The Musings of Mistress Cassidy: October 2018

Monday, October 29, 2018

Closing the Wheel and Opening the New

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Sunday, October 28, 2018

Do you like it? A Rant.

Mistress is in a mood. Mostly my mood is great. I am tackling my Sunday To Do List, my goal list is 95% checked and a new week starts tomorrow. We all remember that Monday's are my very most favorite day, right?

There's just this small part of my mood that wishes to poke a really sharp pencil in the eye of someone deserving of a pencil in their eye. I play Tori Amos Waitress in these moments. Truly, I believe in peace bitch. I do. But fuck you, you are annoying me and I can not suffer to be annoyed by a pain in the ass like you for another moment. I'll feel bad as soon as I stab you with the aforementioned pencil and then perhaps I can pity you and go back to being kind to you. I believe in peace bitch. The you in this case is just some random nobody on Fetlife. It could be a random nobody that pops into Chaturbate or Instagram or Wal-mart. You, random nobody are not allowed to be a pain in my ass. You are not allowed to ask me if I like it.
I love what I do. Listen I know in top mode all the dommes say, read my profile in it's entirety. Do not contact until you have read xy & z. I have said similar before. It is certainly helpful, and shows good manners if you do. But it is not really needed. You're busy? I get it, I am busy too. A quick scan, she offers impact play, she offers sounds, and she's in my area, perfect where's the contact information. I am perfectly OK with sessions that begin that way. I know that even if you only quick scan my profile, my ad, one entry here on my blog, whatever- one quick scan of anything I sat at the keys & penned will convey what I think is most important in a professional interaction. I love what I do. I am sincere, I am candid, and I am articulate as a mf'er. If you don't hear the respect I have for the community, if you can't hear the reverence that I hold for the scene, if you don't hear the love I have for my calling- you need to have your vision assessed.
Do I like it? There is one person on the planet who is allowed to ask me if I liked a thing related to BDSM. You are not him. Do you like this is a perfectly acceptable question for a Top to ask a bottom. I ask bottoms all the time if they like a thing. Anyone else, anyone presenting as a bottom, sub, slave, etc, asking should recognize how gross of a question it is, how thick with entitlement it is. You're not really asking if I like this activity, you're asking if I liked doing it with you. How dare you question me. I told you I love what I do, that statement does not imply anything positive or negative about how I feel about you. Nor does it need to. Do you ask your hair dresser if she likes cutting your hair? A hairdresser is an artist, called to a profession that's both emotionally and physically demanding. We can reasonably assume that every hair dresser on the planet loves what she does, but she might think you're an ass. If you ask if she likes it, she probably thinks you're an ass. Let me try again. Do you ask the emergency room doctor, the one you threw up on while she was arranging your broken arm for an X-ray if she likes her job? She loves her job. She should. She saves people. She helps people through emergencies. She is a God, and she is compensated well for it. And there are parts that are dangerous, dirty, and emotionally draining. There are times she doesn't like it. Their are patients who are rude, demanding, and ignorant; if she is a professional she treats them with compassion and kindness, but it is perfectly OK if she doesn't also like them.
Truthfully, I also like my job. I probably like you. I recognize that your faux pas are probably simply your unfamiliarity with protocols. Your poor manners, your bad breath, it is OK. We all have our shortcomings. We are sadly usually blind to them. Let me show you, correct you, guide you, gently, into a more pleasing being. Let's make you the best version of yourself. It is going to be messy. It might be emotionally draining. It will probably hurt. We might not like it. Let's do it anyway.

Thursday, October 25, 2018

It Isn't Always What it Seems

Anyway, things are going well. As much as getting up sucks, I definitely feel better when I sit down in the evening and can list the things I’ve accomplished. I’m also about to start a new vitamin protocol based on my lab results, which should help my energy as well as some other issues I’ve been having. All of that stuff will arrive for me on Saturday. It’s full steam ahead, and most of this thanks to my Mommy.

That is why I am a dominant.
That is an excerpt from My boi's latest blog post, which can be read in its entirety HERE.
You should read it in its entirety.

Finally Formally Unveiling New Project

Happy Monday. I didn't time travel this weekend. This post is being penned on Monday afternoon, long after the goal of all posts posting at 11:11 AM on the day they are assigned. Slightly off-schedule, but overall staying on task. I hope to catch up the posts for the rest of the week tomorrow, and be back on schedule too.

Monday posts are for lists, schedules and announcing new stuff. Let's get on with it.

Mistress is still in Richmond, Virginia. This is both a wonderful, and an awful thing. Richmond feeds my soul,I will stay here until I am old and gray and really not complain about it much. But I do have things to do in Massachusetts. My regulars are blowing up my phone, and I am so sorry that I still don't have travel dates firmly established. I very much want to see my favorite bottoms. I love that I am meeting new subs here, but I haven't been here long enough to have the same connection established with them. There is something so special about seeing a client you have known for a decade, can't have that in a place you have only been for 2 months. I have projects on hold with Mistresses Liberty and Dahlia, and several lovely little subbies that I am so disappointed that I have to continue to reschedule. I also need to claim my winter wardrobe, and move my belongings to long term storage or light them on fire, whatever feels right in the moment. The things that altered my plans were beyond my control. I am now reclaiming all control of all things, and seeing what I can do to magic a trip up soon. So please know coming back to Massachusetts is very high on my To Do List, it is a top 10 item on a list that is at least 100 items long. When I know dates, you will know dates. I will announce it loudly on all platforms.

The new project that has kicked off. If you follow me anywhere you have probably already caught the soft launch. Deep breath and dive, let's say it out loud: Mistress Cassidy is now offering live cam shows with Chaturbate. Expect to see assorted affiliate promotional stuff added to the blog as soon as I have a chance to redecorate here. Can I share a thing? I am the boldest person I know, excuse my ego but it is a true statement. Anxiety, fear, worry, these feelings are not ones I am terribly familiar with and when they do pop up, (I am human I do feel these things occasionally) I tell them to sit back down and stay out of my way. This idea caused me some anxiety. It was suggested months ago, with much encouragement and solid reasoning behind it, by someone who's opinion I value greatly. They pointed out that I can stay in touch with my regulars no matter where I am. That I can grow my base, and reach subs everywhere. There may have been some ego feeding compliments too, ones appreciating the things one can see and ones that really feed me by recognizing the parts of me you can not. I was terribly resistant to the idea. But not for the reasons you might think. It had nothing to do with modesty, Mistress has no modesty. It was thoughts like, what does the optics on that look like? Does this negatively impact my brand? Real Dommes don't cam. Real Dommes do not take requests from boys. Real Dommes are all sexuality and no sex. I am Mistress Cassidy Cream. I have 20 years invested in the scene. I am a real domme. I am also an exhibitionist. I love an audience. I tease boys and I really like it. I work as a cam model now, ergo, real Dommes cam now.

You can find me HERE most nights, I sign on around midnight EST and hang out until around 3 AM.

Oh! I nearly forgot to share, and that's kind of cool. I nearly forgot because it feels like such a non-thing 99% of the time already. Mistress is 19 days cigarette-free. A week ago I tried to smoke a cigar, it was foul & gross, so it doesn't count at all. If it did, a week ago is a long time ago and clearly it didn't cause me to start back up again.

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Monday, October 8, 2018

Have You Missed Me?

How much have you missed me? Have you been pining away for me? Holding your breath desperately wishing I would return? And yet you didn't send me presents, or flowers for my new space. We really need to work on how you express your feelings.

lolz

I've missed my blog so much. There's a half dozen, half completed entries stored organically in the left side lobe. This one and at least one other will make it out into a shareable form, the others will likely get lost in idea purgatory. Oh well, only the strong survive.

I had every intention of focusing on my blog during my time in Richmond, the best of intentions. Do you see Samuel Jackson about to waste Flock of Seagulls every time you hear best of intentions too? Let's not talk about our intentions, best or otherwise, let's focus instead on what has happened.

Right before I left Massachusetts a good friend in Virginia reached out to offer her condo to me. She has a commitment that has her traveling at this time too, and her place would be sitting empty if I didn't need it. Isn't it funny how things come together when one is on the right path? An affordable and comfortable space to use pretty much as long as I need, I can take my time looking for a space that meets all of my needs. The universe is so kind to me.

My travel schedule was changed by factors beyond my control. The plan was to be back in Massachusetts October 5th, it is the 8th and here I am in Richmond. It inconvenienced me, but I am trying my best to remember what I said above, things work out when one is on the right path. It is so much easier to remember when the unexpected thing is happy surprise. It isn't too hard to accept being in Richmond longer than planned. I am thrilled to be home again. I am not sure when I will be returning to Massachusetts next, but it will be within the next few weeks. I believe I will be able to commit to dates within the next few days. If we had tentative plans during my return please know that I will be reaching out to you as soon as my plans are firm.

I have 2 new projects I had planned on unveiling in this post today, but I think the official announcement is being pushed back to Thursday's Q&A post with slave allan. I may let it slip before then on Insta- you know how bad Mistress is with surprises. You do follow me on Instagram, right?

The scene in Richmond is as different from Massachusetts as it was when I was here before. Submissives are reaching out tentatively. I am hearing similar stories from each. It has been a long time since a professional of note called Richmond home. Traveling dommes and would-be dommes pop up from time to time. The standards and ethics of each varying greatly. The subs here are reluctant to session at a hotel, and try harder for a public pre-session meeting. I'll indulge them until my permanent space is established. I am so happy to be home, and I am so looking forward to expanding the scene experience here.

Oh and I did a thing five days ago. I wasn't planning on talking about it until the 10th, until it was a thing I did 7 days ago. See above and how horrible I am with surprises. I quit smoking. I feel much more confident this time is The Time. Five days no slipping up, no stolen drags off of friends smokes or 2 AM quiet my thoughts emergency smokes. I step away when I am around smokers. I accept it is my responsibility to not ask, not theirs to say no to me. And when my thoughts have been overwhelming, which sometimes they are, I remember all the other problem solving skills I have. Smoking was never really a problem solving tool, it was just its own problem that needed to be fed so I could deal with other things. I don't suspect I am going to talk about it much more after this post. I will probably announce that it has been a week on Facebook on Wednesday and that will likely be the last of it.

Mistress has a full week ahead of her. There are promotional photos to take, and announcements to pen. Getting back on track with the pace I want to keep here. New local subbies to grace with my presence. And a return to Massachusetts to plan. Find me on the platforms below and watch for the big announcements...