Making a First Impression

Let's talk for a minute about first impressions. No, not the first impression I will make on your ass with my crop, dial it back there bad boy. I am talking about the first impression you make with your initial message to me. 

The truth is, far too many initial contacts are just not properly presented. From experience, I do know that the majority will evolve into great sessions that I will enjoy, so I do not dismiss inquiries out of hand for minor flaws. I also realize that while I have screened through thousands or more inquiries over the years, the subs who contact me may be writing their first. And I am a pragmatic type of Dominant, let me give you some pointers. '

1. Use the contact method listed as best in the advertisement you found me through. Email is always my preferred method of contact. Every ad I place includes a link to my site, where one will find a simple, easy to use, form for submitting an email, or my email, cassidycream15@gmail.com will be listed for directly emailing me. Which is listed it typically based on the parameters of the place the ad is running. On a very rare occasion, particularly if I have had a last minute cancellation, I will run a quick ad that includes a phone number. It will state clearly, in bold text, sometimes even in all caps, TEXT ONLY.  As those who have seen me already know, you will have my phone number to confirm your session. You may call me to arrange future sessions. But if you're still a stranger, you are not to call me and interrupt my vanilla life. Send a text, state that it is or isn't OK to call you back at the number that the text was sent through, hold your breath and wait for my reply. I will get back to you. 
2. The right length for an initial email is 5-8 sentences. Less than that will not convey the information I need, more than that is a chore to read through. It should include an appropriate greeting. If you have been paying attention, you know already that I am not terribly caught up in titles. "Good morning Ma'am" is appropriate. Good Morning Supreme Goddess Most High Cassidy Cream of Tarth first of her name,  is wordy, silly and it doesn't impress me.  Yes, I am being sarcastic, but not much. Ms. Cassidy, Mistress Cream is also completely acceptable. So a quick greeting, next you should briefly state who you are. "I am a sub bob from ____, I have XX years of experience training with Miss So Kind and Miss Beats My Ass." You should state your primary interests. If there is something new you would like to explore, you should state that as well. "Mistress I saw that you offer sounds, while I have never experienced that, I would like to explore this type of play.". If this is your first exploration, there is no need to withhold that information. I have said it many times, I love sessioning with newbies. Finally, you should state when you are hoping to schedule our session and if needed, state any restrictions there may be when contacting you. Notice I didn't mention asking for more pictures, or asking for details of what normally happens in a session. I prefer to contain my exposure online. I share enough photos that I am confident they convey that I do not look like an ogre and to session with me, that is all you need to know in advance. I am a 44-year-old woman who works in the adult industry, my self-confidence is justified. If you would like to session with a super model, might I suggest that you change your search criteria and find a Domme in her 20s? We each have different priorities, those who serve me should prioritize experience. Do not ask for details about a session. We can arrange a phone, skype or online session if you are nervous about serving in person. Every session is unique, the only way to know what your session will be like is to experience it. Finally, you may ask if I have a specific piece of equipment, you may ask about my sterilization techniques or any technical question that relates to your safety or well-being.
3. If you state that you want to be owned in your first message, I will assume you are a time waster. You may not realize you are a time waster, but the fact is if your fantasy is to submit yourself to a stranger, full-time, to do with as she pleases; your fantasy can not be safely explored and I am not interested. Here most who fall into this category would opt to insure me that they are not concerned about their safety. And this confirms that they are a time waster. My safety is of the utmost importance to me, and it should be obvious that signing on an unknown sub is not a safe practice for a Dominatrix. Further, I'm not terribly interested in investing my time in a sub who does not take his own well-being seriously. Now if you want to safely explore full-time, contract, collaring you may arrange a session. Mention in that session that your goal is full-time service, and we can begin the discussion about how that might work. 
4. Finally a few words about my tribute and the possibility of a discount. I enjoy sessioning with a wide range of people, I appreciate that some of my most devoted subs are those that my tribute is a significant financial sacrifice for them. I offer several ways my subs can make sessioning better fit in their budget. One will note that my per hour tribute drops substantially for longer sessions. The set-up time for me usually doesn't change for a longer session, I would prefer longer sessions so my tribute reflects that. I also offer a discount that can be applied as money off or additional time if a sub prepays their session in full. The final option is one that I do not typically mention in ads anymore as it attracted far too many time wasters. In my vanilla projects, I am very open to exchanging services with other professionals.  I am also open to exchange for sessions, with other professionals. That does not mean that you can wash my floor in exchange for a session. Every single sub I see is capable of washing my floors if that is what I desire. From time to time I mention what my current needs are if you are a professional in one of those areas I will consider a session for trade.