It's Just Something that We Do

Don't tell me to stop, tell the rain not to drop, tell the wind not to blow 'cause you said so

I love the false starts at the beginning. I know they were scripted, but they feel authentic.  

She's a fire sign like yours truly. Leo, not a Sag, but still I feel solidarity when she's spinning. Also, typically nothing is really scripted with fire signs. Oh this isn't working, light it up. You put hours, weeks, decades of work in? Oh well, it will burn so big, step back.

It's really tricky writing right now. It is a small thing to complain about. I am grateful my complaints are small. By and large, me and mine are doing well. I wish to share that, believe that I have readers who wish to know that; and also I wish not to be insensitive to those who can not say the same.
Last week there was a post that was up for an hour, sharing in more detail the things that are going well. Then Dahlia called, her son tested positive. You didn't know she had kids? Ya we hear that often. She applies the first rule of adult spaces even fiercer than myself. My let's help people take their minds off of things post? Ya fuck that noise, it burns.
Do something, help your friend. There aren't accurate terms for who Dahlia is to me. You wouldn't understand and if you do I don't need to explain. And what can I do? I'm 600 miles away, with my own children. I could get in the car. I could be there.
And do what exactly?
The only things I could do really could be best done from here. Hold space, listen and even when it is hard, trust that things will work out for the best.
And when I couldn't be there,  http://swopnh.org, Ashley Fires and the many volunteers that I do not know by name yet, showed up. Swop is an outreach program, and Ashley is a devoted, amazing, tirelessly working member of our community. Who is at the statehouse challenging laws, who is putting together a mental health crisis outreach program of sex & kink friendly providers, and who is providing weekly financial support and comfort to dozens of women in the adult industry, and our families. Because we don't talk about them, that's the first rule of adult spaces, right? But we have them and as much as we devoted as we are to our community, that is dwarfed by the devotion we have to those we do not mention here.
Today Dahlia's son tested negative.
This moment we are each experiencing from our own unique point of view is and will continue to change our community and our lives. There aren't many ways that we can direct how that will unfold, but in whatever ways that I can, I wish to lean on pushing positive changes.
Cool kids support their friends' projects. I have been saying that since I was a junior domme, a hundred million years ago. Before typically I was suggesting you stop being scared to go to fetish events, buy sexy art and come have fun. It wasn't a hard sale.
I made a decision this weekend to begin donating a 10th of my profits back to the community. I was all excited and full of ego that that's a thing I can do now. Then I remembered what 10% of what I earn is and I was less impressed with myself. This isn't about being impressed with myself, this is about showing up and meaningfully supporting our community. You know what's way more impressive than my bank statement? My contact list, I am friends with the best of the best. The artists, the creators, those who know how to make things happen and those who show up to insure that it does.
It'll take a minute to make this grow properly, but hey we have the time on our hands right? I started with  https://www.etsy.com/shop/WhyBeeNormal because she's amazing. I text, "I'm going to do a thing." Then I start tapping keys to explain it, this is going to take a minute, and ping, Pix has said, "I'm in, what are we doing?". I love my community, and I am so blessed to know the people I know. So we're going to start with, I sent Pixy a PayPal this morning. Pixy matched it, and we're shipping Ashley a collection of Pixy's beautiful work to add to this week's care packages that are being delivered. I have another friend who will join us next week.
By and large things are going well for me and mine. I'm packing up this cottage by the ocean we have spent the past month in, heading to a cabin in the mountains so I can more easily navigate an interstate move in the middle of a pandemic.
It may take a moment to start properly, but another fire sign trait is to just jump in where you are and figure out the details as needed. 

Mistress Cassidy is a Professional...

She can do things you can't do.
Were you a fan of or did you create fans of Curious George? I loved that disclaimer. George is a monkey, he can do things you can't do. I personally heard it as a challenge not a warning, but all the same, clever disclaimer.

Did I mention how right before the universe went all wonky, I got to see my top? Oh, did I really mention it 100 times already? Sorry, I am prone to repetition.

In the alley over by the curb he said tell me what's your name, she only said the words again and it started to rain.

There's such a big hint, but still I don't think any of my readers are astute enough to catch the reference. Prove me wrong, I double dog dare ya.

I want to share the story. Also, I want to hold the moment private. I wish there were pictures. Also, I'd never ever share them. I don't think I appeared all that sexy. Can't have that, well except when I can in these so terribly rare moments.

No one else was watching her, she didn't seem to care. So over and over she said the words until he could take no more. 

I edited the last post after I posted it. Only one person saw the original. My perception is biased, I wrote it, but I think the spot where the record skips is blatantly obvs.
I said a thing I question the ethics of saying out loud. Mistress Cassidy is a professional, she can do things you can't do.

The songs a year old, and it had been playing for months when he walked in the place...

I think it was in January when he sent the pictures. The message with it was short, to the point. I want to see you in something like this pet. He doesn't often make requests of me. He's busy. I am busy. He's pragmatic. I have a handful of very simple standing directives, we touch base when we can, and 99% of my universe spins with his influence touching all of it and his presence completely absent. I love the moments when he makes a small request of me.

There's a long story that would explain why, it doesn't matter. He asked me to do a thing, I intended to do a thing, but in the end I did not do the thing. I forget sometimes how it works on the other side of the flogger. Mistress Cassidy follows through on what she says she will do with oh 97.5% accuracy. On the rare occasion I do not, a sub can get right over it. I am busy. My plate is full. I am a top, it is my prerogative to not do a thing even if I said I would. My 97.5% accuracy is about my ocd nature, not about my obligations to you. You are fortunate to serve a top with such a compulsion. Inquire how else you may lighten my day on that rare occasion I do not do a thing I said I would do.
Mistress Cassidy did not do a thing, then she stepped off the porch of the magical little cottage in the woods to hug and greet her top, and she was spun around and reminded, rather intensely that in this space she is not Mistress Cassidy and not doing as one is told has consequences. 

 I'm going to share the story. You want to hear it, don't you? Either I am going to go live on OnlyFans, and share it bedtime story style, possibly with reenactments of some moments that would be better with a visual aid. Or I am going to share it in installments. Create some photos to serve as our visual aids, and tell it one paragraph at a time, which is all OnlyFans allows for word based erotica. Watch for it, I'm not committing to when it'll be done, only that it will be done.

Let's Overshare

It's a thing I do.
It's a thing I love to do.
Exhibitionist, I feel like I have mentioned that once or twice.
You should look at me. I am not this bright and beautiful so that I might fade away unseen.
I am, in my best moments, that full of myself. Not every moment is my best, but I do have more of those moments than not-those-moments.
I love OnlyFans. I have said that once or twice here too I think.
I follow, for free, many creators on OnlyFans. And I, an attractive woman with no shortage of would-be suitors, pay for porn (typically, I prefer to make that sound more refined & say erotica)  that I enjoy, thoroughly, on OnlyFans.
Now I have shared all these wholesome, silly, things that turn me on before. I love striped shirts. I have a thing for driving. I love teeth that are just shy of perfect, Bowie's original set not the replacements that came later.
Know what else I like? Hmm- am I really going to say such things here? My fingers are dancing, and I think I just might. Let's not scare the new explorers, let's just say my tastes lean to the intense.
I like erotica that mimics what I like. Don't we all? I like authentic looking, extreme play, between real looking people. Who are...completely, totally, absolutely, there is no question about it, into what they are doing. What I need or the moment is worse than gone, is knowing, absolutely everyone present choose to be there.
I do not doubt the numbers related to trafficking. In no way do I intend to minimize the seriousness and aprehensible nature of it. As a professional in the adult industry the contempt I hold for those who invade my community and engage in deplorable things I suspect is higher than average. As a professional in the adult industry for almost 30 years, I have probably met around a thousand other adult workers. I know a couple hundred currently. I have never met someone who was here against their will. Fuck, I have known & worried about dozens who have left the industry reluctantly when they met their Mr Right.
OnlyFans and platforms like it give consumers who are not industry experts the ability to see, and to know, that the content they are enjoying was enjoyed by the creator/s.
I gave two of my besties free subscriptions to my OnlyFans last night. I have given away quite a few follows this week. Now this isn't because I am independently wealthy or allergic to being paid for my work. But because I have now seen how obscure OnlyFans is to those outside of the creator-invested hobbiest matrix. Neither of my friends are vanilla, hello they're my friends. Despite seeing my promotions of it, they were both not quite sure how it worked or if it would be a forum that had things for them. It is not exclusively BDSM themed content, I'd say BDSM creators are in the minority actually.  There is content to match most fantasy wishlists, and the ability to interact with creators to request, suggest, or beg for, if that's your thing, what you're hoping to find. 

Are you an adult? Do you have some adult fantasies? Are you kind of trapped right now with too much time on your hands? But also with too much on your mind? Wanna check out for an hour or two? Want to have a little private time in a completely safe manner with creators who love whatever it is you've imagined more times than we can count? 

Now it's a little tricky to just find the creator match for you. OnlyFans isn't like other social media sites. What you can do though is pop on Twitter or Fetlife. Instagram doesn't like OnlyFans so remember: fuck Insta & their Judgy McJudgerson face. Pop on Twitter or Fet, search for OnlyFans, then when you access any collection of creators, browse their posts. When you find the one or many that speak to you, follow their links and subscribe to their accounts. Here, let me give you some insider hints. Smash the heart on the posts you like, comment on the ones you really like. Did you cum? You dirty boy, you naughty girl, tip the performer now. It is what let's us know what our viewers enjoy. Obviously everything we are putting out are things we enjoy, things we want to share. But at the end of the day my love of Bowie's mouth can stay in my private spank bank, if what you most want to see & hear about is that time my top said, get in the fucking car.  I will not feel even a little bit put out if you ask me to replay that moment again and again.

I have a present for you. I don't remember how many are left on that link. But a couple of you can check out my OnlyFans for free with that link for 7 days. I'm toying with creating 50 or 100, 1 day free access codes. So if you catch this week long one, you're so lucky & perhaps you should play the lottery today too.
And for those who do not want to leave their sexy time up to fate. I have a gift for you too. That link will give you a full 30 day subscription for half off. I am uploading new content and favorites from my personal collection daily. And when I hit the new followers goal I set for this week, I have something extra special planned.

And to my readers who are creators also. Thank you for hanging til the end, I know you are busy. I've floated a couple ideas that haven't found ports yet. This is a thing, I've probably said it to you before. Our audiences do not know how to find us. They don't get how the site works. We need to promote together, and we need to educate our fans. I don't have to be the director, although it is a role I know well. I am more than happy to give my energy to the ideas you have for getting our brands to our fans. This is a challenging time, absolutely. But challenges are not a thing to shrink from, they are when we are called to grow and become better.