Timing is a funny thing sometimes.
Before writing the last post about my intention to begin offering online & distance training, I set a task for My secretary slave. His task was to find 3 adult websites that have affiliate marketing programs. I had found one on my own that I was excited to work with, a company that I use often for adult items. I had hoped to do regular reviews of their products here in my blog. You'll notice I'm not referring to them by name. When I was nearly finished with their application process, their terms of agreement doc was the last to check off on & submit. They don't allow adult websites & blogs to market their products. A company that specializes in dildos & cock rings, doesn't want to be associated with adult websites. Go figure.
Anyway, back to the story. I didn't give him parameters. I didn't say, I'm not interested in sketchy websites selling penis enlargement supplements, for example. I'm not at all interested in those programs of course, but it was a test. Would he, after several months of online communication, know that I am only interested in reputable companies offering quality products. Products I would honestly be interested in trying out and if happy with, would be confident in suggesting them to my subs & readers.
I'm happy to say he passed. He completed the task before the deadline & sent companies that I will likely feature here & on my website Cassidy Cream  in the future. One in particular stood out, so I choose to investigate that one further first.
And this is it. Adult toys that can be remotely controlled from anywhere with a phone app. Considering my intention to begin offering distance training, this is exactly what I need that I didn't know existed. I am absolutely stoked by the idea of sending my online subs out into the real world, stuffed & plugged under their vanilla garments, and that I can, at my whim, start their bottoms humming. I am a safety conscious Domme, I would of course know their schedule well enough to not have them distracted while driving or operating dangerous equipment; but I would so set them to throb while they were at a pub after work or while they went for their afternoon jog.
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Online Training

I am pretty sure this is from one of my very first sessions. It's not labeled, but that simple dog collar & those leashes have long been replaced with quality & durable gear. Still, there is something nice about revisiting The Scene from a simple & fresh point of view.

I've recently decided to expand my domination offerings to include online/distance training. While I have been offering professional, real time, domination since 1999; I was never particularly interested in online domination. I enjoy sessioning. I love first sessions; I savor my own anticipation about how my plans for the scene will play out in reality. I love watching a new submissive conquer whatever fear or nervousness he's bringing to the scene. There is a moment in almost every first session where you can feel the sub's mindset shift from, 'what have I gotten myself into?', to a resolve of embracing whatever is about to happen. I love the sessions with submissives who have committed to ongoing training. The subs I see weekly, or monthly.The familiarity of a returning submissive allows limits to be explored more fully, and for scenes to be more fully realized. I love the smell of my playspace, the smoky mix of candles, leather, cosmetics,and perfume. I love the soothing, hypnotic rhythm of double flogging a willing bottom with my full, deceptively soft, red & black suede floggers while a favorite song plays and the scene transports my sub and myself to some place far outside of the mundane. With all of these real & tangible sensations to be had in a real time session, there simply wasn't any appeal to me in an online arrangement.

One of my most endearing qualities, I think, is my ability to just change my mind, completely. Someone contacted me on Fetlife with an interest in erotic hypnosis. I am a trained, clinical hypnotherapist and I list hypnosis among my interests on Fetlife. He had a few, intelligent questions about how hypnosis works, and what one could expect from an erotic hypnosis session. A key word in that sentence would be intelligent. He was clearly new to Fetlife, his profile said as much. It seemed likely that he was new to the scene in general also.But he didn't try to compensate for his lack of experience with false bravado nor did he make ridiculous assumptions about the scene. Sadly both is something I often see with brand new visitors to the BDSM scene. I agreed to a hypnosis session, by phone, but then several complications prevented that phone session from happening in a timely manner. To move the story along, we spent a couple weeks chatting while trying to arrange this phone session and an interesting dynamic developed. I found myself enjoying what was essentially online training. I enjoyed sharing my expertise with an appreciative newbie. There is a thrill in knowing that there is someone 100s of miles away, who will jump to do my bidding. That my directions, insight, guidance, even from far away, are allowing a submissive to more fully explore his interests. And here I am now, realizing that I have been missing out on facet of domination, that is proving to be quite enjoyable. 

I am still sorting out the technical component of offering this new service through my website. I see a couple different options I would like to offer. One would be single task acts of submission. A sub would receive directions for a task to be completed within a time limit, including directions for verifying that he has completed the task. I'd like to create a photo gallery where those that have satisfied me in their successful completion can be praised and those subs who have failed can be publicly humiliated. The other idea is for an online, ongoing, commitment much like I have arranged with my hypnosis subbie turned secretary slave mentioned before, A sub might request a training period of 30, 60 or 90 days, and upon accepting the submissives application,we would begin their training. Again, perhaps utilizing a photo gallery on my site to reward or punish the trainee subbies. 

Again, it's a new area I'm exploring. I think a tribute of $20 seems reasonable for the single task acts of submission and perhaps 100 per month for ongoing training. 

My statistics here show that my first post was read by many people, and yet only one person left a comment. Consider this a first task if you're a submissive who has found yourself reading my blog. Leave a comment. If you have experienced online training, share your opinions about the experience. If you have had real time training, share a little bit of what that experience was like. If you're shy subbie and would prefer not to share your comment publicly, send me an email Dear Cassidy-

This is Who I Am

So many lifetimes ago, before I was Mistress Cassidy professional dominatrix, I was Cassidy Cream, exotic dancer. I worked primarily with my best friend, a beautiful, intelligent woman who danced under the stage name Tabitha. We were both in our twenties. I was about to graduate from college, she had recently finished. I was in a committed, long term, relationship, she was single. It was an experience unlike any other. For a few hours each week, I escaped from my vanilla life that was already quite full of obligations and I became a version of myself I never knew existed before. In front of my mirror I transformed physically. I painted my face like a drag queen.Wearing colors that in my day life were far too bright, far too glamorous, just far too much everything. My hair that I tend to keep tucked or tied up, I let out, full, big and  beautiful. I wore seductive clothing, sparkly costumes, mile high shoes, that again were much too much for the real world, but  are the uniforms of a dancer. On the often long drives to shows, we transformed mentally. All of the normal inhibitions, anxieties, and self-doubts that I believe everyone carries, must be shed before one can be naked in a room full of strangers.We would use every confidence building technique we had ever read about or learned in a workshop, and push those ideas far beyond their intended boundaries in our conversations. For about 7 years, each weekend, we took a hall pass from the real world & slipped into an alternative universe of excitement and decadence.

One of the things that Tabitha was fond of saying was, "...this is what I do, not who I am." I believe, I don't presume to speak for her, but I believe it was her way of staying grounded. Perhaps a way to keep the wall between her true self and the persona she created to do her job firmly intact. I do not believe she was ashamed of what she did, but rather that for her dancing was a means to an end. She saw where it ended for her, and she kept that mile marker firmly in sight. 

I have heard similar sentiments expressed by others in the professional bdsm scene. While I believe I understand their point of view, and I certainly respect their holding of it; it is not a sentiment I share. 

I am Cassidy Cream. I am Mistress Cassidy. Domination is my calling, my vocation and my art. I do not turn up the volume to become Mistress Cassidy, I dial back to pass by day in the vanilla world. I am sensual. My curiosity tends towards deviant. I am a keeper of secrets, and a witness to truth. I am an explorer, and an artist. I love what I do because it is the natural & right extension of who I am.  

My sessions, our time together, is magical. In the cozy warmth of my playspace, you will not be asked to be strong, capable or any of the other mundane expectations society places upon males. You will be pushed far beyond those. You will be expected to be honest, sincere, candid. You will choose to be naked, exposed, and vulnerable. You will do this because you will understand both that I have carved out this safe space for you to do so, and because you understand that this is what I require. Your vulnerability is your true tribute.

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