Online Training

I am pretty sure this is from one of my very first sessions. It's not labeled, but that simple dog collar & those leashes have long been replaced with quality & durable gear. Still, there is something nice about revisiting The Scene from a simple & fresh point of view.

I've recently decided to expand my domination offerings to include online/distance training. While I have been offering professional, real time, domination since 1999; I was never particularly interested in online domination. I enjoy sessioning. I love first sessions; I savor my own anticipation about how my plans for the scene will play out in reality. I love watching a new submissive conquer whatever fear or nervousness he's bringing to the scene. There is a moment in almost every first session where you can feel the sub's mindset shift from, 'what have I gotten myself into?', to a resolve of embracing whatever is about to happen. I love the sessions with submissives who have committed to ongoing training. The subs I see weekly, or monthly.The familiarity of a returning submissive allows limits to be explored more fully, and for scenes to be more fully realized. I love the smell of my playspace, the smoky mix of candles, leather, cosmetics,and perfume. I love the soothing, hypnotic rhythm of double flogging a willing bottom with my full, deceptively soft, red & black suede floggers while a favorite song plays and the scene transports my sub and myself to some place far outside of the mundane. With all of these real & tangible sensations to be had in a real time session, there simply wasn't any appeal to me in an online arrangement.

One of my most endearing qualities, I think, is my ability to just change my mind, completely. Someone contacted me on Fetlife with an interest in erotic hypnosis. I am a trained, clinical hypnotherapist and I list hypnosis among my interests on Fetlife. He had a few, intelligent questions about how hypnosis works, and what one could expect from an erotic hypnosis session. A key word in that sentence would be intelligent. He was clearly new to Fetlife, his profile said as much. It seemed likely that he was new to the scene in general also.But he didn't try to compensate for his lack of experience with false bravado nor did he make ridiculous assumptions about the scene. Sadly both is something I often see with brand new visitors to the BDSM scene. I agreed to a hypnosis session, by phone, but then several complications prevented that phone session from happening in a timely manner. To move the story along, we spent a couple weeks chatting while trying to arrange this phone session and an interesting dynamic developed. I found myself enjoying what was essentially online training. I enjoyed sharing my expertise with an appreciative newbie. There is a thrill in knowing that there is someone 100s of miles away, who will jump to do my bidding. That my directions, insight, guidance, even from far away, are allowing a submissive to more fully explore his interests. And here I am now, realizing that I have been missing out on facet of domination, that is proving to be quite enjoyable. 

I am still sorting out the technical component of offering this new service through my website. I see a couple different options I would like to offer. One would be single task acts of submission. A sub would receive directions for a task to be completed within a time limit, including directions for verifying that he has completed the task. I'd like to create a photo gallery where those that have satisfied me in their successful completion can be praised and those subs who have failed can be publicly humiliated. The other idea is for an online, ongoing, commitment much like I have arranged with my hypnosis subbie turned secretary slave mentioned before, A sub might request a training period of 30, 60 or 90 days, and upon accepting the submissives application,we would begin their training. Again, perhaps utilizing a photo gallery on my site to reward or punish the trainee subbies. 

Again, it's a new area I'm exploring. I think a tribute of $20 seems reasonable for the single task acts of submission and perhaps 100 per month for ongoing training. 

My statistics here show that my first post was read by many people, and yet only one person left a comment. Consider this a first task if you're a submissive who has found yourself reading my blog. Leave a comment. If you have experienced online training, share your opinions about the experience. If you have had real time training, share a little bit of what that experience was like. If you're shy subbie and would prefer not to share your comment publicly, send me an email Dear Cassidy-