I will employ some tricks I know to insure their attention stays focused no matter how nervous they are. I may ask them to repeat back to me each thing I say to them. Or I may walk them through a breathing exercise. In any case I will not be ignored nor will I have a subbie smack their head off the beam in the ceiling because they were hyper focused on the tingly feeling in their privates. Each session is different, each sub has their own interests and the session does revolve around their interest. In no particular order I offer: tease & denial, CBT/NT (cock ball and nipple torture), sensory deprivation & overload, restraints, corporal punishment, impact play, piercings, cross-dressing, service training, etiquette training, chastity & key holding, adult baby/Little play, consensual/non-consent, fire play, puppy/kitten play, hypnosis, foot/shoe/stocking worship and probably a half a dozen things I am forgetting. There will be no more smoking fetish or human ashtray scenes though. There are a handful of things I only engage in with submissives I know well, like hard-core humiliation scenes and blood play. And there are a handful of common BDSM themes that I am just not into so they don't happen in my dungeon. When a scene is finished, I tend to my subs in whatever manner is appropriate, and typically we spend some time talking about the scene before they leave. If I have any reason to think that they are not ready to drive, I insist that they hang out longer & have a bite to eat or whatever until it seems they are back in their head properly.
2. Not judging, is this a vocation? Avocation? Both? People pay you? Yes, yes, yes and yes very well. At the risk of sounding silly, I do very much feel that this is my calling. I know a lot of people from all walks of life. The ones that I recognize as being the happiest are the ones that spend a significant amount of their free time doing what they do for a living. One of my best friends is a midwife, and an educator. When she isn't actively engaged in catching a baby or teaching her official students how to catch a baby, she's talking to someone about catching babies, about teaching, or about holding sacred space for women. She is on her best, right path, doing what she was called to do. I earn a living walking people through their fantasies, taking something that is in their head and turning it into something that happens in the flesh, in real life. When I am not doing this for a fee, I am here writing about it in my blog. I am encouraging my friends to pursue the thing that will make them happy (it's not always sexy fantasies that I walk people through). And when I have down time, private time, time for me, I am to the best of my ability turning my fantasies into realities.
3. U tie people up? Spank them? Mild torture for lack of a better term? Tie people up, yes. Spank them, among other things, yes. Mild torture, hmm. Sometimes it's mild, sometimes I wear gloves that go past my elbows and put down a painter's tarp. 4. Is there sex? There has to be some form of gratification, no? U dont get someone so worked up and then send them home do u? Oh DC, now I know you don't read my blog regularly. In my professional scenes there is no sex. At this time, in my private play dynamics, there is also no sex. I am certain my clients would tell you that they are satisfied. I often get people worked up and send them home. There are many ways gratification can manifest, and yes I totally know we are using code words here let's be blunt & vulgar instead. An orgasm isn't the only way to feel satisfied. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You also can't have an orgasm and also hold that precise moment before when every nerve ending in your body and every wire in your brain is vibrating and screaming this is the very best feeling that has ever been felt by anyone ever. Unless your top orders you to. Calling on that energy, and then intentionally harnessing it and redirecting it is it's own gratification for some.
5. How did u get into this? Go back to my first entry here. 6. Is it men? Women? Both? I see more men than women, but I see both. I also see people who identify as gender fluid, gender bending, non-binary and a host of other terms. And I work with couples.
7. Does it excite you or is it like a job? Your playing a role and when the play is over you come out of character?
It very much excites me, in the way someone who loves their job is excited by it. Again, you really should read the first post. I said in that entry, I do not turn up the volume to become Cassidy Cream, Cassidy Cream dials back the volume to pass as Denise in the real world. This is who I am, all the time.

8. Has it ever gone too far? By too far i mean someone hitting u back, sexual assault, someone stalking u?
I have never had a work situation go too far. I have never had a client actually or try to hit me, I have had incidental & accidental hits and kicks from a sub struggling in a session that I have agreed to allow this sort of play. I have worked in several professional vanilla gigs, there was far more inappropriate sexual contact & innuendo in those settings than there has been in 20 years as a dominatrix or the 10 years as a stripper before this. At parties, occasionally a newbie (or an asshole) doesn't know (or doesn't care) what the appropriate way to approach a woman might be. So in that setting yes, a random groping, swatting or off-color joke happens. But again, compared to going to a vanilla club for a night it's very minor & tame.

Guest Post by Our Slave Allan

I am so blessed to have such thoughtful people in my life. Slave allan has generously offered to write another guest post for me. And while it was offered without any expectation of reciprocity, Mistress is going to hook him up. Friends promote their friends' projects, Allan's Blog go check it out after you catch up here. 

For the record quitting is going pretty alright. I called Monday my quit day, I smoked one cigarette on Monday. Tuesday I had another. Somehow on Wednesday and Thursday I had another 7 or so. But it's 11:22p on Friday, and I have had zero today. Tuesday, day 2,  was the worst day so far. I am moderately concerned that tomorrow may be a revisit of Tuesday because of how many I smoked yesterday. I will get through it if it is. 

My awesome adviser again suggested a couple of cool ideas for entries, I have solid outlines penned. Tomorrow I am going to see how challenging it is to type without a smoke and if it is the very worst...the back up plan is a video post. 

Before I turn it over to slave allan, who wants to see pictures?

Miss Hazey making me pretty for one of our recent parties 

End of the night back in vanilla clothes. I find it's a good plan when one must drive at 3a, one should strive to look as much like a muggle as one can. 

 I just read that Mistress is taking a stab at breaking the smoking habit. I am proud of her bravery for trying to get the monkey off her back. I for one have battled with the bulge all my life and know how tough it is to give up our indulgences. I have watched others close to me fight the cravings and the mood swings to hopefully be able to say, "I did it, I'm an ex-smoker." in my opinion over the next month Mistress is going to find it hard to get herself to want to write. So, I whipped (no pun intended) up this little guest post.

First off, once I started to feel good again I started following Mistress Cassidy's blog again. I was very interested in the exploit of one of her guest post and his edging challenge. As I read his post I couldn't help but wonder what that must feel like. Knowing that you have been ordered to edge yourself several times a day for a prolonged period. The original author mentions how frustrated he felt and how his penis was always dripping and felt like it was pulsing. I was eager to read the next post to see his outcome. Sadly, Mistress mentioned in her comments to me that there were no more installments coming. Talk about a reader being left on the edge (this time pun intended)

So, I was wondering if I should take up the mantle and carry on the spirit of the post. Is there any readers of mistress's interested in asking her if she would like to make it so? Mistress has enough with the smoking cravings to deal with to be wondering what might be a fun topic to write about in her next post. All she should need to do is to read your comments to see if there is an interest and decide whether or not she would order me into it. I could be required to submit briefing on my efforts and stand judgement if I screw-up. That should give Mistress content for her blog until she feels ready to tickle the keyboard once again. We as mistress's reader should offer to help her out for the next little while.

It is a crazy thought don't you think. Logistically it might be a little difficult to orchestrate. So, my plan B is to write a post on how to set up your own home dungeon that is totally controlled by your owner from afar with their smartphone. I researched the topic at some length for my blog when I was collared to Mistress. I am wondering if anyone would be interested in my concept idea? My hope is that one of Mistress's current slaves would have the money to set this idea up. Then let us all know what it was like to serve mistress using their own LDR private dungeon. Well that is all I have for now. Have a good week and who knows you may hear more from me if I am ordered to be Mistress new edging slave.

Bye

Allan