Vanilla Q&A

It pleases me to say that Mistress Cassidy has answered some more of my questions. This time I left the dungeon and asked Mistress somethings about herself. I have to applaud and thank Ms. Cassidy on her openness this time around. Once again, I hope you enjoy reading Ma'am answers as much as I did, bringing them to you. So let's hand this blog back to Mistress Cassidy.
You mentioned you like getting flowers. Does Mistress have a green thumb?
This year the season got away from me and all I got in the ground were some flowers, mint & tomatoes. I love gardening and I am absolutely horrible at it. I over water & underwater and touch plants too much as they grow.

 (I wonder if this is the reason Ma'am plants are having a watering problem?) *post finish by Mistress, no slave allan Mistress doesn't get distracted by men in watering cans. Mistress doesn't get distracted by men, remember? 

 I forget to double check what should be grown near each other and what should be kept apart. I've been actively fucking up plants for oh 15 years or so now, but every season I learn something that sticks and I'm a little better than I was the season before. 
                                               

What kind of plants or flowers does Mistress enjoy?

 My favorite flowers for displaying would be orange roses. I have no idea why, but it seems to me that orange roses last longer and open up more beautifully than any other. I love sunflowers, and most years I have a huge towering array of them. I love mint (especially lemon balm), crocuses, irises, morning glories, oh right love all the flowers and there are too many to list.
          

In your last entry, you mentioned you like anything with water. Have you ever scuba dived, parasailed, water skied, or white water rafting?
OK, maybe I shouldn't have said everything water. I love tanning, swimming, floating and boating. Fresh, salt or poolside. I tried water skiing once. I had dagger length sculptured nails at the time, when the boat pulled me up I lost the handle and ripped 3 nails off at the base. I bled horrifically and thought I had broken my fingers. I haven't worked up the nerve to try again, but I do have natural nails now so maybe next summer.
Is Mistress a camper, or does a holiday entail a roof and room service and an indoor washroom?
That's a funny question. I am frequently reminded by my friends that I use to say "I pay a lot of money to live in a beautiful home, why would I want to pretend to be homeless for a vacation?". Now, my current life goal is to buy a campground in the next 5 years. I met someone who I so enjoyed spending time with that I agreed to go camping with him, and it was such an amazing time that I've spent nearly 2 decades with him and we camp every chance we get. Oh look at that, Mistress gave a slightly wider peek at my vanilla world than I am typically inclined to.
          


Which would best match Mistress's personality? A house with a picket fence, or a condo in a high-rise with a view?
I've had both, and neither works for me. Although I will acknowledge that the condo life had the least amount of work associated with it & at the time it was precisely what I needed. The picket fence, the suburban dream,had far more noise and nonsense than I have the patience for.  A farmhouse with wrap around porch is what I am looking for now.
                

If Mistress permits it, I will do an online task for the first fan who can identify this farmhouse.
                                   

*Mistress Cassidy again, I know that house. 

Does Mistress have a sport she considers herself a fan of?

Oh, gods no. I am not a competitive person. I'm just not wired that way, and I can't wrap my mind around giving hours of my time to watch other people compete. I played basketball as a kid, and I will engage in a friendly game whenever I come across a hoop. But watching others sweat with clothes on is not a fetish of mine.

Who is Mistress's favorite comedian?
George Carlin was my favorite. Here we go again with a totally mundane question making Mistress sad.
           
You mentioned that Mistress has sensitive feet, but is Mistress ticklish?
I am moderately ticklish and I am neither opposed to tickling nor am I overly into it.

If I was a tourist visiting your area. What are some of the points of interest, that you personally think is worth seeing? (Other than your dungeon :)
I'm going to consider all of New England my area and say there is just too much to see, one should plan on staying a long time. There's all the obvious places, the New England Aquarium, the Boston Museum of Science, and all of the Children's museums- Boston, Providence, Portland, the Eric Carle Museum out in Amherst and at least 6 more that I am forgetting. The Ecotarium in Worcester. Faneuil Hall. Newport beaches, the Newport mansions, and Bretton Park. Woods Hole and Martha's Vineyard. Oh, and I didn't even mention anything in NH or Vermont! But you shouldn't do any of these things without a local guide. All of these places have a little place nearby to get the best *insert yummy style food here* spots. When you go to the Ecotarium, you should go to the Eggroll Lady for fried clams. When you go to the Aquarium you buzz over a few streets for the best sushi, no idea what the name of the place is & I couldn't give you directions. My feet know the way, that's how you get there. And if there isn't a tried and true established place to eat, there is a quiet corner that is where you picnic.
          

I once again wish to thank Mistress Cassidy for her time and her candor. I look forward to our next question and answer session, which I believe will dive back into the scene lifestyle. So this is an invitation to all of Mistress's fans to return for that. Once again if I made any mistakes, please point them out to Mistress so she can correct me, and we can all have a more enjoyable time reading.

                                                                               slave allan

Special Rate on 2 Hour Sessions

Mistress has a special treat to share with her mute blog-reading friends first...
In the vanilla world Mistress is house hunting. The goal is to be settled into my new place before my birthday in November. My schedule has been moderately busy, but truthfully I need it be very busy for at least a couple weeks. So I hit the drawing board to see where I could focus to turn up the volume. My ads are running. I'm posting here regularly. I've increased the time I spend on sites like Fetlife & Kinky-Social. I've had a string of new & super fun subbies in the past few weeks, but still not quite as busy as I'd like. And more than not as busy as I'd like, not using my time as effectively as I'd like. My tribute has always reflected that I prefer longer sessions. An hour with a new subbie is just not long enough to establish the right rhythm and enjoy it once it has been found. For most sessions, with new friends or old, two hours really is the right the length. It allows time to catch up or get acquainted. We can move from one idea to the next at a relaxed pace, savoring each component rather than rush between ideas trying to get a sampling of all that I offer. My commute to the studio, my setup time and my clean up time remain the same regardless of the time spent in the session.
I appreciate that sessioning is a luxury service and that it is a financial sacrifice for most of my clients. If you're curious about the types of subs I see, the vast majority are, like myself, owners of small to moderate businesses that they actively work, independent contractors in various fields. I very much enjoy the company of these clients.
So how do I encourage my subbies to book the longer sessions I prefer, while staying within their budgets? I'm lowering my tribute for two-hour sessions. I'm not sure how long I will run this special for, it is not a permanent change. But if you schedule a two-hour session while I am running this special, the special rate will remain your 2-hour rate for as long we session together. It is for a 2-hour session ONLY, but it applies to all the sessions I offer. And the number is.... $350. A hundred off my regular two-hour rate. I will commit to offering it to at least the first 10 responders I have, the pace that takes will determine if I run it longer.
I'm giving my mute friends here the first opportunity to schedule their sessions at this rate. Tomorrow I'll start promoting it on other sites.

Thoughts on Being a Dominatrix and slave allan's Latest Post

I have added a new component to my long distance slave allan's training. He was given the option of sharing it in his blog and opted to do so. The post can be found here: slave allan. It's a rather more vulnerable post than what followers of his blog might normally see. When I read it to approve it before posting, I realized it was a sharable moment in someone else's words that illustrates why I love what I do.
It isn't that I have a particular interest in dictating one's diet or activity level. I am not a professional dietician or fitness trainer, which of course slave allan is aware of. My interest, what thrills me about being a Dominatrix, at the risk of sounding a little new-agey- woo-hoo, is that my subs will show me their soul. Maybe it's an extreme form of voyeurism, but that is what excites me to witness. It happens in the vanilla world occasionally. If you push, if you really engage with the people you meet, sometimes they'll share something deeper than the weather with you, but it is so rare. Even with the people you're closest to; we all have our baggage. Everyone has some, completely reasonable, self-preservation barriers that they keep up.
I'm a huge fan of Ann Rice. In her version of vampirism, vampires can hear each other's thoughts, unless it is a vampire one has made. I read Interview with a Vampire the first time when I was seventeen. I remember being unable to suspend belief and accept that as part of the story. How can that be how it works? The people one is closest to, shouldn't they be the ones who can hear you the loudest? Know you the best? Magical, mythical creatures of extraordinary abilities and they can't hear if their offspring loves them or loathes them. It just seemed unbelievable to me, and wise 17 year old me was certain that's not how life worked.
But it is, isn't it? We can not read anyone's mind of course, but we hold back what we are passionate about, what inspires us, sometimes even from the people who stir that passion or inspire us directly.
As a dominatrix, strangers share their souls with me. Typically it is only a glimpse, my hubris is not so great as to believe that I see all of who they are either, but it does tend to be the glimpse that they share with few if any others. In my dungeon, things that can not be put into words are articulated and brought to life.